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Posted: 4/13/2009 11:26:46 AM | i literally have had enough lol. i just come out of a long term relationship. so i thought id try somethng like this as a freind suggested to me. only been a few days and messaged some people but i dont think im going to get anywhere. i havent got any good pics for a start nor a webcam yet so i think i may find it hard. I dont want to come acros needy or depserate because i really am not, however im honest and thought thats the way i should be. i want a nice girl, genuine, someone i can treat, spoil and just want them to be honest and be there for me..... but messaging girls i dont know hw to come acrss, girls whats best and guys what works? | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 11:57:24 AM | That's the spirit!!!! You have the will to fight like the French did in WWII!!
P.S. Girls LOVE confidence, and you displayed none with this thread (which they can see in your profile). I would delete and start over because you're looking like a sappy earth worm.
Better man up soon or you'll be jerkin' the gherkin for a long time, man. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 12:13:08 PM | Do you realise how sweet that actually sounds?! lol
Just keep doing what you are doing. I was a bit baffled by all this, only joined for a giggle to see what happens. But made some good friends on here.
The best approach i reckon is to just say hi how are you?? i very rarely dont reply if someone emails me that, it would be inpolite not to lol
But thats just my opinion.
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Posted: 4/13/2009 12:38:29 PM | Lukey,
Viewed your profile...for starters, listing your best qualities as "all the boring stuff" is not exactly inspired writing. Between the profile and this post, I'll make the assumption that your break-up is recent and you're still hurting. Might want to search the forums for healing up from a broken heart. Just my opinion...your mileage may vary.
And, to answer your question...when writing just be yourself. " Hiya...I liked your profile for (X) reason and would like to talk to you more" is always a good start. If you are a lover, be a lover. If you are a smartass, be a smartass. Be yourself. Understand that writing someone is not a guarentee that you're going to get a response. And, I've written people and had the response come weeks later...got some busy people on this site.
Heal up, and keep trying. You're young, you have time, and there are a lot of fish in the sea.
Paul ;) | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 1:05:37 PM | | Hey im kinda in the same situation as Lukey, any profile or pic advice? | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 8:43:06 PM | when i hear the statement "nice guys finish last....", my mind races on the many perspectives and angles of that statement
for example:
when u refer to "nice" , are you refering to pleasing the lady and not yourself?
are you depriving yourself in the relationship?
do you let your lady walk all over you?
then in that case ~ nice guys do finish last
but i totally disagree with that statement:
You can be nice and confident
state your open - have a open mind - and stand your ground if your liberties are at stake
and most importantly - don't be so needy
you can still be a gentlemen and a fighter
- Z | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 7:04:19 AM | When I hear "nice guys finish last.." I start singing the Green Day song. :D
Just be you. Why try to be someone else just to get some shallow gurl/lady/woman to talk to you? When truth is..she's probably not worth it! | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 7:31:39 AM | look at the quote
nice guys finish last.
what's the 3rd word?
it's not about how many times you get knocked down. it's about -how- you finish.
finish strong. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 8:18:49 AM | As they say slow and steady wins the race.
But in all honesty i would just be yourself and being a nice guy with good intentions im sure you will find someone [in time].
Love comes when you least expect it, you never know where you will find it just because your not having the best of luck on here dosent mean anything.
You could meet your mrs right in a shopping mall,gym,train and so on. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 2:07:12 PM | ok....
first off...
you got to at least try and be yourself.. everyone loves a person's individuality. its what makes you ... YOU. this isnt the bar where you have to come up with a ice breaker or however you go up to them... your messeging them so you arent looking at thier face... so it should be alot easier to type something you would normally say in your own words..
messaging gives you alot of time to think about what to write... unlike in real life where you get nervous and might blab out something too fast lol. its happended.
i know how you feel...
im a nice, funny, really out going guy that is very shy in the beginning and thats my downfall...
i always tend to be freinds with everyone but no one to talk to serious.
but ive learned that you cant rush being with someone. be patient and just be around friends.. being alone is only going to make things worse..
when your at the right place at the right time... it will happen... | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 2:38:18 PM | you're pretty young, right Luke? And you gonna throw in the towel???
