| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 9:58:42 AM | | Hi there is a beautiful girl in my college, and she was new there in September and I have never spoken to her. I would love to just start a conversation with her, but whenever I am about to I think why bother, she could have any guy she wants and has probably got a boyfriend anyway. I don't have a clue what to talk about anyway and if I just walk upto her and talk crap, I'll sound like a loser, and I would like to get to know her because she's really nice. Can anybody advise me of what kinds of things to talk about initially, and how can you talk to a beautiful girl like you would with one of your mates. Thanks. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:02:12 AM | Ok here's the thing, the only way to talk to someone hasnt changed throughout the ages. Ya have to actually make sounds come out of ya mouth hole,  Ok I'll try to be serious, if you cant loosen up and talk to someone, the odds of starting/having any real relationship is scratch. So just bite the bullet and talk to her. If she calls you a loser, then hey at least ya know, your outta luck.
tactic2, yell air raid and jump on top of her. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:08:16 AM | since you love milf, you could start by asking her about her mom! | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:12:22 AM | It's all about confidence. If you know you're good enough for her, or any other girl, you'll be able to approach them with impunity. Whether or not she's seeing someone is irrelevant; if she is, she'll tell you, and you can move on. What to actually talk about is a little trickier--you'll have to play it by ear. Usually you just comment on something she's doing/something in the immediate environment and go from there.
Good luck with that, we've all been there at one time or another. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:14:35 AM | | You're a winner as soon as you get her attention. When you have, you won that by trying. Your losing streak ends as soon as you win that much. From there none of your loser reasons apply any more and you have to talk to her like a winner who wants to win more, not like a loser who fears losing again. It takes having an idea that she can be glad she met you. Can she be? If so, do her the favor, but if not, spare her the annoyance. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:16:06 AM | Be like, "I see you're drinking 1% milk. Is that because you think you're fat? Because you could be drinking either 2% or even whole."
Saw it in a movie, and it totally worked.
Just talk to her! Usually, a good start is "Hello" or "Hi," or some type of variation thereof, and just ask her how she's doing. Ask her about any hobby that you know of (or found whilst stalking outside her window) and feign interest in it, or ask a question about it.
She probably already knows that you're interested in her and is waiting for you man up and talk to her. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:18:42 AM | Aviod cliches. Open with a non-yes or no question. Keep it casual. If she's walking across the quad try - 'Hi, we've never met, I'm ____. Where are you headed?' I know they have a lot of on campus activities - why not ask if she's planning on attending the 'Thursday night movie'? In my youth, I was always receptive to the 'a bunch of us are going to the ____ (mall, movies, cafeteria, lecture, game, party, whatever!), want to come?' approach - (safety in numbers). A playful 'It could be fun' if she gives some thought.
And have something to fall back on for follow up - even if you get turned down like; 'OK, well maybe I'll check back with you for next time.' Just talk to her, you've got nothing to lose!  | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:20:43 AM | Forget the fact that she is beautiful, if you can. This thought is paralyzing you at the moment.
View her as a potential friend. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:23:20 AM | Okay dude, here is the deal. You need to develop some confidence. She is not the issue. I am betting that you encounter this situation often. You see an attractive woman and are at a loss at how to approach her and say anything. Your assumptions that she would simply call you a loser or already has a boyfriend or could get any guy that she wanted. She is a person just like you brother. She has her flaws and insecurities just like all of us. I highly doubt that she believes that she could get any guy that she wanted. But you have shot yourself down before you have even begun.
So I will address the main issue instead of her.
Brother you should work on your confidence level. The best way to do that is to start to work on yourself! Go to the gym, get a tan, start to eat healthy! Get some new clothes (as in some great looking, ggreat fitting new clothes. Get a hair cut. Read a few self improvement books. Get out there. Get a few wins under your belt. The next thing is something that a friend taught me when I was young. Fake it until you make it. Act like you believe a confident person would act and people will perceive you as confident. They don't know that it's an act. After a while with people treating you like you are confident, you will feel more confident and soon one day... voila, you will actually be more confident! It is not always easy and takes some time. It will take you out of your comfort zone and you will crash a few times, but at this point it sounds like you have little to lose. You already think that you are a loser in other peoples eyes and that is a terrible way to go through life.
It all starts with hello. Walk up to her and say hi. Do it a few times and you have something there to make it easier to break the ice! If you are really feeling confident, simply approach her and say hi, then once she says hi back, tell her your name (as in 'I'm Miles Well your name...) She will probably give you her name back... and then you have the start of a conversation. Do not feign interest in anything. It is disingenuise and lame. Commenting on her weight in any fashion is bad. Don't be yourself. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:35:49 AM | | ok walk up and say somthing to the affect of. "pardon the intustion but i couln't hlep noticing you, I have been wanting to talk to you for a while but i have not been able to find the right moment so as not to intterupt you." Then tell her what you first noticed about her other than her looks. For example, I thought it was great seeing a person of your stature takins ________ class. If you ever need a hand or havea question i may know the answer to feel free to ask. That way it is left up to her to hold the next conversation. If she likes you (be it as a friend or otherwise) she will initiate a conversation with you, if not then she won't and then you can move on. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:45:26 AM |
I would love to just start a conversation with her, but whenever I am about to I think why bother, she could have any guy she wants and has probably got a boyfriend anyway.
Well, she might have a bf, I guess, but you'll never know if you don' t try. Beautiful girls want to date someone--why NOT you? I think the person who suggested NOT to talk about how beautiful she is may be on to something. If she is as beautiful as you say, she has heard it all before. If at all possible, try to say something funny, and be confident. Good luck. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:48:25 AM | Give her some flowers while saying:
"Roses are red, Violets are blue, the voices in my head said I should talk to you..."
