| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/5/2009 10:10:47 AM | I'm back on here again to try and find suitable partners to date however there is one user on here from last year who I had a rather unpleasant experience with after a couple of dates and I don't want him to see me, my picture or my profile at all as I fear he will start pestering me again..... is there anyway I can block him without sending him an email, and if I did get an email from him and I blocked him afterwards can he still find my profile in the search results?
Please any help or advice would be appreciated as I really don;t want this guy interacting with me again ever... | |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/5/2009 10:15:57 AM | No you cant block him until he sends you a message.
I think he can see you in search results after being blocked but cant fav you or contact you.
Best of Luck
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Posted: 4/5/2009 10:21:14 AM | | thanks cowboy not the answer I wanted though this guy hoarded me for 3 months so whilst he's on here I don;t wanna be visible to him, I wish the techies at pof would offer this option as I won't display my pic for fear of him seeing me on here ... | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 10:31:04 AM | send him a message right now so he can reply and you can block him. LOL
Your only option really is to just hide your profile and contact the guys you want to contact.
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/5/2009 10:47:07 AM |
send him a message right now so he can reply and you can block him. LOL
What kind of nonsense it that? Contacting someone so you can ignore them, huh? How about she just ignore him completely?
Liverpool lass4u......A better way is........if he sends you a message don't open the message and block him because that just lets him know you read his message and after you block him he can just create another profile to message you. A better way....delete his message unread. He'll hate seeing "deleted unread" in his outbox. He'll hate not being able to get his two cents in.
Pretend he doesn't exist, delete his messages unread, and don't make more forum post about him. Make him irrelevant. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 11:00:17 AM | A better way is........if he sends you a message don't open the message and block him because that just lets him know you read his message and after you block him he can just create another profile to message you.
You cannot block anyone unless you have opened and hit the "Block User" Link of any received E-Mail.
Furthermore, all Mail disappears in the Recipients "Sent Folder" after an e-mail block and there won't by any Read/Unread Feedback.
A better way....delete his message unread. He'll hate seeing "deleted unread" in his outbox.
From what I get from the OP, she's not looking to p*ss him off, but to restrict Contact.
 | For this Reason its best to just block a User. End of Communications. |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 11:00:49 AM | | Thanks for advice I know he is irrelevant totally!!! I despise the man however he turned into a pyscho stalker for months afterwards and was quite threatening in his behaviour when I ended it .......... so I just don't want him seeing me on here at all FULL STOP that's all just hoped that I could block him totally but I'll just keep my picture private instead ... | |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/5/2009 11:34:06 AM |
send him a message right now so he can reply and you can block him. LOL
What kind of nonsense it that? Contacting someone so you can ignore them, huh? How about she just ignore him completely?
I think cowboy is right - pretty slick thinkin'!
Send him a quick email, without identifying who you are/were. He'll respond and you can block him. There, problem solved. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 11:48:57 AM | You cannot block anyone unless you have opened and hit the "Block User" Link of any received E-Mail.
I know this. I was saying that blocking is useless. People can search profiles without logging into their account. If someone blocks me I can just log out and then search their profile and see all I want to see.
While it's true I can't send a blocked person a message it's also true that if a person deletes my message unread it has the same desired result. ....no contact. The whole idea of knocking on someones door so you can tell them you are going to ignore them is nuts.
It takes only two clicks and two seconds to delete a message unread. Sending a messages and waiting for a reply so you can block someone takes longer and gives the guy attention.
Send him a quick email, without identifying who you are/were. He'll respond and you can block him. There, problem solved..
Problem solved? Not! He'll just send you a message from another profile because you've given him attention. Now you'll open that new message, in order to block him, and give him more attention. Then he make another profile. It's a free site so nothing will stop him.
On the other hand if you just delete his message unread then he never gets the attention he wants, or gets his messages read, and hopefully he'll go away.
Blocking does not prevent someone from seeing your profile for the reason I stated earlier, he can see it after he logs out.
Playing blocking games rewards the guy with attention. Just ignore him. 2 seconds, 2 clicks, and his messages are gone.
so I just don't want him seeing me on here at all FULL STOP that's all just hoped that I could block him totally but I'll just keep my picture private instead ..
You're giving him power over you when you don't post a picture because of him. Post your picture and don't worry that he can see it. You say he is irrelevant but you are making him very relevant by hiding your picture because of him. He becomes irrelevant when your actions aren't dictated by his presence. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 12:35:15 PM | thanks Mr poetry yes you are right I know thanks a million to you and those that replied
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Posted: 4/5/2009 1:51:24 PM | Problem solved? Not! He'll just send you a message from another profile because you've given him attention.
Not so. The Site records IPs and other Details as well as the E-Mail blocks of that and other Users, and will get kicked off the Site and no longer able to create a new Profile.
Repeatedly blocking them will get them deleted after a few re-contacting Attempts. Simply ignoring the Mails will permit him to continue to harass Users.
Blocking does not prevent someone from seeing your profile for the reason I stated earlier, he can see it after he logs out.
| Only by hiding the Profile, but then also hides that User in Searches. |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/5/2009 3:21:25 PM |
Not so. The Site records IPs and other Details as well as the E-Mail blocks of that and other Users, and will get kicked off the Site and no longer able to create a new Profile.