OK...the reason is that you just came out of a long term ...whatever...that's why you're feeling all jammed up my friend.
Why dont you take some time to see and discover who Luke is??
If you don't want to come across as sounding needy and or desperate....it's too late for that...cuz you do.
When you find Luke....then come on out and play a bit
you'll be alright
Kimbo***********************************
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Posted: 4/15/2009 12:26:43 AM |
But in all honesty i would just be yourself and being a nice guy with good intentions im sure you will find someone [in time].
Love comes when you least expect it, you never know where you will find it just because your not having the best of luck on here dosent mean anything.
You could meet your mrs right in a shopping mall,gym,train and so on.
The above words speak the truth. Keep the faith, and don't let a short term setback challenge your resolve.
Want a good example? Last week I got asked out to lunch by a girl I had a HUGE crush on nearly 30 years ago. We were just kids, in middle school, and she wouldn't give me the time of day. I sent her all kinds of silly love notes, and all the usual stuff young teens did back then in their quest for attention from the opposite sex. I had pursued her all through high school, to no avail. Upon graduation, we drifted apart and hadn't seen or talked to each other for years.
Lo and behold, we got reintroduced through one of the social networking sites, and now she's pursuing me ... including a VERY hot kiss after our lunch date ... a kiss that she initiated. When I asked her why it took almost three decades to get that kiss, she shrugged her shoulders and chalked it up to being young and ignorant back then ... and even went on to admit that she still has every single note I had ever sent her in middle school, because they made her feel special. Since then, we've gone out a second time and have talked nearly every day on the phone.
As the above says ... when you're least expecting it ... your prospects can suddenly change ... and the foundation you build now, can pay off in the future. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 2:54:29 AM | ^^ O.o geez buddy that really came full circle 30 years later eh? haha thats crazy...
on topic-- Everything I was going to say has already been said, so yea. dont sound too needy in your msg's.. and have the heart of a lion.
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Posted: 4/15/2009 11:36:37 PM | | There is a difference between being a nice guy and being a rug, you OP make it sound like you are a rug. Just an FYI | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 1:06:39 AM | | I wouldn't listen to the downers here, obviously everyone on this site IMO thinks nice guys are creepy or lying to themselves, I know I've read it. But whatever let them have their lives and make yours, just remember I've met guys who are divorced that wish they'd never been so dumb to get married, etc. Personally I consider myself nice but I am done being a rug as the other poster stated, I'll be a loaner instead....... a really big loaner, lol Take up drinking, smoking, and analyzing peoples flaws, you'll feel better than begging some echick for herself. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 2:25:20 AM | I have to agree with that comment mademoiselle.
My only sugestion is to be yourself, and when aproaching a woman READ her profile and find something you have in common and go from there. Start slowly and don't just pour your life story out on her in the beginning. And IMHO the "Boring stuff" is what a quality woman finds endearing and attractive about a man.
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Posted: 4/16/2009 4:39:38 AM | hello lukey
I would suggest adding a little more to your profile, like any hobbies you have, your favorite music, and movies, etc. For instance, you say you're always up for a laugh..what is it that would make you laugh? Girls typically look at a profile before they respond to emails, and they're more likely to respond if they are able to have some idea who you are. When you're sending someone an email, just type whatever you would say to that girl if you were talking to her in person. (You should be able to pick up some ideas for a conversation starter by reading her profile) This will help you come across as you genuinely are. That approach may not work with every girl, but it will work with the one that's right for you, and she's the only one that matters. You seem like a great guy, and I'm sure you will find a really sweet girl. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 12:10:46 PM | | Did you ever want to puck with the hip language, the "lol," bull. No need for a response lol. | |
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