| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:34:16 AM | I wonder how rare a truly good male lover is?
I am not talking about a man that can get you off once or even twice, I am talking about a man that makes you feel like nobody else.
I have a good friend and he has traveled around the world extensively and has slept with many women. This man speaks from experience. He tells me that many women told him that "nobody else makes them feel like him". I know that he has slept with many experienced women, some that sampled hundreds and more man, and this women tell him that nobody made them feel the way he did. Has he just been lucky and all those women had bad luck before?
He shares many experiences about squirting, intense multiple climaxes, pulsating pussies, deep spot orgasms, etc ...
How rare is that one lover that is just like no other? | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:47:02 AM | I have extensive experience and feel its not just about the man being a good lover, but you being great lovers together. For the best mindblowing experiences, as much as I hate to admit it, feelings were involved in some way. A true affection for my partner, and it translated sexually. Not love, sometimes that dampens the sexual vibe...
So I would say in my lifetime, only a handful were mindblowing absolutely can't get enough great sex partners. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:59:06 AM | | I agree with Blondecharmthe3rd. It takes at least two to make someone a good lover. Speaking strictly from a male prospective, you can do everything absolutely right and if the woman is not into you it will be a disappointing time. I think what makes a good lover is your sexual attitude. If you are carrying around a lot of sexual baggage you are not going to perform well. I could give lots of examples of sexual baggage, but I am certain that most people can fill in that blank on their own. I think the best lovers are those that strive to please themselves and their partner equally. I have heard some confused people say that they are good lovers because they try to please the other person completely without regard to their own personal satisfaction. This might work on occasion, but eventually the selfless act will have its toll. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:10:39 AM | Hmmm, interesting. And there is a difference between good sex and making love.
Great experiences for either, for both, would include consideration and enthusiasm. Being in the moment. Enjoying the sensation of feeling at the same time you enjoy the sensation of touching. Being relaxed, comfortable, secure with your partner. Knowing it is ok to give guidance so the experience just keeps getting better.
It helps to be familiar with anatamy and responses, that all are similar but very different.
And above all, have FUN! | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:10:34 AM | | Rare,but they're out there! I've been fortunate to have a few that were really good lovers! I think we've all had people like that in our lives,that regardless how many years go by,we still remember the ones that were "special". | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:18:43 AM | | Everbody's different and people have different reactions to one another. I've been with a goodly number of women and while some have said I was the best they'd been with there were others who said I really didn't do anything for them. I've seen occasions where something I would do would send some ladies into multi-orgasmic convulsions and others wouldn't react at all. I'd say your friend isn't telling you about those times,only encounters that were the best. As others have said,it takes two people to have the best sex. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:52:20 AM | | Yeah it's definitely a two way street - if you don't have a partner that can get into your jive the sex just doesn't work. So most of what we seek comes from within our own ablities and how we communicate to our partners exactly what we desire. The rest comes from the partner that 'gets it'! | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 9:47:40 AM | | As a man I have had a few good lovers, the rest not so good, but really it is about attitude and how excited they are about sex and their partner. It's physical but the your state of mind is what makes it special. Some lovers are able affect your mind as well as your body. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:11:57 AM | I agree with the above poster, it takes two to make that work, the right blend of two people, I have had only a small share of women who can really send me both physically and mentally.
Thats a big part of it, being able to please the mind as well as the body. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:21:24 AM | OP - if off the charts great lovers were a dime a dozen, more than half of us wouldn't even be here.
If you don't believe me, go check the threads of the men/women whining about how great their relationship up, but the bedroom is lacking.  | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:12:17 AM | I have to agree...Finding a great lover that is unhibited yet, still going to be with only me. Is extremely rare, I have had 2 in my entire 48 years...
And on the other hand everyone thinks they are the best or the most unique in the world. Who am I to burst their bubble, they just aren't to me. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:39:24 AM | They're not rare...the really good lovers just don't seem to talk about it that much. And their satisfied women sure as heck aren't going to talk about it either!!! (Would you advertise it, ladies, if you had a really great lover?  )
Let's look at the other side for a moment. What about the guys' opinions on what makes a great female lover? How rare is she? Or does she just basically have to show up? LOL | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 11:51:53 AM | | I wouldn't call good lovers rare, I'd say they're well done. But maybe it's just my meat talking... | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 12:13:52 PM | It takes Two to make " great lovers" It is being on the same sexual wavelength as your lover.
It's not about technique or skill as much as finding that person that you just click with sexually.
when you find the one that you click with spiritually , Intellectually Emotionally and sexually then you have got the package everyone seems to be looking for. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 12:50:06 PM | | This can be learned.... a solid understanding of the Kama Sutra is foundational for all good lovers | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 12:54:56 PM |
I have a good friend and he has traveled around the world extensively and has slept with many women. This man speaks from experience. He tells me that many women told him that "nobody else makes them feel like him".
I thought every guy said that to his friends. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 2:36:59 PM | There's a lot that comes into play with determining a great lover from a good lover...
It's not just about the way a man moves his tongue, thrusts his hips or his size...Don't get me wrong, they are factors in it...But they aren't everything...
Personally I find it is the men who read my body language who make the greatest lovers...In my experience, these "types" of men are few and far between...They can tell by the goosebumps on my skin or the quiver in my thighs that I'm really enjoying it and then know that perfect moment to either kick it up a knotch or slow it down...
The other two big components are quite simply the attraction between two people and comfort...If you aren't completely enthralled and comfortable with your lover at that moment, the sex simply won't be great... | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 2:47:02 PM | I think finding a man that is a really good lover is extremely rare! I've been with a few guys  and there arent too many that I would even consider being with again! For whatever the reason it just wasn't THAT good. When you do find one that really touches you in ways that no one else has, who is truely inside your head and seems to know how to make those fireworks start exploding, you wanna hang on and hope that, that fishy is a keeper in other areas too! | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 3:27:40 PM | Good lovers are rare. I think that there has to be a connection between the two participants before any session can be described as 'good'.
Having said that, good lovers are experimental, constantly trying new ideas, open about what they like and dont like, enthusiastic, confident, playful, receptive to the signals from their partner, talk about sex, and above all enjoy sex.
In the end though I honestly think that one persons boring lover, can be the next persons 'Great Lover', its all about chemistry and personal preference. Yes, when you do find that lover that makes your toes curl, hang on and hope they are a keeper. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 3:31:00 PM | | Being a good lover is not a solo effort. Two people have to respond to each other in harmony. Too many women think if they have the looks, all the right parts and give it up they must be terrific lovers. NOT!! Enjoyable sex involves sharing.... not giving. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 4/4/2009 3:52:15 PM | every women I have ever slept with since I was 16 have all been willing to sleep with me again even now even if they are married.
On the other hand I can not say any of the women I have been with are good in bed. They might be good at certain aspects of it but not all around. | |
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