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Posted: 3/30/2009 10:40:21 AM | I have asked a few people I already know to review my profile on here and they all seem to like it. But they all have already known me for a long time and may not give the same opinion as someone reading this for the first time that does not know me. So I am asking for opinions on here. I have not had much luck in getting responses back from anyone I have emailed, and almost no one that has viewed my profile has emailed me either. So have at it, opinions please!
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Posted: 3/30/2009 10:50:22 AM | | I have seen a few good profiles that make fun of online cliches and it has worked....sarcastic seldom works... | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 10:54:39 AM | | Your headline and your first line will pretty much ensure you will be online a loonge time. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 11:24:56 AM | | Sorry - after reading 1/2 of the first paragraph I realised I was wasting my time as you ain't serious... Good Luck! | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 11:35:11 AM | IF you are truly serious:
Lose the first paragraph entirely. You come across as bitter and jaded. Isn't that attractive?
Lose the last sentence of the first paragraph and the last entire paragraph in the First date section. You see how that can be taken the wrong way? Why put negative ideas in their heads?
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Posted: 3/30/2009 12:14:00 PM | I am actually really surprised by these responses. The few people that have emailed me, and that I have actually met, have all told me that they wanted to get to know me because they really enjoyed the sarcasm of the first paragraph. As for the last sentence in the First Date area. Why is it wrong to ask someone to have some maturity and be honest? I can understand if I was being an ass and someone just wanted to out right stop talking to me. But if we go out, have fun, and I was a nice guy, I see nothing at all wrong with expecting someone to have enough maturity to tell me, at the very least in an email, that the spark was not there for them. Women hate when a guy just ignores them, I can't ask for the same respect the women would like to be shown to them?
And I will try some of the other suggestions mentioned here. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 12:47:25 PM | I can tell that you are a really nice fellow and I do so apologize if my statements in any way offended you.
I will explain myself by answering your last question first. Asking for respect doesn't mean that you will get it. In stating that you would hope that the girl tells you that there is no spark...you are actually planting the seed of negativity into the readers head. She will then subconsciously see that you do not feel that you are deservng of a good relationship, that you are expecting that there will be no sparks between you. Asking for someone mature and honest isn't wrong, but again, that brings in the belief that you have not had that in your life. It even brings in the idea of ...wait for it..."drama" or "games"
I am just trying to convey the idea that when she reads your profile, she should be subconscously be picturing: picnics in the park, volleyball games, beaches, rainbows, puppies and kittens, etc. She should NOT be thinking of your past failed relationships or the possibility of things not happening with you.
Easier way to explain that I just thought of:
When I drive up to McDonald's to get a cup of coffee in the morning and say "Thank you" the lady always says "No problem" and I drive away. Conversely, when I drive up to Chik-Fil-A to get a cup of coffee in the morning and say "Thank you" the lady always says "It was my pleasure" and I drive away. The last word that I hear at McD's is "problem" and the last word I hear at Chik-Fil-A is "pleasure" see it now?
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Posted: 3/30/2009 12:49:21 PM | Zguy,
First, you need more pictures of you and less vacation pics. A girl wants to check you out, not your camera skills. And lose the mirror picture...sheesh I hate those, they are a major turn off.
Although I understand and get the sarcasm ...it's still not very positive. And, though the few people that have contacted you enjoyed it...maybe you might like to have a few MORE dates and a few MORE contacts and I think you would if you were more positive. Sarcasm is VERY effective wit in person, not so much online.
Also, I agree with the other posters about the first date suggestion. You had some positive stuff there - I too HATE coffee dates and find it really annoying that people think they can't put an hour into a date. And I find the transition from ...gee, let's get out of here and go do something fun really awful. I'd rather do something fun in the first place and see where it goes. But that last line makes you sound like everyone you go out with lies to you about whether they want to do it again...which smells of desperation. And nobody likes desperation.
Ultimately, you should make changes that work for you because it's YOUR profile. But if you were sure it was great and you were getting what you want out of it, you'd be out dating instead of in here looking for a profile review.
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Posted: 3/30/2009 2:00:40 PM | | Just to start, you need more pictures of you. Your profile doesn't sound like someone people would want to talk to, making fun of online dating when here you are, online, trying to date. seems odd | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 2:17:12 PM | | In regards to the photos, not to be a jerk or anything, but I notice that you only have ONE picture of yourself. And about making fun of the online dating. I have a pretty sarcastic sense of humor, I enjoy witty banter and joking around. I wanted to put at least a little something in there to show that. And besides, don't a lot, if not most, of us poke at least a little fun at ourselves for being on such a site? | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 2:51:06 PM | | The pictures are not a big deal unless you had 1 face shot and a bunch of your pets and other stuff like some of the ladies do to hide their weight. You are right upfront with it. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 4:17:54 PM | | I made some of the suggested changes. Any other suggestions? | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 4:24:06 PM | | Tres bien mon ami!!!! NOW your showing your true colors. I like the revision - NOW you sound like someone I would message. Of course, that might not be your goal...lol. But I think it is much improved. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 4:54:00 PM | Well if you were closer! 
