| | Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | Hey, this is a post to anyone who has ever dated someone who is a workaholic..I am dating this guy and he works like 24/7 it seems. Since he works so much, i feel like i am bugging him whenever I contact him..has anyone ever had to deal with this problem? what did you do? Thanks for any input!! | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 1:57:04 PM | | I'm a workaholic and don't think I make anybody feel like they are bothering me.. Granted I'm not available most of the time and busy with my work but it is also why I'm not pursueing a relationship, for me wouldn't be fair for them. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 2:10:20 PM | | hey , i have been for a year...... seemed like he was always at work, i felt bad he had to work so much!! well last friday.. i went to see him kinda late and found him with another chick at his house!!' Well we werent"all that" but it still hurt me!! I had always said to him if he wanted to date someone else i would step aside. However he chose to try to keep both of us.That is my story... i never even expected it at all.Come to find out i guess it has been 2 months for them... i guess if i think back ,, patterns did change some and so did he. Good luck | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 3:05:32 PM | | I married a workaholic, but for me it was great, I was happier when he was gone. Besides we had an arrangement, he made the money and I controlled it. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 3:57:29 PM | I am a workaholic.
Though I have heard people say that they think they are bothering me. They aren't bothering me, and no, if I was dating a girl she would not find me with another girl. Especially try to keep them both, people are unpredictable, even those that are, there will be one time they show you different.
If I was dating a girl, and she felt like she was bothering me, she couldn't be. I take up Microsoft Operating Theme. I'm Multitasking. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 4:25:43 PM | __I am a workaholic. Not by choice. I would rather spend my time in company of a wonderful lady. In the mean time I will work very hard so when I do meet someone I will be in a position to take it easy at work and give her lots of my time.
__Note: I am a this moment on holiday. How am I spending my time? I do volunteer at a local Festival. Nine shift out of my ten days off. I need a lady real bad. Right?
Gilles | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 5:09:40 PM | | I wonder if someone who uses "Work" as an excuse is not all that into, but they have even convinced themselves that they are busy. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 5:56:54 PM | yes. it was lame.
you feel guilty for having to pull them away from their work (or they make you feel that way), and they see you as just another thing to schedule into their day. maybe not right away, but those issues will come up.
although, workaholics tend to "play hard" on their off-time, so that's always a pleasure. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 6/28/2005 6:02:45 PM | I'm a workaholic. When I"m busy best not bother me. When I"m free and that is usually very seldom then I like to take advantage of that and have fun.
You should talk about it, or
Deal with it and take advantage of the free time to mingle with family and friends.
My ex-husband couldn't deal with it. He wanted to live for the moment and spend as much as possible. I wanted to work towards the future, pay for the kids education, and then retire nicely and travel. Sucks to be him. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 7:07:08 AM | Yes, and I don't like them. If they can't find the time for me, why bother. I'm moving on. They waste my time and energy...
Leana | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 7:10:02 AM | I'm saying that, because I was married to one. He never found time for me, so I granted his a** a divorce. I had to get out of there. So, I prefer a man who doesn't work 24/7. Just a regular 9 to 5 with weekends off. That's what I want...
xo,
Leana | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 7:19:42 AM | Hey musicgurl,I have dated 2 workaholics. It sucks. Becuase they don't do it purposely but somehow you become 2nd to their job. Their hours suck & they work all the time. Then when they finally have free time they need to use it to sleep & are too busy to talk to you.
My only advice doll is talk to him. If he really cares he will find a way to make time. My guys found a day for me here or there ..but then eventually there was no time for me. And that is when the breaking up happens. Talk to him & tell him that you feel like you are in a relationship by yourself & IF he is worth it he will find a way to make time even if it's a day a week for a few hours.
Good luck!!!!!! | |
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w82b
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 8:23:20 AM | I was a workaholic for several years. I paid the price for being such... never again.
I work 40 hour weeks and am better off psychologically and emotionally. My children now see me a lot more.
If I were to meet a workaholic I would not consider a relationship with her. There are driving motivators that make a person that way and I wouldn't want to be burdened with it.
Sure... enjoy the benefits you reap as a workaholic, but I learned there was a price to be paid for my industriousness. Never again. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 10:04:26 AM | I've never heard of workahol.
I don't understand people who have the need to be working constantly. No offence to you folks who do. I've known many and they (the ones I've known) just don't seem to take the time to live, hardly have time for their g/f, spouse, kids and other people in their lives. A lady friend was the extreme of this but a good example. She never stood still. Always doing something, running to the store, had 3 jobs and only slept on breaks. She also carried 3 cell phones and would be lining up work on all 3 while driving (scarey as hell). She had a beautiful yard but was never home to sit and enjoy it. I always felt she was running from something and had to stay ahead so it couldn't catch her. If she ever did stop, she'd judder like a banjo string.
Mick | |
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w82b
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 1:46:02 PM | In my opinion a workaholic is no different than an alcoholic or drug addict.
A vice is a vice.
