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 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 1
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It is when I see an ad online that reads, “My wrinkles were getting worse and I was feeling embarrassed and ashamed.”

Wrinkles come with age and are not something of which we should be ashamed. We are obsessed with youth, and many will buy into anything to make themselves appear younger. They spend thousands of dollars on “miracle” cures, trying to cure something that is not a disease. They make profiles on POF and come into forums to explain how people always think they are five or ten years younger.

I can understand why people want to soften the ravages of aging—I use a daily moisturizer—but to be ashamed of wrinkles is like being ashamed of having red hair or blue eyes. When I look in the mirror and keep a solemn face, my wrinkles are not very apparent, but when I smile, lines break out around my eyes and mouth. If I had NEVER smiled or laughed in my life, my face would be as smooth and wrinkle free as the skin on my stomach or back.

But what is a life spent not smiling? Is losing the ability to have facial expressions worth botoxing?

How far will YOU go to look young? Will you lie about your age, use botox, get a facelift? How much of the media crap do you buy into? Does anyone actually believe those ads about the miracle eradications?




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 CompletelyDone
Joined: 8/12/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/31/2009 3:13:52 PM
I dunno Gwen... I don't see any reason for a person not to be happy in their wrinkles but by the same token, I don't see any reason for a person to not want to be at their very best. What surprises me more is that you would get "ticked off" about it. How come?
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/31/2009 3:15:46 PM
If I had NEVER smiled or laughed in my life, my face would be as smooth and wrinkle free as the skin on my stomach or back.


I have great skin and indeed have laughed and smiled GREATLY in my life.

Now, that also includes the fact I have never smoked, drink little and avoid the sun.
 five-marie
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/31/2009 3:29:25 PM
I work with a lot of women. Funny thing is the ones most obsessed about their looks, look the worst. All that tanning has made them look 20 years older.
I smoke, drink, never use any kind of cream and at 52 can't see a wrinkle yet. People at work constantly comment on my skin.
It's all about genetics. And the sun like Irish Eyes said. Not something you can control so why worry about it?
 Landra
Joined: 9/10/2007
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Posted: 3/31/2009 3:32:04 PM
I don't really bother myself with what other people do, and since I worked in PR for many years, I know the media is nothing but spin when it comes to pushing "beauty" products. I love the tagline for Botox "Express yourself" LOL the irony is hilarious.

How far will I go?t I can't imagine injecting poison into my face or paying to have my skin carved up. But I eat right, exercise, use an inexpensive moisturizer and don't smoke, drink or sunburn.

People are obsessed with youth because they're really just afraid of dying. Looking older reminds them of their mortality.
 2Irish1
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/31/2009 4:39:19 PM
Queen Gwen,

You know that business tries to make us feel what ever they want just to entice us to purchase more and more... and now that I'm past what'll appear one my profile...let me tell you a dating experience...

I received an e-mail from someone I'd gone to school with...I am 52...and we were in grammer school together...well we met....she'd just had a boob job....botox face...complaining about her calfs...the next area of scientific improvement....an icecream cone and I was done...a little too over the top for me....anyway she's on POF listing her age as 45.... I'm not ticked off....just amused...
Irish
 Michaelann
Joined: 9/11/2004
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Posted: 3/31/2009 4:44:12 PM

How far will I go?t I can't imagine injecting poison into my face or paying to have my skin carved up. But I eat right, exercise, use an inexpensive moisturizer and don't smoke, drink or sunburn.

People are obsessed with youth because they're really just afraid of dying. Looking older reminds them of their mortality. - Landra


I think you are absolutely right, Landra. People are afraid of aging because they're afriad of dying.
 Mountain Geek
Joined: 2/5/2009
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Posted: 3/31/2009 5:11:18 PM

How far will YOU go to look young?


Just a skip over to the mirror where the most handsom man looks back and says good morning.

----Geek------ Seriously, we have to have very high self esteem and be our own cheer leaders -- because we are geeks and by definition "Not Fabio!"

OP: I wouldn't ask a woman to change -- age brings a natural beauty.
 JustAGirl0602
Joined: 2/6/2009
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Posted: 3/31/2009 5:15:24 PM
They aren't wrinkles.......they are character lines and if you don't have any at our age.......well, 'nough said!
 GreenEyesBlondeHair
Joined: 11/5/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/31/2009 5:17:26 PM
if someone wants a nip & tuck or some procedure & it makes them happy-fine..I feel sorry for those addicted to procedures though....

