Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/12/2004 1:23:09 PM | | some people live in small towns and everyone knows everyone...they might be ashamed or whatever..maybe even afraid that someone might recognize them on a dating site... | |
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Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/12/2004 1:27:18 PM | | Hi excalibur:) ummmm ya think .. i live in a small town , well use to now... maybe thats it.. I know i dont care what the ppls from my small town thought coz it was all french hehe and i dont think they would of been to a site like this well beeing english:) Laters | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/12/2004 1:35:23 PM | I understand your question vanni -
its simple from my point of view for me - i live in a small place thats not my problem.
My problem is it would have an effect on my business so if anyone wants a picture of me theres no problem i send it to them direct. | |
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| To post or Not To post your photo???
Posted: 10/13/2004 1:34:04 PM |  I agree that posting a photo can be a real hazard...*J* 
But it's better to try and show your best side,then to suggest that you are other than you are...*J*
Ladies see men in a different light then we see our selves,They will decide if we are atractive to them or not...*J* 
I find that it is best to keep it short,Post a bunch of photo's and send a bunch of flir's out,responding to The Forum is good too,because more ladies will see more of who you are then they may see in your profile...(-;
Down side to posting your photo,well I live in a small town,everybody know's everybody,none of them are going to date me,so I get snickers,I get yelld at on street corner's,I get strange look's when I'm out and about...*J*
But long ago I read on a dating site ( How do you know,if your ready to date again??? it said " If your eady to be insulted,slapped, cheated,recieve public scorn,face rejection and just keep on trying till you find your special one,Then your ready to date again" ) and I have to agree,that all these thing's will happen and more...(-;
But it's better than watching re-run's of Saturday Night Live...(-;
Good or bad,Ladies are always more fun than watching TV,and being an avid player of The Dating Game, I am on several Dating Sites so I can see much more of the game being layed here...*J*
No matter what anyone states on their profile,everyong has their own little game...(-;
My game is simple,I would really enjoy a lot of female companionship,Friend,Companion,Hang out,Marriage I don't care, I'm just tired of talking to my Cat's and watching the years go by...(-; | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/13/2004 2:19:40 PM | It is an accepted gender trait that males are more visually sexually stimulated than females. Such and importance can possibly lead to many women being self-conscious about their looks. It's common to hear a man state that he likes a woman’s breasts above hearing that a man likes a woman’s personality. Perhaps some men have a fear that women will be as harsh a critic when it comes to being visually attracted to them. Following is 8 reasons why some people don't post pictures. My reason being the last, although I do appreciate seeing other people's pictures posted. And in addition to the next reasons, there is also the fact that some men although on the site, are still not technologically advanced, lol....no, I'm kidding.....many people still do not have scanners, digital cameras, cams, etc. or access to them. Cheers, Dateless
- A fear that one will be judged too quickly & harshly by posting a photo since you can see pictures without reading the full profile or even the beginning part of it.
- Self conscious about appearance.
- Afraid someone will think they are not sexy after they have declared it.
- Don't want to be recognized by friends and relatives.
- Want "who they are" their personality to be judged before one's looks.
- Don't want people who know them already to have a means by which to anonymously message them or harass them.
- A picture could possibly cut down on the number of interested parties since one way of judging someone is looks. Whereas if there is no pic, then people would only have words by which to judge someone and people who are particularly keen or people who have a dislike for a certain body type or facial features, etc. might still message such people.
- Considers a picture of oneself personal property until given. Any picture on the net can be copied and saved and they may not want their picture available in this way. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/13/2004 3:41:41 PM | I don't have one uploaded and even if I did, wether positive or negative, I like to take advantage of this unique opportunity to get to know someone and showcase my personality without my appearance involved in the other's person's perception of me. A load of crap you say? Well I dated someone who I met from this site for 4 months who never saw a picture of me in the first 2 weeks of online chatting before we finally met in person and because she also didn't have a pic in her profile, I declined to see one of her when she offered with this same explanation. When we met, she was very pleased and we remain great friends even now after having been appart for a 3 months or so.
We called the romance quits after about 4 months for ONE specific reason in case you're wondering but if anyone ever questions my logic here, I can use her as a referrene...LOL
She now has a picture up in her profile. I never will. My appearance has NEVER been a problem for me, just the opposite...but it's ultimately up to the person if they care to take that chance. Those who have have been pleasantly surprised..I can prove that. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/13/2004 4:28:07 PM | I bet the men who don't post their pics look at those woman who have pics ????
