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 Truth09
Joined: 2/22/2009
Msg: 1
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how do you do it? I usually dont get off of work until midnight or later so that doesnt leave much to do at night besides going to the bar and that gets old really quick. Besides sites like this what else do you do?
 Paloma4u
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/24/2009 12:02:49 AM
I work from 11p-10a, so I know what you mean. You could meet someone at the gym (as you like to work out) or through friends, of course. I wouldn't look in a bar, as you are looking for the non-party girl. If you meet someone online- most people are pretty understanding of work schedules...if not, not the one for you. I found its a very good filter for those that aren't tolerate. You are a very good looking guy, who knows what he is looking for. You are way ahead of many in your age bracket. Good luck!
 Jim978
Joined: 7/15/2008
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/24/2009 4:22:58 AM
I'd recommend a forum search. This has been asked/answered/discussed numerous times (in the last month even!)
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/24/2009 2:55:57 PM
Several years ago, I had a 3pm-11pm job. Usually Monday-Friday. If the woman that I dating ( at the time ) had a job that was relatively close to where I lived or where I worked, I would sometimes go out with her for lunch.
 MandaKay
Joined: 3/14/2009
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/24/2009 3:00:57 PM
I work 3pm until 1am, and my days include every friday and saturday. Hard to date then. Sometimes they want to meet for lunch, which would be fine. But the meeting place is nearly always in downtown. I live 25 miles north. There's no point in me driving for a lunch, then going home and waiting until my shift, just to go drive back for work.
 lostintheshuffle
Joined: 5/8/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/3/2009 9:28:06 AM
My last gf was a second shifter. We just got together at midnight when she got off work. Then I'd wake up at 7:30 am and go to work myself while she slept til 2 pm.

It worked for us, until she had to wake up at 7:30 herself to go to school.
 no2ells01
Joined: 1/6/2010
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Posted: 1/27/2010 6:56:39 AM
From my experience one of the most difficult things regarding practicalities whilst dating and working a shift is finding someone who u can see when u have free time - I came across Dating All Hours www.datingallhours.com that might be able to help as it is aimed at people that are around varied hours and/or work a shift. Otherwise good luck with it and hope u find someone special
 AmoAngelus
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 1/27/2010 7:02:12 AM
I joined thi site when I worked 8pm-8am and had a similar problem. Iften wound up doing things at home. Gaming, eating in, film nights...
 clambroth
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/27/2010 8:20:24 AM
Weekends and holidays are about it
 artist_48
Joined: 1/27/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/27/2010 2:18:42 PM
disco bowling at midnight

lunar golf

parking with a view and no moon

i didnt read the respomses, but could you do things like meet for breakfast, lunch, etc

movies- matinees in the afternoon and a walk in the park

there are tons of things to do and I'm guessing you dont work 7 days a week?<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>

have a big time!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
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Posted: 1/27/2010 6:29:16 PM
ummm well I did it by this site.
:-)
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
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Posted: 1/28/2010 1:09:40 AM

I work til after midnight for 2+ years. A LOT of overtime. By Friday, I was EXHAUSTED, so weekends were the ONLY time I saw my boyfriend, at the time. Glad that's a thing of the past. Even though, I was fine with the hours, it was hell on my social life.



 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 1/28/2010 4:47:23 AM
~OT~ My status quo is to go to bed when everyone else is getting up and going on with their day. There are multiple reasons for my preference, and the subsequent change to my internal clock, but I'm happy this way. I suppose for those who work shifts, I'd be a good fit. Unfortunately? That would eat into my alone time, so I doubt I'd go that route. JMO
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 1/28/2010 7:59:46 PM
Surely you've got a day or two off - the weekend or some other days. You take advantage of them.

I don't work all that late but I do work evenings. Yeah, it sucks, interferes with my social life, and I complain. But I do the best I can with the time I have off.

I also let my friends know that I'm looking. I get out into different circles and try to meet new people with common interests so I'm not around the same group of folks all the time. If you've got time free during the day, find things to do & places to go where you might be able to interact with people who have common interests. There are other folks with weird schedules, too.
 Cedarwinds
Joined: 1/6/2010
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/29/2010 1:04:54 AM
Find a woman who also has these hours.
You might try a 24 hour gym. Of course that would mean you have to get work out, not just stand around and look confused.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
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Posted: 1/29/2010 10:44:45 AM
If I worked these hours and wanted to date....I would find a woman who either works these same hours, or can be there when I have time....
 witt2000
Joined: 2/3/2007
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Posted: 1/30/2010 9:37:59 PM
I didn't read all the others so sorry if this is a repeat. The best the schedule wise is someone who has similar hours. Outside of that there is always meeting for lunch. I mean she will have limited time as, which is good in case things go poorly, and it will be breakfast for you. I think for the 1st few meetings with a person luch works better anyway because there seems to be less pressue and it's safe (b/c it's not dark) and usually cheaper. Did someone say winner, winner?
 24DegreeAngel
Joined: 2/26/2007
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Posted: 1/31/2010 1:34:44 AM
I used to get off at 5pm and book it over to my ex's and we'd be together until they had to leave for work that started work at 11pm. Luckily the commuting distance we're talking about here was small... worked for us. We dated just fine like this... didn't even know they were on all nights for the first bit.
 WillM1973
Joined: 12/16/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 2/7/2010 6:36:01 AM
I do not work 2nd shift or third but I do work odd shifts that tend to botch up any meeting people plans. I tried to date several years ago, with one lady it was the fact that we never saw each other as one day is would be a 9am till 5pm (or later) shift the next day 3pm - 11pm (or later) shift. I have done that type of shift for the last 11yrs, up until this year.

Its hard now because I have been out of the loop of possibly finding someone to date.



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 6citygal1
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 20
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Posted: 2/7/2010 10:59:07 AM
I once dated a man that worked from 2pm-10pm Monday thru Friday. It was a minor problem in our relationship. We were still able to do things on weekends. Sometimes we hung out on Friday Nights after he got out of work or met up for lunch during the week.
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