| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:16:35 PM | I really wanted to post this in a place where the guys could answer this as well, but I wasn't really sure where that would be. None of the other forums seemed fitting. If there's a better place for this, please feel free to move it.
But I was just curious about this. How do you feel about two members of the opposite sex fighting over you? I had an incident last night that got me thinking.
In the past, I used to really enjoy this kind of thing. It was a nice little ego boost. But I've come to realize that I now find this kind of behavior really annoying. It just seems stupid and immature and makes me not want to talk to either of them.
I was wondering how most people feel about this. I know some people get off on the attention, but is anyone else honestly annoyed by this type of behavior? | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:20:40 PM | | What are the circumstances? Is it someone disrespected another person and the other one felt they were protecting them? Or do you mean a love triangle? If it's the first, it's understandable but most likely I would be able to handle myself. If it's the love triangle thing, I've never been involved in anything like that. NO man is worth fighting over. But if you must do that, book yourself as a guest on Jerry Springer. | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:28:33 PM | | Never been in the situation but it would be a little annoying. something i've always believe and everyone has their own view on this ... but if you really care and love someone, you'll just want them to be happy even if its not with you. | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:59:28 PM | | When two guys like you at the same time, and you like or love them both, it is heart breaking and horrible, not annoying unless there are no feelings there already. But in end i guess what ever one gets you is the one who faught the hardest, so was the one that liked you best :) but two girls fighting over you, i wouldnt date either of them, if you pick one, you will hear the nagging about the other one for the rest of your life, and every fight you have, she will likely say, well go be with so and so then, or you should have picked so and so then, or oh did so and so do it better, or is so and so better looking. okay the list goes on and on lol. but im sure you understand where that is going!! good luck | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/29/2009 6:14:30 PM | Yes, I find it very annoying! I can't stand that kind of drama and I've never really understood it either.
If you are dating more than one person, it is up to you to be honest about it. If there is a one-on-one relationship at hand, then its crazy for the 3rd wheel to get involved any longer. If its possible that you didn't make that perfectly clear to that person, you need to have another conversation.
I think my biggest issue is the fact that they both look like fools to me. Ultimately, I make up my own mind about who I am going to see and who gets left behind. So, whats the point of them clawing each other's eyes out or kicking each other's butts?
If you are like me, looking for a serious long-term relationship, don't play the field. It works better for me to focus on one person at a time. If it works, great. If not, its a simple "next" and move on.
If you do date more than one person at a time, try to make sure you don't invade the other person's space or normal hang out. When feelings get hurt, it seems to always ends up to be a fight or flight situation. Not worth it in my book!
Good luck! | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/30/2009 3:56:24 AM | | Sounds like you've grown up. It's childish to want two people to fight over you. I thought it was stupid when I was in highshool and I think it's stupid as a 33 year old woman. | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/30/2009 6:37:52 AM | This is annoying because chances are the woman has her own mind and can decide for herself who she wants, men not respecting that fact is just rude and immature.
Who said a woman has to chose? If there is no ring its fair game. | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/30/2009 7:01:17 AM |
How do you feel about two members of the opposite sex fighting over you?
I get off on it when it's done subtly and with skill. I like the chase, being pursued, being desired. If that makes me shallow, so be it.
The man I fell in love with was the interloper to a pre-existing relationship I was in. He was the perfect gentleman throughout the entire ordeal. He let me know that he thought I was beautiful and wonderful and would do anything to achieve my affection. He never once said an unkind or disparaging word about the other man. In fact, he established a tacit agreement with me that we wouldn't talk about him. This was smart, since I didn't want to bond with him based on conversations about someone who wouldn't be there should I end up with him. When I was with Bill, he showed me what life with Bill would be about, and it certainly wasn't going to be about talking about Scott.
The other fellow eventually stepped back and told me he didn't want to compete for me.
Well, I wanted a man who would compete with other men. I wanted a man who would brave insecurities and hurt feelings and ego blows in order to have me, because I can certainly dish out my own and didn't want to have to tip toe around his poor little feelers for a lifetime. I wanted a man who understood that I wanted a winner and that I was remaining somewhat passive in the situation because I wanted the man to be in charge. When I say, "What should I do?" and the response is, "Whatever you think is right dear" my only rebuttal is "Obviously what I thought was right was deferring to you, but you don't want that, therefore you do not want me."
He didn't do that. When I asked, "What should I do?" his reply was "Be with me, we're perfect for each other."
He was right. | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/30/2009 7:36:32 AM | I don't need the ego boost...to see two people you know and care (or cared) about arguing and perhaps coming to blows over you, is absolutely the worst thing on earth. Knowing that you caused that is just awful.
Then again, I'm a marshmallow and I hate to see anyone bothered, let alone hurt, emotionally or physically. | |
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| How do you feel about two people fighting over you?
Posted: 3/30/2009 9:06:26 AM | I'm stupid; Is this a bad thing/ or a good thing?
decisions/ decisions/ decisions... Me oh my if I were so lucky as this poor guy/
I 'd get some snacks/ the camera a nice easy chair and watch the peeps pull their hair.
Then say Frack it/ and consider them both losers for having the brains of a rock.
Anyone wanna play Frisbee? Arf ! Arf!
Is anything worth fighting over? 'Everything is negotiable'
peace
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