| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 3:41:36 PM | Hello All,
I just completed a sign up on Eharmony and got my first set of matches. There is one major caveate; you need a membership before contacting any members. Fair enough Right? Any reasonable merchant will want someone to pay for goods before taking, especially after seeing the product. This is where Eharmony dishes out a MAJOR red flag. On Eharmony, I can not see the photos of users who I got matched up with. Therefor, I have no idea what it is I am being sold. Eharmony, I have to see what it is you are selling. Also, Eharmony does not tell you if the other match is a paying member or not. I canceled Match.com years ago due to not knowing who to email and who not to. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 3:47:43 PM | I can't imagine any other type of business demanding payment in advance for something they haven't produced, or given the customer a chance to review.
You can find many similar complaints on the comsumeraffairs.com website | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 3:54:37 PM | Just say no. You did the free weekend thing, didn't cha? 
Here's the dillio...You get chosen by a computer. You cannot browse profiles. Most of the people are not members anymore, that is why a good majority do not have pictures up. Then the matches are in Bumblefook Timbuckthree. You mean to tell me, being in NYC (there's a few million peeps in this here city) that I would have to go 5000 miles to meet my harmony?
I fought them for a refund. They told me to take the test over. I did and I was like satan's daughter who liked to do strange sexual things with monkeys and ferrets. They refunded me real quick.  | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 4:38:21 PM |
I fought them for a refund. They told me to take the test over. I did and I was like satan's daughter who liked to do strange sexual things with monkeys and ferrets. They refunded me real quick.
I'm surprised they didn't match you with more men after uncovering that kernel of truth. Seriously, I know what you mean, if you don't fall within their parameters of an acceptable personality, you are deemed "unable to match at this time." Or in eHarmonyspeak is "for all eternity".
When I was on there it was the joke of the century. Never in a million years would I have dated any of these "matches" nor would they date me. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 5:26:15 PM |
I did and I was like satan's daughter who liked to do strange sexual things with monkeys and ferrets. No wonder I couldn't find a match there. They exclude using my requirements. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 5:30:33 PM | Yea I agree it's a total ad scam to get you to "buy now'. I did one of those once, paid for a one month membership, emailed a few women, got 0 responses. Interestingly enough the last day of my paid membership I got two different emails from women who were suddenly interested in me. Of course I'd have to renew my membership to return their emails.
It's a big business, big numbers game, all about making money off of YOU looking for someone. If you like, acutally find someone, well you wouldn't need to keep paying them would you? | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 5:39:40 PM | Well....my post isn't going to help matters any....and it's certainly not a plug for them.... but.... it's at least worth telling the story....
I have a really good friend who's son actually found his wife on that site. He is an anesthesiologist, she a nurse. And when he went to go meet her for the first time after a few months of the usual corresponding via various methods (interstate meeting actually...) he took his brother with him because he trusted his family to give an honest assessment. She knew that he was bringing him along and had no problems with it. They've been married for five years now, and are expecting their second kid.......who will be named Elisha Harmony...... sooooo... I guess it can happen anywhere.... | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 6:06:38 PM | I signed up with e-harmony and didn't meet a single person. Then they wanted me to sign up for another 6 months! I would like to know where they found the "couples" that are on their ads or if they really are "couple" introduced by e-harmony. It was a total waste of my money.
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 6:15:29 PM | Eharmony is a total ripoff. I think that if they are going to charge $60 a month (which is what it was a long time ago when I tried it for a month) IMO they owe it to you to ONLY send you "paid" matches. It's insane to pay that kind of money and then only get a bunch of yahoos who aren't even paid members so they can't respond to you if you try to contact them. Only about 1 person per week actually responded. Which brings up another thing...they were only sending me about 4 or 5 "matches" per WEEK. I lost interest, as I imagine most of the other people on there do after a few weeks of that.
And there is the whole "sight unseen" thing. I wouldn't do it. I never met anyone off Eharmony, because I only ever got past that stupid "million questions and answers" stage with anyone once...you have to go through this series of sending questions and answers back and forth, back and forth to each other. I think a lot of people lose intersest in bothering with that about halfway through the process. I only ever got to "open communication" with one person, and nothing ever came of that. Dude would NOT let me see a pic of him, and by the time you get to open communication with someone, it is TIME to give up the pictures. So I moved on...to basically nothing, which is what Eharmony has to offer.
Oh yeah, and those free weekends? I have never known anyone who ever got to the point of "open communication" with anyone during that "free" weekend. They will let you send "questions and answers" back and forth till the cows come home, but if you want to actually have a conversation with someone, your weekend will miraculously run out before you get to the point of being able to actually exchange email addresses and phone numbers...if you want to do that, you will have to pay come Monday morning! | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 7:02:12 PM | A girlfriend of mine found her man on eHarmony, so I decided to try it. It's truly a scam.
In the beginning, they send you matches (6 per day - and you have to view them, otherwise they won't send you any more) of guys who's membership have probably expired (I say this because when mine expired, they still kept on sending me matches, then the guys would close the match because I had not responded to their questions). HELLO, my account has expired - please DELETE my profile eharmony.
The free weekends are a joke as stated above and they are still trying to convince me to renew. When pigs fly I say, when pigs ...
You'll have more success (and fun) here.
Just my 2 cents,
MF | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 7:52:59 PM | I was on e-none-too-harmonious a few years ago(briefly).
