| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:27:23 AM | I had a first meeting with a gentleman from POF. Because of our work schedules we met right after work. I was wearing a dress and heels with a jacket. He knew I was coming straight from work.
After drinks and dinner he said he was attracted to me but I shouldn't put so much time and effort into my appearance. He said he needed to think about seeing me again. he felt I was overdresed for a first date/meeting.
Is it possible to be over dressed? | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:31:43 AM | No -- and he doesn't understand women if he said that.
I personally appriciate a woman that takes time for their appearance. It shows a bit of class, that you take pride in yourself and aren't a half-wit.
This is of course assuming you didn't use a gallon of eye liner. (I don't get the feeling you did)
So, for a date it is not possiable to be overdressed.
Now -- if you come to bed -- it's possiable --loose everything but the shoes.
Have a nice day. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:34:38 AM | where you wearing the same kinda outfit you would wear any other day at work...or did you do a little more?
did you feel thatn you were over dressed for the place you all went to for drinks?
no...it shouldnt mater how fancy you were dressed, he should have appreciated that you looked niec and that you showed up at all...go figure, you cant please everybody. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:38:36 AM | where you wearing the same kinda outfit you would wear any other day at work...or did you do a little more?
did you feel thatn you were over dressed for the place you all went to for drinks?
I wore just what I would have worn to work any other day, I didn't make any changes.
It was a higher end place so I felt I was dressed appropriately for where we were. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 11:40:46 AM | His self-confidence was not up to your appearance. You looked too good for him. Had he been up to snuff he would have complimented you instead of criticizing you. How many times do you hear "up to snuff" anymore? And why not?
He was outgunned so he ran away. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:15:14 PM | If you're in full evening wear at McDonalds, yeah, maybe. If you're in something nice, at the club, then nothing wrong with it.
The guy sounds like he was just looking for an easy out. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:21:07 PM | Agree with the above.
He was probably just looking for an easy excuse to say nice to meet you , you seem great , but good bye. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:22:33 PM | | I agree with humungo.......he has self-esteem issues and if he didn't he would have been "wow" am I lucky to be sitting here with this lady. You were not in his league and he is trying to bow out.... | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:24:26 PM | I said after we had drinks "It's ok if you aren't attracted to me. We can have a nice drink, a nice conversation and part ways. Leave each other a nice testimonial and be done with it. "
I'm a grown woman , I realize not every hetero man is going to be attracted to me.
He assured me he was attracted and wanted to have dinner. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:27:22 PM | Oh hun,if he wants overdressed,come take a walk through my closet.
I have enough rhinestones,feathers and lame to make the best drag queens on earth jealous...Ha ha ha
I wish people would learn to look past the exterior of things like fabric and deal with the minds behind the wardrobes.... | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:32:57 PM | | That was just an easy out..... He needed to find some fault to justify lack of connection. I would surely think that it was explained to him that you were just coming from work.... | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:42:33 PM | It is possible to be overdressed. For example: A walk on the sand of a beach does not work well with a dress and heels.
In your case: You didn't do anything wrong. He is just executing a power play. Maybe you need to think about seeing him again before deciding to continue dating such a crappy dresser. It is also within your right to question his sexuality for focusing so strictly on your attire.
Attraction extends beyond the wardrobe. I have dated a few women who wore tarnished clothing because they disagreed with America's culture of consumption and wastefulness. I admired them for being comfortable in what they wore because I admire the cause. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:13:24 PM | OP, if his only reason for having to think about seeing you again was because of the way you were dressed, it sounds to me like he has some issues. I mean, you were coming from work and assuming you're not a hooker/street walker, I don't see where you did anything wrong. Hey, the guy should be glad that you don't work in a steel mill! 
BTW, how was HE dressed? Appropriately for the place you were? | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:18:42 PM | He was wearing a suit, just came from work. Completely appropriate for where we were.
I am not going to see him again, I am really just curious is it possible to be over dressed for a first meeting. I got the best advice from a mentor of mine years ago. She said when you go to work, no matter how long you have been there ,always dress like you are going for an interview. In a way you are being interviewed for your next promotion.
If the first meeting had been to go on a hike or fishing, I wouldn't have been wearing a dress. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:25:49 PM | | He knew that you were going to a nice place, you were going straight from work and judging by your profile he knew that you work in sales. Now unless you are working at a dollar store which you probly are not then he should have expected you to be dressed the way that you did. Just be glad that it was only drinks and dinner, his loss. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:41:10 PM | Of course being dressed wrong for a job interiew will and can get one laughed at. Really can you see a guy going to interview for a carpenter job in a 3 piece suit his job being a laborer??
Or maybe this guy you had met was a carpenter or factory line worker that wore jeans.
But really you came from work dressed as you do for your job which is normal. Some people just don't want to be around grubby types or don't want to be in the suit and tie crowd. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 2:34:48 PM | Sounds like you were out of his league & he was intimidated. Me- I wear dresses on dinner dates. If a guy wants me to wear jeans then he should take me horse back riding.
Wear a dress whenever you can & let them worry about being under dressed, or being intimidated. As for him thinking about dating you again, well my my my aren't you fortunate to have this man think you are soooooo desperate that he can actually put down your appearence & you would so willingly date him again. me rolling my eyes. | |
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| Is there such a thing as over dressed?
Posted: 3/18/2009 3:15:49 PM | You were dressed appropriately.
The only thing I can think of is an old GF. She needed at least 24 hours notice before we went anywhere so she could get ready. She was too high maintenance for my tastes and we went our separate ways. Maybe the guy was thinking something similar. | |
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