| How do you let go? (Just a little twist)
Posted: 4/2/2009 6:46:55 PM | Alright, so I had a very long distance relationship with this one guy. We'll call him "T". We'd known each other for 2 years then beginnig of last year, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes, because he was a really sweet guy who meant a lot to me. We dated for about 7 months. But we broke up twice. Once in late June and the last time was in late August. The last break up wasn't bad at all. It was a mutual agreement actually. We agreed to still be friends. But the beginning of 2009 we were talking again. I was in another relationship with a guy from work. And I wasn't too sure things were going to work out. "T" had admitted to still having feelings for me. And the thing was... I'd never gotten over him either. And we'd talked about it and he said that he'd be with me in a heartbeat if things didn't work out with my boyfriend at that time. Well, not even 3 days after "T" had admitted his feelings for me, he gets a girlfriend. I was crushed! Because I was about to end things with my boyfriend. Not because of "T", but because we were differen't people and I had a change of feelings. I stopped talking to him for about a month. Then out of the blue, I start having dreams of "T" for 2-3 nights in a row. And those dreams were amazing! And I kept thinking about them, and realized that I still had strong feelings for him, even though I knew things probably weren't going to work out.
I made the mistake of emailing him and telling him what I thought and what I was feeling. He basically said "Wrong time, wrong place." And it ended just how I thought it would, but I was disappointed anyway. Over the next month, I kept thinking about what I did, and I knew it was wrong, and I decided that I should at least apologize for what I'd said and try to be friends. Well, I'd figured out that he had blocked and deleted me off of everything.
So, I ask... How do you let go of someone you still deeply care about? How do you "start over"?  | |
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| How do you let go? (Just a little twist)
Posted: 4/2/2009 6:53:51 PM | | Sounds like a player to me Erin. But to answer your question I don't really know. I got out of a longterm relationship a little while ago and still ask that question. All I can say is keep your head up high and try for something closer to home that you can see more often. And don't do the rebound thing, it just makes you feel worse. | |
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| How do you let go? (Just a little twist)
Posted: 4/2/2009 8:16:25 PM | I can only share my experience with you ErinxCx, and here goes. I was married for 20 years and we were together for 25. This wasn't my first marriage nor for him. He past away suddenly about 2 and a half years ago. I am barely looking to just have a male friend or tipping my toe in the water. As I see it, to me, Love is like a bank. In any relationship you place a lot of time and presence in that relationship. You could say it becomes an addiction because everyday you nurture it over and over, day after day, and it really becomes involved if you are having sex too. Step back and think how may time have you told them, yourself, others, "I love You". It is almost like a Mantra. I love you, I care about you, I live for you, I want you all of these things. Your bieng really changes when you combine a relationship with sex. You share your whole life with love and it becomes a part of you. (Cell memory as it were). When the relationship dies, there has to be a mourning process. There is no way around it. You must give it time no matter what the cost. If you are still thinking of them, crying for them, or if you find yourself comparing your ex with others it is NOT time to move on, because your body is going through a change; as well as your, "Heart". If you go right into another realtionship you only become more mixed up and confused because you haven't finish the mourning growth period. This might all seemed unemotional but its not. Good luck and Please take the time. Sincerely Hope | |
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