After filling out their very long psychoanalytic profile questionaire from hell...
I finally got to see who I matched up with.
It was all Hispanic women.
Now I do like Hispanic women who are as attractive and cool as any other.
But I was surprised that was my only "choice".
No Asian, no Blacks, no whites.
I canceled.
To this day I do not know if my personality type is only suited for Hispanic women...
or if that was the only ones in their Soviet choice bin.
Seemed very soup-nazi to me.
You want girl? We choose girl!
Or no girl for you! | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 8:46:20 PM | I tryed a payed site before it was really cheap so I thought Ide give it a try.You payed somthing like $20 and they would charge you $1 for each contact.Responces where free after that.Cant lose right?Well I picked my deam girls as closely as I could and guess what?The same as read delet each time.lol.So wasted $20 but it was still cheap and worth the loss.But I will never go to a payed site agine.They try to sell you the idea that if you pay your more sirouse ,but the rejection is the same.lol.If you cant get a date on a free site like this one a payed site wont help much.lol | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 9:18:05 PM | They try to sell you the idea that if you pay your more sirouse
Hmmm, If a member pays they are seen as more serious. Interesting concept but I don't have the six bucks to blow.
Yeah, I tried E-harmony. I it wasn't very helpful for me to be matched up with men who may be psychologically compatible but don't like fat woman. Call me crazy but I think looks are important and I wanted men who would find me attractive. Not ones who would run screaming into the night as I approached.
By the way OP, that is sure a pretty kitty you got there. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 10:28:17 PM | Don't do it....don't sign up. Although, my ex hubby met his current wife on that website. Well, I was on it for a year (as a friend convinced me to try it for a year) and I didn't get one single date. Couldn't even get past the closed communications. Then I joined POF and my little fins are tired from all the options and I didn't even have to pay a cent. So now if things don't work out between myself and someone I date...well, I can't blame the dating site....I only have myself to blame .
Good luck OP..... | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 10:52:31 PM | | When I found out after joining this site that the pay sites all allow profiles of non-paying members, it was a real eye opener. I never tried EH, but when I tried Match five years ago my response rate to initial emails was somewhere between 5-10%. Here, where everyone can read your email and respond to you, it's somewhere around 50%. I've also read that the majority of profiles on pay sites are of non-paying members. That's free enterprise gone horribly wrong. The pay sites make guys like Bernie Madoff proud. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/30/2009 11:57:09 PM | | One thing to always remember is that for men, actually meeting someone online is like hoping for better weather by pissing into a martian dust storm. If you don't know how bad a martian dust storm is, just "Google" it and you will find out LOL!!! | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:25:05 AM | I wouldn't recommend any pay dating site, to anyone. I was on crap like Match.com, and True.com.
True was the worst. The fake profiles, winks, and whatever else they had. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 4:11:14 PM | I started to join Eharmony until I saw the $60. a month. I was on singlenet.com went on alot of dates and met someone, but it didn't work out!
I've been on Match.com, met alot of women there too. So, personally I think those are two good sites.
But True.com, no way, I filled out a profile, but didn't join...still get messages from them and there doesn't seem to be away to remove your profile, a friend of mine is having the same problem, can't remove his.
But Nothing beats POF, lots of nice people and damn good forums. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 4:51:35 PM | Why are you paying for this match making scam? I did this in my paid sites days but chucked it all.......because the people on Eharmony, match, yahoo....are also on the free sites too.
I tried the E-harmony thing...they matched me with people 50-75 miles away. Come on there should have been SOMEONE in close radius? I am not paying for the pleasure of chatting it up with someone who has things to do and not sure WHEN or WHERE we are going to meet? Because it's too far to meet someone and not expect anything out of it....(Sex?)
I am not paying for the privilege of being rejected after nine ..ten months of having a wonderful time...then get the "It's been fun and your one in a million..but I am not ready to get serious with anyone"..routine..and they jump back online with "Looking for THE ONE".
I am done with the whole shabang.... | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 5:05:15 PM |
I can not see the photos of users who I got matched up with.
You're really much better off for not having seen any photos. That site is where all the fuglies who have fallen back to believing in "inner beauty" as their salvation end up. One of the selling points they emphasize in their ads is their lack of profiles (presumably w/photos) which people browse. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:22:22 PM | | I was with E-Harmony for one month and wasn't happy with the slow way of meeting people. Like others have said many did not respond and many did not have pictures. I did meet two men and nothing was wrong with either man, one was a positive and the other we didn't click at all. I continue to talk to one that was positive but we haven't been on a 2nd meeting. I refuse to ever join another dating site if I have to pay. About a year ago I tried to join E-Harmony and was rejected so I tried again this year finding it is not what I expected and wish I was rejected again by them. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:33:04 PM | I agree that eHarmony is absolutely terrible. I was on there for a year and the people they matched me up with made me think they had thrown away my questions and just picked women at random. And what is up with matching me up with women who live 2000 miles from me?
And even if I did match with someone, the stupid process takes so darned long that either their account or mine would expire before we could even exchange e-mails.
A much better site is chemistry.com. I've been on that one for only two months and have already met several women. The idea is similar to eHarmony in that they match you up, but you get many more matches, the matches are much better, and you don't have to run through some ridiculous gauntlet before you can start exchanging e-mails.
I went on one date from that site last Sunday and am going on another next Saturday. | |
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