I got a facelift when I removed my pic from my profile
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/31/2009 5:22:49 PM
My mother was a gorgeous woman when she was young, and it was a curse. She had men falling all over her strictly because of how she looked. They never cared to get to know the person inside, who was even more special than her outward appearance. Therefore, to her her looks meant everything. As she became older she did everything she could to maintain her appearance, but age does take it's toll. She had a face lift, her eyes done, even a chemical peel (Yikes) to stave off looking older. She, like Marilyn Monroe, believed that was all anyone would be interested in from her. How terribly sad.

I learned a very important lesson from watching how terrified she was to get older. I learned that looks mean NOTHING! All of us will end up with wrinkles one day, or even worse, with a botched 'Kenny Rogers' facelift. No one remains gorgeous forever. I'm not afraid of looking older. No, I don't want to rush it, but I'm not afraid of it either. I'm 58. The only time I ever lied about me age was when I was under 21. I couldn't care less who knows my age or whether being 58 excludes me from some men's searches. I have laugh lines around my eyes because I LOVE to laugh. I love to be with others who laugh. I would never have botox and I can't imagine that I would undergo surgery to try and look younger either. Too much of a chance of coming out worse than when you went in. I want to age as gracefully and naturally as possible... like Kathryn Hepburn or Helen Hayes. And hopefully, the man I'm with will have failing eyesight and still see me as he did when we met. LOL
 *Don*
Joined: 1/30/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/31/2009 6:42:55 PM

How far will YOU go to look young? {original post}

I won't do anything ... nothing, nada, zilch. Not only that, but I've never been attracted to women with rubber boobies (my ex had them done and they look stooopid), or no age lines on her face. Heck, I think silver in a woman's hair is very sexy. People who don't look their age look unnatural and weird to me.

It takes all kinds of folks to make up the world and I'm not critical to what anyone believes with respect to this topic. But put me down under the "won't do a d*mn thing to make myself look young" group. And obviously, my 'dating match' would be a woman who feels the same. And yes ... she's out there.

D
 Malley
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 3/31/2009 6:47:07 PM
my wrinkles are not very apparent, but when I smile, lines break out around my eyes and mouth.

Ah, those wonderful laugh lines !!!
I worked hard for every one of mine.

How much of the media crap do you buy into?

Not at all. Our society has become obsessed with youth. Perhaps this is but one of the many changes and trends set by the first wave of baby boomers. Growing old is not part of their plan while currently transitioning into their senior years.
They're the largest generation in history, who has carried a good deal of purchasing power with them, almost from birth. (think disposable diapers and bottled baby food) They're also the wealthiest with more disposable income than their parents ever had, after a lifetime of scrimping.

Oil of Olay's ads summed it up best. Why not grow old gracefully ??? Fight it every step of the way !!!
 sk1960
Joined: 8/11/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 3/31/2009 6:53:49 PM
Hey don't discount those of us who have aged well - I am 48 -

no wrinkles, good skin (a moisturizer now and then is all I use), teeth.... well they are all mostly my own....

I haven't had botox, or any other kind of "adjustment".....

I have a few extra pounds cause I'm honest - but I walk and ride my bike - take the stairs.... and yet genetics well it is what it is.....

I color my hair cause I've done it since I was 15 - it isn't about covering the grey.....

I say do anything you want to make yourself feel better about yourself - except surgery or putting chemicals in your body .. as long as its not about looking younger....
 Pixy Dust
Joined: 9/6/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2009 7:45:03 PM
I think of the movie Mr. Skeffington with Claude Rains and Betty Davis.... she plays the role of Fanny who marries for security but has many suitors due to her beauty and manipulations at the cost of her husband and daughter and then diphtheria ravages her looks..... I love that movie.... some movies love to teach you lessons on the peril of vanity but I guess getting older is scary to me and losing ones looks... but it happens so gradually that you live in the illusion that its way out there somewhere... but it happens to all of us... but sometimes I kick the dust up at the idea that I'm gonna be old with wrinkles... maybe... lol... will I embrace that sagging skin??? that bothers me more then wrinkles.. trying to be honest here.... I thot I'd grow old gracefully but I think I'm kicking my way there....
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/31/2009 7:46:23 PM
Life is to be lived, some are more comfortable in a different suit than the one they were born in...some are more comfortable reflecting on their inner beauty...why one group feels the need to think they are better than the other is what amazes me...live and let live...but the most important thing of all...do it your own way ..the way you are happy.
 lmbb61
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/31/2009 7:49:55 PM
I've never seen an ad line like that. Then I only look at the men and they seem to be so full of themselves. Of course they care that you are getting wrinkles, but according to something some idiot once said, they look good on men. Yeah right, so does all that sagging skin and the gut that is so big it hides all your privates. lol My rant for the evening. Probably not my last.
 pazoozoo
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2009 8:07:49 PM
I don't lie about my age. I have had quite a lot of cosmetic surgery. I don't care what anyone else thinks, I do it because I like the way I look. I also color my gray hair. I like being a blonde. I shave under my arms and my legs. I would do it even if the ads on tv didn't assure me I would have silky, smooth underarms. I work out and watch my diet in order that I might be able to stave off anything more than pleasingly plump.

