| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:46:46 PM | I had a date tnight with this real cool guy,we had alot in common, set today to meet and he never showed.
And I spoke to him earlier,we confirmed we were getting ready and he said he'll see me in a couple Hours. And he said he'd call when he got into my Town. Well he never did. He seemed to be all into me and now this? I'm just confused and a but pissed off,kinda hurt, But whatever his loss. What do you guys think? I just don't get it,he seemed to be all into it. What gives?? Candace xxx | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:51:20 PM | Call him and ask him what happened.
Depending on if he tells you a reason or excuse, give him another chance-- or not. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:52:18 PM | | I'd give it a little time before passing judgment that he is a total jerk and whatnot as you don't know what happened. Maybe he got scared and ran away, or maybe he is in a hospital somewhere recovering and hasn't had time to call and say he couldn't make it. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:56:28 PM | | Im sure it sucks to be stood up, but theres not enough information to go by to answer: "Was it me?" You will have to communicate with him. Hope it turns out for ya! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:08:34 PM | | It does suck. I've been stood up a few times. Talked to the guys that day even. It happens. I wouldn't worry about it. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:14:43 PM | There maybe practical reasons (car broke down, fell from a tree and was run over by a herd of angry kangaroos etc), so call him up and see, depending on his response (as Landra suggested):
a) Give him another chance
b) Kick him to the curb
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:44:02 PM | Drive to his house, knock on the door... and when he opens smack him in the face...
Then skip back to your car and do a burn out on his lawn.. you'll feel awesome! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 6:55:25 PM | HE stood you up. He wasted your time. He wont get another a chance. Throw that fish back into the pond and keep on fishing. My time is very important to me and to waste it with not showing up for a set date is something that gets a person deleted. He doesnt respect you or your time, NEXT.
I know some will say what if........ so what thats what a phone is for and most people carry them all the time.
Thats just the way it is, you have to decide on how you will handle people who do stuff like this. Just wait till you have a great date then he goes "POOF" on you. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:12:13 PM | Can't amagine why it would be you. He's the one who stood you up.
Make new plans for tonight with some friends, if he calls, tell him you're busy. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:22:04 PM | No it's not you.. you were stood up (as far as you know)
There could be reasons why he didn't show, but if he hasn't contacted you by now, then I'd be betting it's because he did stand you up and either doesn't want to let you know (which is rude) or is feeling awkward calling you because he feels bad.
Best to wait and if you feel you want to, contact him in a few days and talk to him. Just have your thinking cap on to guage his words... you'll be able to tell if he's just a player (for want of a better word)
Sorry this happened to you.. his loss (gosh you're pretty!) | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:49:36 PM | It's the nature of the online beast. Your right it does suck and for the most part we are all taking chances here when we decide to meet someone. One thing I have learned is you have to take this online with thing with the perverbial grain of salt. Literally. That way we wont be disappointed, hurt, confused, pissed off, etc. It's his loss. People get fickle in the online world. Girl forget him and go fish  | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 7:58:29 PM | You are not alone. A few days ago, I was supposed to meet someone at an agreed location at an agreed time. I arrived there a few minutes early, and waited more than my fair share of over 2 hours. She lives in different city from me. Luckily I had other plans in the same city on that day, so it was not a 100 percent loss for me.
That is something you should do next time you want to meet someone... make alternate plans that require you to go to a nearby place should you be stood up again. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:01:38 PM | Either something happened..... or he's a flake! Hopefully, he's ok.....
Was this your 1st date with him? Many things could have happened. I'm sorry he left you hanging!!!
DON'T take it personal! Just move on if he's a flake! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:52:40 PM | | I think that people that stand other people up should be able to be named! I have been stood up about 6 times now. It's not you - it's not very nice people that have no regard for others. I have NEVER and with NEVER stand someone up. It's a mean thing to do and a sign of someone that should be avoided. I think we should be able to NAME THEM so that don't keep doing it. Can we? I suspect if we did the entries would be deleted. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:11:13 PM | what an a hole! you poor darling, of course it was not you.
I must admit I have not been stood up, but wish in some cases that I had been as one was late cos his gps told him to do a U-turn and it was only 4 suburbs away, (how the hell would he find a g-spot as he can't even use his gps) and the other asked my girlfriend out and spent the first 20 mins ****ing about me, as I found him very unattractive cos his pic was 20 years old, imagine how SHE felt. Wish that pschyco stood both of us up.
You will get over it and perhaps as in my case his pic wasn't really what he looked like, and knew you being so beautiful and hit on all the time, would um gulp when you met.
My theory on it. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:25:39 PM | | call him? why on earth would she do that? that's bad advice. whatever you do, DON'T call the jerk, just move on. maybe he chickened out, that's what it sounds like to me. i think it happens to everyone. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:29:41 PM | His ex-boyfriend prolly called him up with a crisis....? An ex-girlfriend's mother dropped by? He does this (sets up dates and doesn't show) to deal with his OCD?
So many possibilities...
forget him... you are a gorgeous young woman... don't take it personally. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:30:36 PM | | if something happened to him, car broke down, etc., it was his job to CALL her, not her calling him. he obviously has no manners or common decency so the last thing she should do is call him. i'd say EVERYONE has a cell phone these days so there is just no excuse for this type of behavior. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:46:28 PM | | Didn't call to say he wasn't able to make it or call to apologies. No second chances. If this is how he behaves when he is trying to win you over. The future looks full of brown stuff. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:48:39 PM | | I gave a guy a second chance who came extremely late to a first date. We went out finally and he turned out to be a nice guy. N e way, from this good experience I'd say wait and see if he contacts you. People get sick, accidents happen. It doesn't necessarily mean he's a jerk. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 12:27:37 AM | Of course it wasn't you. And of course that stings, sorry you went through it.
Usually I'd think he's just a flake and oh well, sorry for the bad experience, next! But with his having confirmed just a couple of hours before... that does make me wonder if there was some genuine emergency. Because in that case, he didn't just forget what night it was (which, seriously, people do, and they're usually really embarrrassed about it).
Might as well go ahead and schedule other dates, but I'd say do give him a chance to explain if he contacts you again. And I don't think there's anything wrong with calling once to ask, either. What have you got to lose? Worst that'll happen, he won't answer and you still won't know, same place you were already; and you'll know you made every effort to reach out just in case there was a real emergency.
Something about the confirmation, it just strikes me as not your usual no-show. | |
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