| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:09:13 PM | | is it ok to get mad after a break up and seeing that person with someone else like right after it i went to a club and we had just broken up like a day ago and well i saw her with the same guy that she was with new years she sent me a text saying why are you mad blah was she even faithful | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:31:35 PM | | To my mind there is the question of what kind of justification is required here. I'd think if you got mad, you got mad. The big question is what behaviors did you have while mad as it is one thing to be snippy and rude, it is quite another to start killing people and having that anger explode into a violent outcome. Another question is why do you care so much about what happened in the past? The past is the past and cannot be changed or undone. | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 5:00:44 PM | | I think it's perfectly rational for you to get mad, shows you obviously had strong feelings for her. But don't mull over it. She's made her bed and now should metaphorically sleep in it. If you show her that you are mad it's just kinda giving her signals that that she's won. Don't show her that it's getting to you because she obviously expects it is - you don't need to rely on another person for happiness, you know. | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 5:15:40 PM | | My guess is you still care about her. Your hurt, and it comes out as anger. Just remember, there's Plenty Of Fish. | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 5:18:53 PM | | i didnt really do anything i just saw what i guess i needed to see life goes on live and learn | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:00:10 PM | It's okay to feel anything that you feel.
What's MORE important is what you choose to DO. Go ahead, feel angry, hurt, sad whatever you feel. That doesn't mean you have to ACT on it.
My advice to you is develop a poker face. Next time you see your ex out with someone else, don't brood or stare at them or look angry. Look blank. Look away.
Don't give her -- or anyone else -- the satisfaction of knowing they're getting to you. | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:44:22 PM | "Anger is an energy"
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It's what you do with that energy that matters. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 1:25:50 AM | Yes of course it's OK. It's natural to feel betrayed in a situation like that. However, you are far better off spending less time feeling "mad" and more time moving on with your life in a positive direction and being thankful that more of your precious time wasn't wasted on someone who didn't care for you as much as you cared for them.  | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/12/2009 4:12:41 AM | | She doesn't even seem like the type worth getting angry for. Use your energy in other areas. I learned the hard way; being angry over things I cannot control really only pissed ME off more. Sometimes we go thru a lot of idiots to get the right person. Trust me. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 7:03:30 AM | Yeah I'd be mad, I'd be mad at myself for not seeing the red flags that said she was a low life, lying, cheating scum bag. Be thankful you got rid of her, the guy did you a favor, now he has to put up with her bs & you're available to find a nice hot classy non-cheating woman. Woohoo aren't you the lucky one.  | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 8:19:37 AM | | It's alright to get upset about it just don't dwell on it for too long. The same thing kind of happened to me with my last girlfriend. We were together for no longer than a month. I had strong feelings for her still and since we were good friends before we started going out we decided to stay friends after as well. Well about a week after we broke up she texted me saying that the guy she just met was so "good" he made her whole body hurt. Yeah it makes one feel insignificant when something like that happens but you just have to learn to get over it and go on | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 10:17:27 AM | Karma , that is what gets everyone . What comes around goes around . She probably liked this other guy all along . Didnt hear from him for a while , then she did . So you guys broke up and she went out with him . She was in contact with him . So you do not need a person like that . He will dump her . And she will be were you are .
Sorry it does suck , and it hurts . Move on | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 10:33:26 AM | | My advice? If you have to be around her at all, kill her with kindness. Just don't do it with expectations of reconcilation. No second chances!!! You obviously care about her, and maybe you can be friends, maybe not, but either way, move on!!! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 3:38:05 PM | | Ok, I do wish I could kill my ex with kindness when I absolutely have to be around him, but I avoid him like the plague and stay on the other side of the room when possible. I just can't see myself talking at events in groups afterwards. I just don't want to get myself in a pickle or even say one sentence when he's around. Thank goodness my kids are grown and I can do this, but if they weren't I doubt if I could handle it any better. Too much was said and it totally shocked me about all the picky insanities and all the black book events of my mistakes did all this. I have forgiven him, but I can't forget. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 5:39:15 PM | | It is ok to get mad at any situation as long as you don't do anything stupid. Is it worth it for more than a day? | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:31:47 PM | Hey op,if any body say's "are you gonna get them back" tell them you already did.........
........."you let them have each other"........that alone should make you chuckle | |
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Cheba
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Joined: 4/10/2009
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/13/2009 1:53:11 PM | it won't make you feel better. it'll make you feel worse. a billion times. it's not your concern if she cheated on you while you were together. she's gone and good luck to the next fella that gets her
sorry.... :( but i feel ya | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 4:05:39 PM | Is it ok to feel? anything? Sure it is.
Its pretty classic to feel 'something' when you see your ex with someone new right out of a breakup
As long as you're not throwing furniture through windows, plotting revenge, or cuttin' on yourself.....then let the stuff move through you , bro.
and....you know, you might want to stay out of the clubs she goes to for a wee bit.
best to you
Kimbo********************************** | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/14/2009 8:13:45 AM | We feel what we feel - there is no right or wrong in it, what we feel just is. What you do with those feelings is what matters.
Something I've learned, in my life and with others, is that I think that those who allow themselves to feel what they do, and deal with those feelings, get through things quicker, and become better for it.
You felt mad. Anger and hurt are, pretty much, just different manifestations of the same emotion. Deal with what you feel, wallow in it for now...and you will be able to move on!!! | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 11:55:36 PM | One important question that nobody has asked ...
Who broke off the relationship?
If she was the one who broke it off, there's no doubt that it's completely normal to feel betrayed and mildly angry.
If the OP broke it off, then it's nobody's business who she's out with, and completely out of line for him to be angry over anything. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 12:20:00 AM | | Knock his lights out, bro, defend your honor...sorry, I just got done watching some stupid cop movie on TBS. | |
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| is it ok to get mad
Posted: 4/15/2009 5:55:57 AM | It is perfectly fine to feel what ever you are feeling.
It is much harder to not show or exhibit your feelings. | |
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