| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:46:47 PM | name larry a 50 yr old. very nice good guy. never married or very long relationship .. i struggle in dating big time dont know why im great guy never do any bad things never a loser . if i meet hit off dosnt last long at all . think god dosnt want hv anybody lol .. i either cant keep interseted or rarly meet , most disapeer or get ON my im dont say anytg or ignore me help . lot freinds say tring to hard so gave up dont ansawer ads wait come to me .guess what none do or lv 1 messege then never again ..ok be NICE FEEDBACK   most time im fishing waitg for ms rite that keep talking to me | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:09:18 PM | look at the success stories - online dating is a hit or miss, depending on luck and timing as well.
finding mr/mrs right is a challenge, will always be a constant search but it doesnt have to be.
lot freinds say tring to hard so gave up dont ansawer ads wait come to me stop being on the mindset, searching for the one, it is exhausting and yet if you do, you will constantly get disappointed and angry, its better to be relax - don't search for it, don't look for it, just be YOU and be OPEN to it! | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:26:09 PM | | Azalea7 does have a point. It is much easier to communicate with someone who can spell correctly and use proper grammer. It might take more time to use a shift key and proper punctuation, but the results would be easier to read. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 7:31:46 PM | this is steeler49 .what u talk in about no mispeeled words gramer maybe but can get themessege all matters or missg out good guy and i stuggle i dont put that against somebody SO BE NICE OR DONT RESOND ANY NEGTIVTY KEEP YOURSELF/ only help plz /dont want here anytg about spelling or grammer i looked before sendg dont want here it  | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:36:30 PM | It's too bad you don't want to hear it because I am sure that's 75% of your problem!!!
The other 25% is calling yourself a nice guy. That's a turn off and rarely are self-proclaimed nice guys actually nice. | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:38:49 PM | | I also find you can't expect people to be nice to you in the forums. You gotta have a pretty thick skin to withstand the bluntness even if you don't want to see or hear the truth... As far as the ladies above, spelling/grammar does matter to people or else they won't take you seriously. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 7:42:58 PM | | my ad not that much wrong no mispeeled, if i saw be ok ..then why woman say want a good guy .but i do know bad boys do way better while good nice guys like me struggle .only want positive resonses plz | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 7:46:57 PM | You're posting drunk, aren't you.
Just for the record, I was talking waaay beyond spelling and grammar. How about coherence? That means like making sense and stuff. You know, one thought actually following the other? | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 7:51:02 PM | Steeler, you have to realize that your ad will be the very first chance you have to make an impression on someone. In real life, you might be able to make a great first impression with your wit, a warm smile, body language, etc.
However, with a profile, they have essentially two things to go by: your picture and how you present yourself. Presenting yourself also means, like in real life, a grasp of clear communication. As much as I hate to say it, your posts and your profile, are incredibly hard to read, follow or understand.
I feel like a jerk for asking this, but is English even your first language? Because given the way that you communicate on here, I have my doubts. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 8:12:12 PM | Well said, thatnickguy!
Azalea7, you're right. Good written communication goes beyond just spelling and grammar; there has to be a clear flow of thought for the reader to follow.
Steeler, nice guys also know how to accept and follow good advice. | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/21/2009 8:28:31 PM | I haven't found Mr. Right, just yet, nor am I looking for him, through some free dating site.
They say good things come to those, who wait.
Good luck to you, OP. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 10:15:55 PM | yes english no not a drunk good guy dont drink anfd plzzz tell whats wrong i dont see mispelled words ,isnt as long get the idea messege
ps i tried clean up my profile plz someone tell what to do why dont like doing these forums but wanna find whats wrong pss i did get a resonse of a good 1 tonite psss never a loser goodguynice | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 11:48:34 PM | OP...nobody is saying that you aren't a nice guy. You seem nice from your profile and you are looking at the best interest of your children when looking for a mate. However, your spelling and grammer are not very well presented. Several people have already told you this, yet you keep replying with the same grammer and spelling.
I have a few questions for you?
1. Is english your first language?...if the answer is no, then maybe you can get someone who speaks your language to help you post a proper profile.
2. Do you have a problem with reading and or writing? To me it seems that you seem to spell phonetically which means that you spell the way you hear the word. Its ok to have learning disibilities, again there are people that can help you.
This is not an attack on you. You seem to be looking for Ms. Right, but you need to fix your profile and learn to spell and write correctly. In person you might be a shining star, the life of the party, the "one" man of someones dreams..BUT..you need to figure out how to change your profile, so a little more character, poise, and seriousness need to come through, or you are going to remain lonely. If you need help ask for it...as a matter of fact message me and I will help you get a proper spelling profile up and running and then its all your job to take it from there....
I just gave from my heart with as much sensitivity as I could....I hope you are not being some smart a** who is playing games....
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Posted: 3/22/2009 3:30:37 AM | Steeler maybe some nice woman besides myself will help you write a better profile? I sent you a rewrite, use it if you want.
May I ask, is English your second language? And may I ask, what do you do for fun, where you might encounter nice women? Do you attend lectures? Like literature? Like sports?Having something of interest to talk about helps. Please do not give up. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2009 6:48:29 AM | | your writing is a disservice to who you are, but there may be some who can overlook it and see the real you. problem is, the internet is not the likely place for that to happen. perhaps if you develop an awareness that this is one of your "weaknesses" and be humble and somewhat apologetic when communicating through your writing, the person you write to might cut you some slack ..humility and an acceptance of one's limitations might make up for what you lack in english language skills... | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/22/2009 8:43:21 AM | Okay OP, you only want to hear positive things. Is that really going to change your life? Here are some suggestions I have for you:
1) You sound like your whining in your posts. You say to "please help you," etc. Women are usually turned off by whining. You have to take control of your life and be confident.