But seriously, its way too soon to be thinking in terms of a relationship with her(why did you post it this here forum?). If you wanna be capable of talking to her like your friends, then start with the mindset that she is a person. Just talk to her with no expectations of rejection or delusions of establishing a relationship with her. You want to get to know her first. Besides, you never know, maybe she is the one with voices in her head? | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:55:24 AM | If you have never spoken to her, then how do you know how beautiful she is?
oh oh...you're just talking about the way she 'appears'
which, is not a true measure of how 'beautiful' one is. So, understanding that everyone has different facial, body structures, I would suggest saying 'anything' as soon as possible...when she responds.....or doesn't...then you will be getting a more accurate assessment of this lady.
Most of the real strikers that I have ever known....physically, I'm speaking of here....really don't have much of a clue as to what they really look like. Ummm...in fact many are hoping for just some normal conversation.
Forget the face....full steam ahead...can she talk,? does she grunt? can she string a few words together.? Well, probably yes, and if she seems kind and interested in whatever you have to utter, (let's face it, most things have already been said before, and I' m sure she's heard a lot of it), then she may appear even more beautiful....... , then again, she may not.
Nothing to lose.
Kimbo************************************************ | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 12:38:56 PM | You just walk up to her slowly.
Look her straight in the eye.
And say – I like eggs.
Then walk away.
Works every time. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 12:48:29 PM | Give her some flowers while saying:
"Roses are red, Violets are blue, the voices in my head said I should talk to you..."
  Now this is cute!!!! | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 12:57:52 PM | | I agree with what a few other posters have said, although I don't think you need to go to the gym first. The next time you walk by her, when she is alone, don't stop, but smile and say, "Hello." Do the same thing the next time you see her. If she doesn't acknowledge you then she's someone you don't need to know. If she isn't courteous enough to answer back or at least smile then she's shallow. But it you're getting a smile or a responding greeting, it's time to stop to introduce yourself. If you take classes together you can talk about that, or if there's something big doing on campus that's a decent topic. If nothing obvious comes to mind, you're going to have to step up to the plate and tell her that you don't want to bother her, but you have to tell her that you think she's the most beautiful girl on campus. You can't rehearse what is going to happen after that. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 1:32:22 PM | Here's whatcha do, walk right up to her, flip your junk out on the counter at the library and say, but you must do this very seriously, I hear youve been looking for me.
Ok now for real I'll stop f'ing with you. Just be yourself, the fact that she's hot, doesnt change anything. In fact most hot girls, arent used to guys saying anything to them. Cause most men are intimidated by their looks, thus too shy to say anything to them at all. So best advice I think, is still just bite the bullet. And give it a try, what do you have to lose ? Just say hello and then wing it from there. gd luck.
PS, after thought, tell her your going to school for sexology. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 1:46:53 PM | Just get 20 or 30 of your *milfs to vouch for you.
That should take care of your - college girl ......... samloves*milfs.
When they confirm to her - just how swell you are ............ she will be all over ya. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 2:07:18 PM |
I would like to get to know her because she's really nice.
Pump the brakes, cowboy. You don't know her, so how do you know she's nice? You've already got her on a pedastol and she's done nothing to deserve it except appearing to be nice. I have a lot of guy friends and when they describe a complete stranger they've just laid eyes on as nice... it usually translates to "she has a nice rack."
I would love to just start a conversation with her, but whenever I am about to I think why bother, she could have any guy she wants and has probably got a boyfriend anyway.
Once again... you don't know her so stop making assumptions about her. She can't read your mind, and you can't read hers. Perhaps she never gets approached except for by arrogant miscreams. Perhaps every decent guy has never approached her because of this failed logic.
I don't have a clue what to talk about anyway and if I just walk upto her and talk crap, I'll sound like a loser
You know later on when she tells her friends about that guy who she had a random conversation with? She won't be talking about a loser. She won't be talking about a winner. She'll be talking about some guy who gave her a compliment (which is what you should do... but don't tell her she's beautiful - come up with something original). And chances are she won't be talking about you, because you didn't get up the nerve to say something like, "You know, it's nice to see a pretty smile every now and then. Thanks for that."
If all else fails tell her you're writing for the school paper and you're taking a survey among young women... then ask her a bunch of random questions about one of your favorite hobbies to see if you have anything in common. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/7/2009 2:09:07 PM | do you know her? are chasing an image of beauty or a real person?
it's so much better to date when you find you have something in common including a mutual attraction opposed to just viewing a beauty. let it fall into place, show an interest after you have met girls and like their personalities and it feels comfortable to ask them out. thats where my best relationships have come from. not the ones that persued me based on physical attraction primarily and awkwardly asked me out by trying to impress me.
smile at her and catch her eye briefly and if she reciprocates a few times then you can chat but go slow. remember to get beyond the outer beauty and be motivated by she who she really is on the inside. i speak from experience, beautiful men have been my weakness. a shallow part of my character that i am still working on. | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:46:25 AM | I want to know if the OP, has approached his vic........ errrrr love interest yet ? Well how about it dood ? Now ya have to do it, so that you can give us a full report on how things went. Still advising towards the dont take it all so hard, flirting with someone iz supposed to be fun. The more self conscious you let yourself get, the better the odds that youll screw up.
Random comments:
*canam miles, bro that was deep.
*des_angel, ahhhh very devious sweets, the thing about the survey, much respect.
addendum: Tell her the survey is about womens favorite sexual experiences, its for your sexology class, so that wont seem weird, lol.
*Ron9 Just wanted to say hello. I havent been on this site in awhile, but I see your still going strong. And continuing to enlighten the masses with ya wisdom ;) | |
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| How can I talk to her
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:52:56 AM | Ask her about her period.
If you can't ask her about that, then look at what she is wearing and ask her where she bought it. Then let her spill the beans. | |
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