| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 4:47:00 PM | Gads... for me to spend any kind of money on a wedding, it would have to be on the drugs and booze to keep me looped right out of my gourd for a long enough amount of time to actually say I do...
Not that I'm against marriage per se... I'm just against my own marriage...  | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 4:57:00 PM | Hmm... I think the more expensive weddings are starting to fizzle in the stylish department. I think it's actually more trendy to do a wedding on a budget these days. I've never been the type of girl who plans out her wedding before she knows who the groom is, but I will say that if I ever get married it will be a reflection of who I am.
I like to have style. I like nice looking clothes... but those clothes don't have to be expensive. I can totally rock a pair of sunglasses bought at Dollar General.
It's all about perspective. Even when it comes to dating. I don't care if you take me to the Four Seasons Hotel for dinner or if you take me to the local dive bar for cheap shot night. If we're having fun, I don't care how much money is involved.
As for my future wedding day *if I ever get married* I see it being fairly simple, but still stylish and cute. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 5:01:09 PM | | nothing is worth that amount of money. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, wouldn't it make more sense to use the money that a wedding costs to start the life together? Perhaps use that money to pay off bills, to buy a house, something. Not something that only lasts 1 day. Seriously. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 5:22:45 PM | I watch these bridezilla type reality shows on tv from time to time and the amount of money people waste on "princess parties" is shocking. Most people are not even spending the money they have on these extravagant spectacles. They are going deep into debt so someone can play princess for a day. If I were a man I would be very suspicious of marrying a woman who was fine with going into a marriage deep in debt. It would show that she doesn't really care about her marriage,only about playing princess for a day.
For me if I were to ever get married again it would be very small and completely affordable. It doesn't have to be expensive to be special and memorable.Nothing will kill a marriage faster then money issues ,so save for your wedding and whatever you two have saved for the wedding is all you will get to spend on it. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 5:48:48 PM | | Egads! 30k? I think last marraige the licence and taxes ran me about 70 dollars. The church wedding a few months later ran about 1500. The divorce only cost me 60 dollars, no kids no contested was cheaper to get divorced lol! | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:09:30 PM | | Yeah, no thanks. Unless they have millions, any man/woman that needs to spend 30k on a wedding would not be worth marrying IMO. That would tell me the person doesn't have their life priorities straight. A financial disaster marriage in the making. | |
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toyoux
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Joined: 5/28/2006
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:20:16 PM | | I can't fathom spending that kind of money on a wedding! Even if I had an extra 30k laying around.........I wouldn't spend it on a wedding!! Now, taking a year to backpack through Europe.............YEP! | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:27:22 PM | I think I read somewhere that the "average" cost of a wedding these days is around $10,000 to $20,000? I was shocked. Why in the world, would anyone spend that kind of money on ONE day??? Ridiculous to me. Even if I change my mind about marriage and say "yes" to someone who asks, I would hope that he's a cheapskate like me and we keep the wedding cheap too. Anything more then $1,000 bucks on a wedding is too much. Heck, I'd even go for the $50 buck justice of the peace wedding down at city hall. That would be good enough for me.
But to go into debt over a wedding? That's just crazy to me. How can people even afford a $30,000 wedding??? And what the hell are they spending all of it on? Flowers? Yeesh. That's just nuts to me. Nuts. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:33:15 PM | i say take a nice trip to the caribbean (but not Jamaica) and get married there. go all inclusive. pay for it yourself, not the father of the bride. should set you back about $6000 or a little more. good deal.
less and less people are getting married today anyway but unless you have more money than you know what to do with spend it on a decent home - STILL your best investment in these downtimes. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:40:43 PM | IMO....it is just stupid to spend that amount of money on a wedding in any economic state! There are soooooooooooooooooooooooo many better things that I can think of to spend that kind of money on...such as paying towards my mortgage, my son's college education, braces for my son, paying off my car, etc...........
