| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 8:01:00 AM | | I finally had to break it off with someone i really cared about. Its hard to let him go but i know its the best thing for both of us. Its hard to just move on, I am not good at the broken heart stuff (but who really is) just any advice on when i should talk to him again or see him, do i just ignore him and let time takes its course? | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 8:03:32 AM | who were you before you met him?
everybody seems to forget, right?
learn to fall in love with yourself again | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 8:55:12 AM | Um...you've only been here two months.
How much could there really be to hold on to? | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 9:37:08 AM | | I was with him for seven months and i have been on pof since July of last year | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 11:10:38 AM | | Souds kinda short lived. you didnt spend years with him. There wan't to many emotions envolved was there. Like plans of a wedding and kids ect ect. Sounds like it was just a relationship that wasn't ment to be. Ya just leave him alone. If you didn't want to be with him then why do you want to be friends? Just encase? | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 11:26:33 AM | You really need to maintain no contact for a bit. Give both of you time to heal up. No contact means just that...no phone / text / blogs / profiles / drive-bys. If he's still in love with you, or you with him, contact just prolongs that hurt.
You know the drill from there. Reconnect with friends, find activities, try not to cure your hurt with too much alcohol. In time, the pain will dissipate.
Paul ;) | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 12:50:51 PM | OP... what was the reason you HAD to break up with him?
If there were obvious deal breakers, then you should stick to your guns and move on.
I know your heart is hurting right now, but you will be alright in a couple of months.
If the issues were petty and nonsensical, then I would advise you to give it another shot.
But, I believe, from the tone of your question, that the issues are probably insurmountable. | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/14/2009 6:24:51 PM | If you can't cut it off completely - then just try to wean it off.
I broke the no-contact '"rules" a few time and understood the cocnsequences.
I know I am weak! lol
Not telling you what to do.
Just want to let you know that if you can hold out as lomg as you can - is best for you and for him as well.
Love, lust, desire and passion, they are stronger than us all, nobody is immune to their effects.
So be gentle with yourself.
xoxooxo
T2 | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:13:40 AM | | In my opinion the best thing to do when you break up with someone is to simply erase them from your life completely, maybe difficult but it's the only way to truly move on. Just get of any reminders and DON'T contact the person again, then you can start afresh yourself. Once a relationship is over that's it. The end. | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:37:53 PM | It's never easy, but time is your best ally in this case.
Take it one day at a time and at this point there's no real point in contacting him, as you might start having thoughts of possibly getting back together and it would only drag you down and hinder your progress.
Move onward and upwward. | |
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/15/2009 10:45:25 PM | My ex-wife doesn't want me too be happy,she is still living in the past,she need too let go and going on with her life.
Let me be with my children,stop saying lies about me.
Ron | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 7:31:49 PM | | The best thing to do is get up brush yourself off and say the hell with him and find someone else | |
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Joined: 1/21/2009
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| Letting go and going on
Posted: 4/18/2009 11:02:58 PM | The best thing you can do is to continue on with your life and just let things happen as they do. Don't make it a point to go out and talk to him, but at the same time, don't make it a point to ignore him either. The more you ignore someone hoping that your feelings will go away, the stronger they come back and the worse you feel. But constantly going to them and keeping in touch with them, especially after a break-up, is only going to make things even harder.
Spend time with your friends, go out with them and have fun, maybe even start talking to a guy or two. That way, symbolically speaking, on the road of life he'll be something along the side of the road as you drive-by, and not a road-bump that blows out your tire, causing you to spin out and crash.
....if that makes sense :)
Good luck. | |
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