 I stand corrected. I wasn't aware the owner paid that much attention. If that's the case then blocking is the way to go. Although I still think it's nuts to send an email to the guy hoping for a reply so she can block him. Maybe the guy will do the right thing and drop the matter. If he messages then block him. Sending him a message only gets his hopes up again and maybe restarts a dead matter. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 4:24:07 PM | Except right now she has no pic and he doesnt even know its HER. Thats why I said message him NOW when he doesnt even know who it is.
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Posted: 4/5/2009 4:32:09 PM |
Except right now she has no pic and he doesnt even know its HER. Thats why I said message him NOW when he doesnt even know who it is.
Cowboy
Then she becomes the game player. If he hasn't contacted her then there's no problem. If he does contact her then she can block him. For her to go out of her way to get the guys hopes up and then block him makes her the bad person. Maybe he has dropped the issue or maybe he is a jerk and he'll become furious with her blocking "trick" and he'll stalk her more. She should be the adult and let it go.
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Posted: 4/5/2009 4:57:55 PM |
Then she becomes the game player. If he hasn't contacted her then there's no problem. If he does contact her then she can block him. For her to go out of her way to get the guys hopes up and then block him makes her the bad person. Maybe he has dropped the issue or maybe he is a jerk and he'll become furious with her blocking "trick" and he'll stalk her more. She should be the adult and let it go.
You obviously aren't grasping this concept. OP wants to be able to put pictures on her profile without being harassed. If she "anonymously" emails the guy now, he'll have NO idea it's her and he'll message her back. She'll open the message and hit the block button. THEN, she can put pictures on her profile and the guy will never be able to contact her. End of story.
It's been made very clear by some pretty experienced members throughout the thread. This is the best way to handle this particular situation.
So OP, who are ya' gonna' believe - admin and a well seasoned & knowledgeable POF member OR... some guy who has been here for a little over a week and has already been proven wrong twice on this thread?? | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 5:12:45 PM |
^ If she blocks him he will know that "someone" blocked him. Then he will log out and search for her profile name and he will be able to see all her pictures and all her profile.
You are the one not grasping the concept. The "experienced" members you speak of are asking her to play childish blocking games which are easy to circumvent and which the only effect will be to antagonize the guy she's trying to avoid.
The best way is for her to ignore him. If he messages her then she can block him. The preempted blocking trick will probably only make matters worse.
So OP, who are ya' gonna' believe - admin and a well seasoned & knowledgeable POF member OR... some guy who has been here for a little over a week and has already been proven wrong twice on this thread??
1: The other members of this thread can tell you I am not new. I've been here before.
2: There are no administration members in this thread. Only a moderator.
3: I've not been proven wrong about anything yet. The moderator says that pof will ban the guy if he uses multiple profiles but this is not necessary true, especially if he knows how to game the system (Which I won't explain for obvious reason.)
4: Common sense is all that's needed here, not expert knowledge of the workings of pof. | |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/5/2009 8:05:34 PM | | I would recommend...put up different profile pics than you did before. Write a new profile. He may not even recognize you. If he does happen to contact you, whether he recognizes you or not, block him then, with no reply. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 8:27:07 PM |
The best way is for her to ignore him. If he messages her then she can block him.
In Principle that is probably the best Thing to do: Don't Feed the Trolls.
However, if he persists harrassing her in other Ways such as making Fake Profiles and uploading bogus Pics making her think its someone else, then the IP Registration & User E-Mail Blocks will get that abusive User detected, kicked off and banned from the Site.
| When they can no longer make new Profiles is usually the Point when the most persistant Stalkers give up. |
(Which I won't explain for obvious reason.)
Those Games have also been shut down for the most part. Most Means which allow for anonymous Surfing have been identified and blocked as well. |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:11:02 AM |
What kind of nonsense it that? Contacting someone so you can ignore them, huh? How about she just ignore him completely?
I agree with that. Sending an email so you can block him might still attract his attention. So all he will have to do is use a different computer/ip address to see who it is. | |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:53:24 AM | Again thanks all for your passionate responses. I just wanted to be able to get on with my dating life without him bugging me again, checking up on my profile even if I did block him, if he knew i was back on here he would start monitoring me again somehow perhaps offline, I just know it, don't like that idea plus he has access to my pics I'd just rather he didn't see or know I was back on here at all, HE makes my skin crawl seriously everytime i see his picture .....
Anyhow whilst POF is great maybe it's a feature we can all look forward to in the future, that's one of the negatives I think of online dating you can't escape from your past online ....
Happy dating everyone ... | |
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| Blocked users help please
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:10:25 PM | | if someone blocks you, can you still see if they viewed your profile? Just wondering. I cant seem to get my answer | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:22:35 PM |
if someone blocks you, can you still see if they viewed your profile?
Blocking prevents sending email, deletes all the messages they've sent, and prevents adding the blocker to their favorites.
I cannot say with certainty, but I believe the block has no impact on making someone aware of they viewing a profile.
If the blocker (or any other user) has their profile set to "stealth mode" you will not be aware of your profile being viewed by them. | |
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