2) You say no games on your profile. Do you know what that says? That says to women that you've been messed around in the past and are carrying baggage. Leave that comment out of your message.
3) You say you have two kids and are available every other weekend. Are you ONLY available every other weekend? That may turn some women off because they want a relationship with a man, which cannot be had with just a little time.
4) You also say must the woman must like kid things. I understand that. But to me, thast would mean you planned to immediately introduce me to your kids. Not a good thing and probably scares women off.
5) I know you don't want to hear about the spelling and grammar, but do you want to know what's wrong, or do you just want us to tell you you're a good guy and poor you? The simple fact of the matter is your writing matters. You say all that matters is the message gets across. I could barely get the message. Had to read your opening post a few times to understand. You need to use sentences. Use a spell checker before writing messages. I can tell you that women are deleting your messages because of this.
So, try being confident. Women like confident men, not ones who walk around talking about how nice and good they are. Doesn't mean women want bad boys. They just don't want someone who is walking around saying poor, pitiful me. | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/22/2009 10:02:32 AM | How you present yourself always matters.
Requesting feedback and then limiting responses to "only positive feedback" isn't an attractive trait, or even a "nice guy" trait. But anyway, as per your request:
"You are an attractive guy and your profile is great. There isn't any reason why you shouldn't find a woman; any woman who doesn't fall for you is an idiot. The right woman will see you are a gem and will move heaven and earth to be with you."
There you go; feel better now? | |
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Posted: 3/22/2009 10:38:32 AM | You know, I'm going to be showing my geek side pretty strongly here (which is never really a problem, just fair warning... ;) ), but the OP's post reminded me of reading the Rorschach's Journal entries in the "Watchmen" graphic novel (which were translated quite nicely in the movie, by the way...): clipped sentences, short, and incomplete.
Generally speaking, OP, your post is coming off as a little bit "soft". While I'm not going to defend what seems to be a general feminine perception that a man ought not to ever be more emotional than, say, a toaster (at least in public; many ladies seem to love it if it's in private), you're seeming a little whiny, which probably isn't doing you much good on this site. What we write on the forums is saved and available for anyone to see who takes the time to look at it via clicking on the "History" link beneath our avatar. Likewise, your 5 most recent posts are shown on your profile for anyone to see. I've talked with people who have indicated that even if they never visit the forums, if they browse someone's profile who posts, they'll check out a few of their posts, then click that aforementioned history link to see all their posts. Sometimes this works in the person's favor, sometimes it doesn't, but if the person establishes a history of a certain kind of behavior (and other posters in this thread are indicating you've apparently done just that), that has an effect on a person's final determination on whether to communicate with you.
I'm going to have to disagree with the person who posted that putting "no one who plays games" indicates you have baggage, which is going to chase ladies away. Bottom line: more women than men put this on their profiles, and if a scientific survey were done, I'm sure that phrase or one of its permutations would be in the top 5 of things most commonly put in a lady's profile. I don't disagree with the sentiment, I merely disagree with the double standard. It's all or nothing, ladies: total equality, or none at all. 
Your ability to communicate coherently, OP, matters in an online milieu. Not only does it make it easier for someone to suss out what you're talking about, but for some (myself included; while I put it in a joking fashion on my profile, spelling and grammar does count, and someone who uses "u", "ur", "2", etc. is immediately put into the "deleted/blocked" file after I thank them for writing; I can't tolerate illiteracy born of laziness or trendiness), spelling matters, as does general grammar of a level that most public school 4th graders have mastered. Being able to communicate at least that well will go miles towards improving your chances of getting communication back on this site. | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/22/2009 11:26:48 AM | To those less familiar with online forums, I would like to present to you what is referred to as an Internet Troll.
Their biology makes them compelled to go to forums and start "flame wars" or incite arguments with those forum goers.
The best way to handle a Troll is to ignore them. Giving them any attention at all only ensures that the Troll is successful in his mission.
Good attention or bad, it's still attention and that's what they are after.
Now you are forewarned and better armed against Troll attacks.
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/22/2009 11:33:29 AM | | To The poster who helped the OP re-write his profile, I'm sure you meant well and were being helpful. I'm not sure if that will help him though or just make him look somewhat deceitful when he actually contacts people because his e-mail and profile will be night and day. | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/22/2009 1:40:18 PM |
no mispeeled words
Nothing misspelled eh?
gramer maybe
"what u talk in about" - you mean "what are you talking about"?
"but can get themessage all matter" - you mean "but they can get the message is all that matters"?
Spelling: atrocious.
Grammar: atrocioius.
Maybe "mr or ms right" wants someone who speaks english? | |
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| anybody else never ever find mr or ms rite
Posted: 3/23/2009 9:40:04 AM | Women do not want a jerk. They also do not want someone who compliments them to the point of which your words do not make them feel special. In other words, tell them compliments just enough to know you care because otherwise it might be a huge turn off. Another thing is that a woman can usualy tell an honest compliment from a fake compliment. (They are just as smart as you.)
Women want somebody who can take care of them and spoil them *every now and than.* If you spoil them to much, it feels fake.
In short sum of all that I am saying is be the 'nice guy', but don't be the "to nice guy". Provide and care for a women, but do not give them everything and give them them space to themselves sometimes.
Even doing all that isn't going to give you the specific woman you may be checking out, but that just means it's not meant to be. Don't keep messaging them or talking to them if they don't respond to you. Message them twice at the most, but DON'T BE A STALKER. If you are an obsessive person or you want someone to much, that is creepy and you probably have some issues that you need to work on before talking to anymore women.
That's the truth so take it and except it. | |
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