| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/30/2009 6:40:10 PM | | Hey what about guys that love you and leave you.....get what they want and puff disappear - hey guys, we are big girls, have the courtesy to say that you don't want to see us anymore....just don't not answer e-mails, texts and phone calls....that really sucks. What do you guys think about guys like that? | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/30/2009 7:34:49 PM | | With all due respect, maybe one needs to upgrade to a better quality of men and in the future do not ignore the warning signs. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/30/2009 9:49:09 PM | | Ugh i hate that its like they think that is nicer than just telling us they aren't interested.. I hate wondering what the hell is going on... | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/30/2009 10:19:00 PM | I don't know what guys think about guys like that but I think it is the great making of a country song....oh, wait it's been done.
Guys have been lovin us and leavin us for a century....hence broken hearts since the beginning of time. I think our expectations are too high when we expect the men who do this to provide us with closure. If they cared that much about us to begin with they wouldn't have loved us and left us. We then wouldn't need closure. Some things, we women, just have to Let Go and Let God! | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/30/2009 10:20:33 PM | | mostly it just avoids conflicts or having to explain why you don't want someone. Last thing I want to say to a woman is the things that made me not be attracted to them. Also I'm not sure but maybe they wanted something different in the bedroom? I'm not trying to sound sexist here, but being brutally honest. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/30/2009 11:38:20 PM | | You mean guys who screw you and leave you? Yes, it's rude, but that's what we get when we try to buy love with sex...Love was never part of that picture. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 1:32:20 AM | The main idea ladies is to not give them what they want......so soon. Then expect total loyalty and monogamy right off the bat.
Some guys do this too....it's the EGO talking. "I am such a good catch that she/he would never think about seeing anyone else again"........but then...
They do see others and it's really upsetting that your efforts does not keep him/her by your side.
Because there is a lot of competition out there and your best is just not good enough to keep him/her.
Don't give it up too fast....too soon... | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 4:38:35 AM | The answer is to not give up the a$$ until you are sure that a$$ is not the only thing the guy is after. This is a common phenomenon on POF and I shake my head at it.
Either don't give it up so early/easily or use your intuition a little better next time. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 8:05:41 AM | | Well I was with a guy for almost two years, he bought me a $500 diamond ring just to tell me how much he loves me and how he wants everything to work out, and 4 days later he dumped because he "didn't want a girlfriend". Four days after the breakup, he's got a new girlfriend. Tell me that's not loving you and leaving you... | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 8:12:46 AM | from personal experience, if you give it up right off the bat yes it is more than likely to happen. If I meet someone who I feel is fit right for me and who I can take to go meet my family then its ia keeper. if it is someone who I can not hold a lengthy conversation with then it is not a keeper.
But please keep in mind women do it too. if there is no friendship establish or your dating someone who has totally different viewpoints than you do trust me the relationship is NOT going to work. even if you guys enjoy having sex together. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 9:24:05 AM | | I think people (both men and women) who love em and leave em have some major issues...besides being rude! If they feel I am not worth keeping around, then they were just playing me all along and aren't worth my emotions. This is why a lot of people have problems with trusting in a relationship.... | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 9:44:28 AM | | First of all how long had you know them? Players will come on strong and promise the moon, take the love, and run. Really get to know a man first, if he is any count at all he will wait. Good luck. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 10:09:57 AM | If anyone comes up with a good answer and a way to recognize these types please let me learn it...I'm tired of them...The last man I was with for 3 years...He didn't want a full time girlfriend...but he just disappeared one day and nothing was said to me...He hated confrontations...HHHmmmm
He screwed around on his wife of 25yrs,his live-in of 4yrs, Ya think he would tell women sorry we are not compatible and I don't find you attractive anymore.. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 10:29:15 AM | I assume and I probably shoudn't do that but don't tell me - it was a one night stand???? Well, it's too bad you missed my posting of something I had here on the forums that got deleted.
If you want it, let me know and I'll send it to you via private email on here.
But yes, there are MANY men AND women out here who pull that shit. - you just have to watch the signs and keep your eyes and ears open. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 3:21:11 PM | | Some people (men and women) just do change their mind...! Usually something triggers it, sometimes they just get bored or don't even know why upfront - but usually they do...even if they can't explain it or maybe they're too cowardly to explain it, confront it or work on it. Some think they're saving you the trouble of anymore hurt by not elaborating on why they leave. They all have their reason but either way, if they leave (specially with no explaination)...most likely, they don't care anymore. Those who care, don't leave or if they do care and leave, they probably think they are doing something sacrificial like allowing you to meet someone better that you deserve...(such a BS line, lol). | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 4:36:49 PM | | Oh hey look. I'm really sorry about that. Was meaning to call. Had a graet time. Just been kinda busy. Oh BTW did I leave my watch on the night stand? Think you could drop it off if I gave you my address? And real name? | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:48:03 PM | somebody should tell the OP that she is nothing but a garden variety hypocrite. women have been doing that to men just as much as men have been doing it to women. and.....truth be known they probably think that men should accept that and not whine about it. typical women for ya!  | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:03:02 PM | | OP: I love guys like that. It makes guys like me look like a good catch. Same goes for the girls though. Had the same things happen to me... then I found my sweetie. Makes me appreciate the good person in her. | |
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| guys who love you and leave you
Posted: 4/1/2009 1:30:19 PM | I don't think the OP was claiming that it was only guys who did this sort of thing, she was just asking a question based, presumably, on her experience of a guy who did, and asking other guys what they think of this sort of behaviour. Perhaps to get some insight, from a male perspective, of what makes some guys behave like that. I know I would like to know, having experienced this myself - usual thing, seems a really nice honest genuine guy, different from the others, everything going along swimmingly, then 'bam', plans changed at last minute, no explanation, texts ignored etc etc. At the very least it's a bad manners, shows a lack of courage and is downright hurtful - and that's what I told him in my last text, ending with 'Goodbye'.
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want, so the best thing is to learn from it, and move on. I am now meeting people with a view to friendship only, and I have plenty of those. As for finding that 'special one'? No, and I am not looking. Why put all my eggs in one basket? Far too risky. | |
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