I'm all for a ceremony at my church and dinner at the Cheesecake Factory with close family and friends....wouldn't even come close to $30,000! Insane to spend that kind of money on a second in time. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:47:58 PM | My SO and I are having a commitment ceremony in Sept... Marriage is to over rated, and it seems more romantic to stand before the 5 river vortex in Sedona, and commit to each other for life with out a silly piece of paper...
My dress, already did the white thing, was found at Goodwill for 30 bucks, It will be redesigned by a designer, FOR FREE, pays to have cool friends (was probably a bridemaids dress, and cost around 300 bucks brand new)... Outdoors on a warm Sept morning, in the desert, free, paid for the vacation that includes free breakfast 1300... No brides maids, groomsmen or wedding cake, PRICELESS...
Selfish, nah, we can have a potluck to announce the wedding to friends, even wear the silly clothes... Friends who understand that some of us "old agers" (hate the term new agers, since this is how things were done in ancient times) more priceless... Grand total 3500, and that includes the 3 days in Sedona, airplane, Hilton hotel, and rental car, as well as the wedding frills...
If we had 30,000 we'd set up a hydroponic gardening community... Just for the thrill out of feeding people food that tastes like real food...
It isn't for everyone, but neither is spending 30,000 0n a wedding that has about a 50/50 chance of survival these days...
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:50:01 PM | | Usually the Bridezilla's of this sort are also looking for the 15-20k Tiffany ring. Whomever equates $$ to love, doesn't really know the true meaning. Don't get me wrong, I'm certainly one that likes to treat a SO well, but let's be realistic and grounded in real life too. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:54:02 PM | I'm in the wedding business...book receptions on a daily basis. The average cost of just the reception is roughly $120 inclusive per person. The average guest list is about 200 guests...so dinner and bar $24,000. Granted I'm in an upscale facility. Once you add this to the invitations, dress, flowers, photographer, videographer, entertainment, cake and so on, you're most likely well over the $30k range.
I see this type of wedding cost for first timers more so than the second time around.
Me personally, if I get the opportunity to do it again...Key West, sunset dinner cruise on one of those clipper ships...shots for everyone at Schooners Wharf after. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:55:55 PM | I wouldn't want one but if one does and they can raise the money to do it, good for them. Better to keep the economy going than to stop spending.  | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:57:34 PM | Considering that I fall into the marriage/commitment is a state of mind category given that today's divorce rate is approaching 60%, I highly doubt I will be spending that much on a wedding. If I were independently wealthy and had that type of cash, well, I'd probably have to do something philanthropic instead.
And really, who wants a BMW or a Mercedes when you can have an Aston Martin v8 or v12 Vantage, daaahhlin, with that kind of money? | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 7:04:35 PM | | Not me - if I were to do it again, it'd be an outdoor wedding with 50 of my closest friends and family. Finger sandwiches, cake and punch. I'd take the remainder of the money and use it for a down payment for a house. | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 7:12:26 PM | | No way... I think that you will find that the length of the marriage is directly related to the cost of the weddings, also. | |
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ndulj
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Joined: 5/27/2007
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 7:24:19 PM | The Wedding Report puts the AVERAGE in the states at about $20,398 for 2009, down from $21K in 2008.
The MEAN is more in the neighborhood of $14K.
kimber is right for an upscale facility, but the number of weddings that fall in that range and up is much fewer than the number that falls below it. Believe me, I have ripped these numbers apart eight way to Sunday for a couple of years now and a heck of a lot more weddings happen for around $5K to $10k than any other price.
someone else made a point that what you see on TV is sensationalism. Bingo.
The wedding industry WANTS women to believe that they have to spend that much or they won't have their "perfect Day". Well that's bullshit.
Yep, I write for the wedding industry.
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toyoux
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Joined: 5/28/2006
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 7:25:05 PM | ^^^^^I am a gold digging whore. May I borrow $5.00?
Edit: Ooops! That was to Cereal...........but what the heck! Can I borrow $5.00 from everyone on here? | |
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| Spending $30,000 or more on a wedding.
Posted: 4/12/2009 7:40:01 PM | | Why the heck would any mature person want to get married? Weddings are archiac and are promises only for fools. And everyone knows, a fool and their money are soon parted. | |
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