It's all about never being able to satisfy that need for diversion. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 7/10/2005 7:35:52 PM | My only issue is that if a girl says she's working / studying all the time, is she rejecting me and hinting that I should move on because she's "too busy"?
Or is she really honest-to-goodness too busy to hang out?
Why reply to the emails in the first place if you're just going to indicate that you're extremely busy?
A little confused. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 8/15/2011 4:27:40 PM | I realize this is a very old post, but may still be helpful to new searchers, so here goes... I met a WONDERFUL guy on another dating site a few months ago. He was bright, funny, romantic, interesting and handsome. We live a few miles apart and share many interests, goals and have similar values and sense of humors.
Our first date was a meet & greet that lasted 5 hours...we closed the restaurant and a few sweet smooches were enjoyed. We began text conversations and arranged a second date that he cancelled the day of, citing work conflicts. I thought little of this and wished him a good day.
He'd told me a funny story about a prior dating scenario wherein the woman, after having him cancel a few first dates, showed up completely inebriated...This was a red flag I ignored.
We eventually had our second date a few weeks after the cancellation and after I suggested that we table future dates until his schedule cleared, (I'd actually broken off with him due to lack of contact). I relented because he made it clear that he was VERY interested and able to date me. Communication increased and was more consistent.
Dates 2-4 were wonderful and the attraction quotient increased exponentially...I was hot for this guy and his kisses made me melt. I arranged an intimate wine tasting for us and wouldn't you know, he cancelled AGAIN the DAY OF...I was exceptionally hurt and upset, but took it in stride wishing him a great day and asking that he call me that evening so he could explain how he'd planned to make it up to me...flirty but firm.
I did not get a call, but began to replay prior conversations wherein he detailed a failed marriage that ended when he decided after 5 years that he did NOT want kids, although they'd both agreed on the timeline. I began to suspect that Mr. . Wonderful was Mr. Chronically Unavailable or worse, Mr. Disappointment.
I texted that I would have liked to hear from him, and since I didn't I thought it best to conclude things between us. His response was snide and really showed his true colors...No cursing but just the completely wrong attitude for someone who failed to keep a date that he'd confirmed then failed to even call.
I asked him what he was looking for and what he had to offer and he truly couldn't answer...I suspect he has deep fears about getting close and hides behind his desk...I told him that it was futile for me to stay because that would only make me dislike him even more and what sensible woman wants to be put in a position to argue with a perspective mate abo0ut earning money????
It's a loosing battle and frankly I'd rather use my time for loving my man up and building a relationship than feeling poorly alone or fighting for my dignity in a relationship with a man who cancels repeatedly for work. I'd like a man who can at least master a calendar....Being a priority is a priority in my romantic relationships and I'm not willing to concede in this area.
Sometimes dating a "workaholic" is just dating an emotionally insecure, intensely selfish and immature person who will never see you as anything other than "something to do" when they have a spare moment. In my experience, no one deserves to be treated this way. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 8/15/2011 6:11:50 PM | I dated a workaholic a few years ago, never again! In the beginning I wasn't even interested in him. He kept coming over to visit a few times a week. Eventually I began to like who he was and we started a year long relationship.
He worked 12 hour days, started at 6am, didn't get home until 6pm. After dinner he would immediately fall asleep.
Weekends, he would still be out the door at 6am working on any number of projects for other people, fixing their vehicles, etc. (Not for money.) Back home at 6pm and asleep again by 7.
He had 3 children and spent very little time with them although he never stopped criticizing how his ex was raising them.
I once asked him why he had time for me in the beginning. He said he made me a priority. I guess once he had me I no longer was.
I talked to his ex once and she said they split up because she never saw him.
You can't change people. Addiction is addiction. Work is no different than drugs/alcohol. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 8/15/2011 6:18:19 PM | | I am dating a work a holic, although it is somewhat not his choice, his job is very demanding. However, he has had opportunities to leave the job and didn't, so he must not hate it too much. The way that we have handled it is that much of his work is done from home, on the computer. He always wants me to hang out with him while he works, so I will watch a movie or tv and we still talk to each other while he is working. It doesn't bother me at all. I enjoy that time together too. And he says he really enjoys having me there while he works. So it works for us. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 9/10/2011 2:06:35 PM | I'm dating a workaholic now. He works 530-730 Monday through Saturday. I'm a single parent with 2-3 nights kid free.
By the time he gets off work and showers its, 830-9, and I make it work if he wants to hang out, but it's just too late.
We hang out once a week 2-3 hours, just because he's simply so exhausted.
He works in construciton so I know this won't be the norm forever, but am I willing to date someone I care about part-time for 9 months out of the year? I don't think so.
I have been sticking it out week after week though, simply because we have fun and laugh. He's very sweet too. But I've talked with him and told him I need more time, and he said he just cant give me more right now. It's not possible.
But it's very difficult. And it probably wont work for much longer. | |
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| Anyone ever gone out with a workaholic?
Posted: 9/10/2011 2:29:32 PM | | im a workaholic so yes i know what its like to be getting asked to do things all of the time..however if there is someone i really like a lot then i will find time.. if its someone im not really that fond of then i will work work work | |
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