I don't know how old anyone thinks I am, and I honestly don't care. If others don't mind their wrinkles and gray hair, more power to them. I don't denigrate them for their choices, and I don't expect to be denigrated for mine.

And yes, it is all worth it to me.
 PrimeWoman
Joined: 4/25/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2009 8:26:23 PM
What slays me is the 5th ave adman pitch...using a 25-30yr old to lament wrinklage.
Gimme a break!
 bo_weeks
Joined: 1/5/2009
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Posted: 3/31/2009 8:49:30 PM
l go as far as eating pretty darn healthy (no red meat, no dairy, no fried food) and going to the gym...it works good enough for me
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
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Posted: 3/31/2009 8:50:37 PM
The miracle of no wrinkles. When I was a teenager with a summer job interviewing senior citizens, I came across a woman who I swore shouldn't be on our list because she did not look anywhere near 65. After she convinced me that she was truly over 65, I asked her what her secret was and I have followed her advice all my life. I smile, cry and don't really live the "good life", but still have youthful skin. This is what she told me she did:
Wet your face two or three times a day and apply cream over a wet face. "What cream do you use?", I asked. She answered whatever was on sale.

So, I wet my face twice a day, apply whatever cream I bought and then put shea butter on top of everything. It's not too late to start. Last fall, I bought one of my partners for her birthday, a jar of cream and a jar of shea butter and wrote in her card how to apply on top of a wet face. Today you wouldn't believe the difference in her face - her skin glows and she has way fewer wrinkles.

I believe in miracle eradications and this is mine to share.
 dancecard
Joined: 3/19/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2009 9:06:57 PM
How far will YOU go to look young? Will you lie about your age, use botox, get a facelift? How much of the media crap do you buy into? Does anyone actually believe those ads about the miracle eradications?


I seen Burt Renyolds a few years back, ~ he's had his ears pinned back ~ a more awful sight ~ I've never seen.

I've been getting my porn lately on TV ~ It seems to run 24/7 ~ these plump women putting on this "body Rubber Band" of sorts ~ ~ ~ It's really quit amusing to watch! ~ as they wiggle into the thing ~ ~ then ~ presto-change -o ! The blob is no more! as their hooters pop out and all giggle is gone! ~ It's magic!

It don't tick me off , ~ few things do ~ maybe Billy Minor , the Oxy Clean pitch man, with the squeecky voice, ~ and "just for men" beard coloring ~ it's a good thing I've got a mute button.

Nice legs and hair is a great combo ~ ugh ~ Teach? ~ I like ~ but you know that.

Dance
 ZenBeth
Joined: 2/23/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2009 12:40:08 AM

How far will YOU go to look young? Will you lie about your age, use botox, get a facelift? How much of the media crap do you buy into? Does anyone actually believe those ads about the miracle eradications?


Are the wrinkles being discussed because of smoking, poor diet, sun damage? If so then yes I would not be pleased. What age group are we speaking of?

But smile and laugh lines on someone in their 50's and 60's+ aren't a concern. Am blessed with great genes and I bathe in sunscreen when I go outside, eat healthy, drink plenty of water and get plenty of sleep and no I do not have wrinkles.

~Beth~
 retired67
Joined: 1/6/2009
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Posted: 4/1/2009 2:50:08 AM
At my age..some ladies will not like my wrinkles...but then I am not to enthused with there whiskers.
 lorelei540
Joined: 8/14/2008
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Posted: 4/1/2009 3:13:08 AM

How far will YOU go to look young? Will you lie about your age, use botox, get a facelift? How much of the media crap do you buy into? Does anyone actually believe those ads about the miracle eradications?

Of course people believe the ads. That's why there are so many products and procedures available, and why they're marketed so aggressively. They're targeting people's fears about decay, decline, death ... wrinkles are evidence of impending death.

The replies to this thread are amusing. Many of them essentially say they don't need plastic surgery because they already look so young. Denying that the decline even exists, for them. So even in replying to your post they aren't really answering your question.

As for me, I won't lie about my age, use botox, or get a facelift. I cover my grey, and I use cream on my skin. I would consider dermabrasion or something else "topical" down the line, depending on what my freckles do over time. Sunscreen is great now, but my parents didn't put it on me in the 70s and that's when the damage was done.

Before I separated from my ex, I was developing frown lines. Now they've faded and I've got laugh lines instead. I don't have any desire to get rid of those!
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