| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 3:35:47 PM | I have rewritten my profile in the hopes that it will give a fair reflection of the type of person I am. I have gotten some views, but I just can't seem to attract any responses to my emails, or get any emails. Can you tell me what is wrong with my profile? Please be gentle I am a cherry when it comes to online dating, and am quickly becoming disillusioned with the whole venture.
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:02:01 PM | for your consideration:
1. nix the random info list. lists aren't all engaging. and why would you want to share random things about yourself. the idea is to be specific so that a woman can get a sense of what you're like.
2. i'd say more about what you're looking for in a relationship focusing the way you are in a relationship. for instance, i recently read in someone's profile that he was looking for the kind of connection with a woman that would make her the first person he'd call when something great happened. i think it communicated a lot.
3. try to state everything in the positive
4. perhaps it would be worth it to keep reading posts in this forum and look carefully at the profiles that get good feedback. what's the difference between what's communicated in a well received profile and yours.
5. and finally, be really specific in your email titles and content about what in a woman's profile made you want to reach out. i love it when someone really shows that he read my profile. i'm much more likely to give him a chance (though respond politely to everyone)
that's my feedback. good luck to you. | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:06:32 PM | | You profile looks pretty honest to me. I might suggest posting a profile picture of you taken outside. I always tend to be drawn to outdoors pictures when I'm browsing. | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:23:35 PM | Well Dr. Troy, the first thing I noticed was that your photos are too dark. Is there any way you could lighten them up in Photoshop? It appears that you had a photo Op in your office with the blue shirt. Perhaps you could replace a couple of them with outdoor photos?
I notice you state you are interested in dating women as young as 18. That's less than half your age, and young enough to be your daughter. You've got quite a wide range in ages in your preference.
Your profile tells us a lot about you. Some of your talents are quite unique, especially your fluency in Chinese. However, there are a few things that I feel could be deleted:
I will not tell you that I am intelligent, witty, handsome, caring, giving, funny etc..., because I feel such praise is only informative and meaningful when it comes from other people.
OK, then don't tell us. Just leave it out.
Same with this:
All I can say is that I try to be honest with myself and others, and I try not to take myself too seriously (Ok...I'm kidding:))
Yeah, you and 99% of the population....
Your "first date" section is wonderful and so eloquently written, but you start off by over-analyzing it. This particular sentence is not news to anyone and wastes valuable space. Would delete it:
They should be something that is either fun or alleviates the tension of meeting a total stranger.
Personally, I think it would be fun to take you to a GOOD Chinese restaurant so you could translate everything on the menu!
Back to the drawing board.....XV | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:47:16 PM | Your profile is definitely not vanilla. It is rather intriguing.
The only problem I see is in your mail settings. You are very limited on who can message you. Some of the mail settings seem ok, but if you take them off you might be surprised.
Best wishes in your search. | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:33:30 PM | From the English prof to the philosophy prof: Agh!
Other than that, xvermonter and ValleyKali are accurate in their assessments. | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:56:55 PM | | I don't know what you mean by "From the English prof to the philosophy prof: Agh!". I certainly never claimed to be an English professor. | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:04:44 PM | | this is steeler49 in phx az same with me never no reponses on pof but on tagged great profile i get so i cut pasteit still none CAN SOMEONE LOOK MINE SEE ANYTG WRONG PLZ CONTACT ME | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:05:57 PM | OP, you've been here only a week and you're already disillusioned? wow...
Anyhow, here are my thoughts about your profile.
List of random facts about you. Meh... interesting but it's like a laundry list. Pick the most interesting ones and expand on them. Like you speak fluent Chinese, how did that happen? lived/worked there? expand...
Photos. Please, we don't need to see a photo of you working out. Ok, we see your muscles but really... and two of the posed ones are enough.
Age range. I must admit that one threw me off a wee bit. By indicating a range, this means that you're open to meeting, and possibly have a relationship with, someone in that age range. So based on that logic... 18? You want to meet someone who is 18? Why on earth for? You're 47! I wouldn't be interested in someone your age looking to meet someone that young. I have a feeling that it is a huge factor in women not responding to you as if they have children, chances are that they have a daughter in that age range. It's totally creepy.
Clean your profile a bit, take some time to think about who you want to meet and perhaps put that on your profile as well. But change that age thing... | |
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| OK. Is my profile that vanilla?
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:08:49 PM | steeler49
i believe the rule is, if you want your profile evaluated, you have to create your own thread. asking on someone else's thread is considered hijacking. | |
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