I have just started posting my pic myself !!
People don't seem to want, no it's probably they don't have the time to view all the profiles, so our ever fast paced society, doesn't have the time to waste !!!
I think the pic makes the look that much faster but as the saying goes,
If we take the time to smell the Roses, life will not pass us by !!
The pic seems to be a problem !! I think for those who don't post a pic a simple message asking for a pic is a little more private !! Don't you ??
I have found in most cases if a profile intrigues me and I ask, there is usually a pic sent !!
What really bothers me is the married men !!!!!!!
Why don't they post their pics ????
I would like to know what is so wrong about trying to meet people who are also trying to meet people !! You can meet the so called bad person at the bar, or grocery store, or walking down the street!!
Just my opinion !!
Have a great Day !!
Anyone have better ideas on how to meet people ?? | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/13/2004 4:36:11 PM | | I'd like some better ideas on how to meet people myself. The bar scene never did cut it with me. I've met some cool people but never any dates. I'd like to meet a nice, caring, intellegent woman who isn't caught up in all of the shallow BS that most women are caught up in these days. Where should I go? A library? | |
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Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
Msg: 12 | |
| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 9:09:35 AM | I agree with ya tuesdays2 , i don't mind guys not having there pics posted i was just wondering , but i guess its true that when u look at a profile and it intrigues u only haft to ask for it in private after :) ... And i definatly agree with u abt trying to meet ppls who are also trying to meet ppls whats with that .. Yur at the bar one night u see this guy/girl u would like to talk to , go up say hi.. whats the difference with online.. Y are ppls so scared?
I fine its the same thing but thats my opinion to :)
This site has been great tho , i have met tons off ppls from around my area...
Have fun all and thnx for the responces :) | |
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DR.J69
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Joined: 9/26/2004
Msg: 13 | |
| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 2:00:37 PM | | because women are to brutal when it comes to picking and choosing thier mates, it's like 200 possible choices just isn't enough,they need an additional 40000000000000000000000000 choice to ensure the best possibilities. Which is cool an all but i beleive women are more superficial than men,women are the most beatiful creature in the goddesses land so i think they want an,or as attractive man as they are. | |
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dae
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Joined: 6/2/2004
Msg: 14 | |
| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 3:15:26 PM | | When a man writes me and he has no pic on his profile, I think it's unfair, after all, he can see me, but I'm not allowed to see him, when I took off my pic, I had no responses. There is always talk of 'chemistry', looks are important in a way, I don't mean he has to be gorgeous, but I like to see eyes, and facial expressions, face shapes are one thing that attracts as well, a person can say great things to attract someone, but may be not be what he says. I'm not after a hunk, just a great guy! | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 3:25:46 PM | | Mine is posted........you get more responses with a photo. And you don't set yourself up for disappointment if someone doesn't like what they see after the fact | |
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Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
Msg: 16 | |
| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 3:54:26 PM | | I agree with ya Coach not everyone is the same , Everyone likes someting abt a person and if everyone was HOT or Slim (perfect) sord of speak it would just be boring.. I like the fact that when u chat with someone and both of u have no pic , U get to know the person really by his or her personality but what happens after u do send the pic , cant be disapointing sometimes.. Its like when ya buy something clothes exemple u like what u see u try it on yur comfy in it u look great ok buy it hehe | |
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Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
Msg: 18 | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 4:25:09 PM | | Nobody on the website has ever contacted me. As long as I don't have a picture up, I can assume it's only because anyone who has seen my profile just thinks what I wrote is stupid or doesn't make me sound interesting. If I put up a picture, when I continue to not get contacted by other users, I can start thinking it might be because nobody thinks I'm good-looking. I'd rather be ignored because of what I wrote than what I look like, it's a lot less depressing. | |
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Vanni
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Joined: 9/6/2004
Msg: 20 | |
| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/15/2004 4:30:51 PM | | Am not sure if u have been on the site long Parasite but give it time ... U haft to send out messages to and dont give up .. Yur profile is just fine :) u have said lots of what yur looking for and thats great.. Good luck in yur search :) | |
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rjn40
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Joined: 2/15/2004
Msg: 23 | |
| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/16/2004 12:07:30 PM | my pic is on mine.. has been for a while, still no difference in the amount of e mails I get now then from when I didn't have my pic in there.
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/16/2004 1:25:43 PM | My picture is on my profile, and it has made a small but siginificant difference in the number of responses I have received.
I think my profile scares off more responses than my picture does. | |
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