Anyway, thank you for the tips.
If anyone else has more they would like to see taken out, added in, changed, whatever. There is more I would like to say, but I don't want it overly long, and I am kind of feeling that as it stands its about at the limit of what someone wants to read. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 6:39:46 PM | | Hi! Hope you don't mind some critiziing from an older woman i'm 54 and wise i think. You talk much about yourself and not enough about the woman you would like to meet.It would be better for example if you said on your first date that somthing mutually agreed upon instead of bowling etc.It makes you seem unbendable and women don't like that. also be less talkative about what youv'e done and where youv'e been It make it seem like you are more interested in yourself than your partner.Perhaps you could say you have traveled a bit ,but would enjoy it more with a companion.Most people have some baggage including you. Perhaps if someone would become interested in you their past unhappy memories will become just that MEMORIES.and they will be happy to begin a new memory with you. (be a little softer and more compasionate.)you will come across more available to a greater number women.Good luck in your fishing | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 8:37:23 PM |
Hi! Hope you don't mind some critiziing from an older woman i'm 54 and wise i think. You talk much about yourself and not enough about the woman you would like to meet.It would be better for example if you said on your first date that somthing mutually agreed upon instead of bowling etc.It makes you seem unbendable and women don't like that. also be less talkative about what youv'e done and where youv'e been It make it seem like you are more interested in yourself than your partner.Perhaps you could say you have traveled a bit ,but would enjoy it more with a companion.Most people have some baggage including you. Perhaps if someone would become interested in you their past unhappy memories will become just that MEMORIES.and they will be happy to begin a new memory with you. (be a little softer and more compasionate.)you will come across more available to a greater number women.Good luck in your fishing
All the other posts I have read and made a lot of the changes that were suggested. However in this case I have to totally disagree with you. I think I talk about myself and the type of person I want to meet pretty equally. If I talk about the person I want to meet more, and not much about myself, and she reads my profile, how will she know if she wants to meet me? Unless she is going just by the picture. Talking about things I have done are the things I have enjoyed doing. If someone read that I have done all those things and hated every one of them, she most likely wont email me or reply if I email her. On the other hand if she reads that and she also enjoys that, she might think "Hmm, maybe I should say Hello" Finally, as for my suggestion of bowling or mini golf, they are just that, suggestions. Not written in stone or preordained, just options to "Just meet for coffee" Because honestly, if we are meeting, we have most likely exchanged a few emails, talked on the phone, etc. If after that you can't give me more time to get to know me then the time it take to drink a coffee or two, you are most likely not someone I want to meet. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 8:54:26 PM | This is the first version I've read and it seems adequate.
Might I suggest if your first paragraph is intended as sarcasm to either end with an exclamation mark or a  (although, the emoticons are annoying.......)
There are a couple of places that would make good natural breaks in the paragraphs. They are a bit daunting in their length - a few shorter ones (same info, just more spacing) would be easier to read for your viewer. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2009 12:24:08 PM | Zguy,
I agree with you on the first date thing. "Whatever you want to do or whatever we decide" is wishy washy. Everyone hates trying to decide what to do. You have some good ideas there and I wouldn't touch em. A woman is free to say "Gosh I'm terrible at minigolf, how about the dog park" and you are free to then respond with something that makes you sound wonderfully flexible.
I also know that a lot of people think you should put a lot about "who" you want to meet in your profile. I want to meet a real person, not someone trying to conform to what I want them to be. So I don't really go there a whole lot.
Let me know how the new profile works for ya!
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Posted: 10/11/2009 1:25:06 PM | Ziggerzzatguy4,
This site is a platinum mine. However if you live somewhere the girls are outnumbered ten to one that would suck. Street life beats pof hands down; when there are two thousand people on the streets within a mile of where you live join them - those girls aren't on pof. The prime age group is probably in the 28 to 48 group. Younger -- well you should be meeting people in other ways. Older -- a lot of us are up to something else. Its dating and towards long term, not lavalife.
That said,.. you have pyramids and beaches as profile pics?? You lecture us (and may have deleted your previous thread in an attempt to nuke my post).
The place works. All that's necessary is a few innocuous and maybe humorous things in your profile with 3 close, 3 medium and 2 long shot pics (80% of the deal). They should include something fun to join.
Why not try a new profile with only pics of you? Leave your existing one up. On the new one add as your text,
"I'm in prison outside Exeter over a minor mishap with the offshore banks. On weekends me and my buds go on outings.
I prefer green tee, long strands from old pottery. That's hard to find here and I just take my coffee black with four sugar. When we're on the town we don't wear the red and orange stripe suits but I'd like to keep mine, though I've another by Huggins and Burrows in blue and pinstripes. They're both excellent suits.
I'll be out in December, in the meantime I'm looking for visitors".
See how that works. If you've fewer responses with profile B I'll donate $10 to the Friends of Camilla fund. Really. | |
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