| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 5:38:38 AM | Being a man who likes 'more mature women' I always fee alittle apprehensive about contacting older women as it can sometimes be hard to judge if a woman is open to the idea of being flatered and woowed by a younger man.
So do you find it a compliment or not to be contacted by a younger man? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 5:54:12 AM |
So do you find it a compliment or not to be contacted by a younger man?
I don't find it a compliment to be contacted by anyone. A contact is an just expression of interest based on my profile, and it may or may not lead to a discussion/meet/relationship where compliments are involved. (That sounds weirdly cold as I read it back, but a contact is just a contact, nothing more.)
I always fee alittle apprehensive about contacting older women as it can sometimes be hard to judge if a woman is open to the idea of being flatered and woowed by a younger man.
It can sometimes be hard to judge if a woman is open to meeting anyone, regardless of age. Same with men. That's where contacting people & talking directly to them comes in. You don't need to judge, you just need to ask.
Also, apprehension is not attractive. Confidence is. Contact people who look interesting to you; don't contact people who don't. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 6:20:37 AM | So (not scouting for leads lol but) what in your eyes is too young?
I think any woman would be aware of say a 18-20ry contacting them and again I guess this is different for everybody as we're all different but for women between 40 and 50 whats too young?
Don't worry I wont be contacting you if you say "25-30 is fine for me" lol | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 6:28:56 AM |
So (not scouting for leads lol but) what in your eyes is too young?
If you can't read carefully, you're too young.
That's where contacting people & talking directly to them comes in. ... Contact people who look interesting to you; don't contact people who don't.
You're too young. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 6:29:53 AM | I get a lot of younger men contacting me, many younger than my own sons, which does amuse me..lol.
I tell guys I am happy to chat online if free and at my pc but not interested in meeting up.
Some really do try to insist that they don't care about age and sometimes I have to SHOUT...sorry, but I do care about age!!
I dont know why a lot of younger guys are interested in mature women, especially when sometimes they are just looking for sex, that intrigues me; why choose an older body? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:05:46 AM | Well, if a woman is on here just to get cheap thrills then of course it's a compliment! It is a validation for the woman that she is desirable to younger men; which by proxy makes the woman feel younger. It's a cheap thrill that lasts about thirty seconds...until you mention that you are interested in higher minded pursuits and the window closes in your face...LOL.  You don't even have to be mean or turn the guy down...just talk about the latest book you have been reading....OMG!! Life is a bowl full of cherries, isn't it?    | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:09:19 AM | OP: Let's see, you are 28 and this is the 45+ forum. I'm going to assume you are probably interested in women in their forties. Trying to think back that far.....uhmmmm....I would not have been at all interested in a man your age when I was in my 40's (and definitely am not now)...so I think any overtures or interest shown by a man your age at that time in my life would perhaps have been flattering, but definitely not something I would have taken seriously. I dated a man who was 36 when I was 44...8-10 years is about as much younger as I would consider dating, then and now.
I imagine there might be some women in their 40's who would consider dating you, but I don't think it's typical....most probably wouldn't be interested. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:22:51 AM | OP,
I think one of the things that may make a difference is if you contact an older woman purely for sex, i.e you won't be seen out in public with them! There are some women on here who like younger men, but that can be a dealbreaker!
So I imagine that might limit how old you'd go.
Most older women on here get their share of young men contacting them for whatever reason.
In my view, it's no compliment for a woman to be contacted solely for sex from any man, younger or older, unless, of course that's all she's looking for....
JMO | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:20:51 AM | Frankly, I think that women should be flattered that a younger guy shows interest.
After a certain age,if I understand the women that I've listened to in the past, the level of interest in women starts to drop off and usually falls to a low level for the rest of their lives.
Now, I have to assume, that there are exceptions to this (Sophia Loren,Cheryl Tiegs,etc) but most women (well those that HAD attracted attention in their youth) usually seem to notice the traffic at their website tapers off after a certain age.
Having said all that, why would any REASONABLE flirtation or interest be turned down?
If you are trying to sell the house...you really can't complain about who comes to view it,can you? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:33:51 AM | OP, if you want to be taken seriously you have to have a reason for *liking a more mature woman...otherwise you are saying..."Hey you are old so thereby you dont get alot of attention so you might be desperate enough that I might get lucky with you"
So what is there about More Mature Women that you like, well other than the fact you think you might get laid pretty easy? ...Do you want to date one? Do you want to be seen out in public, holding hands, slow dancing knowing that everyone else is talking about you the whole time? Or is it one of those Ill slide in when no one else is around and amuse myself with you?
Or do you think there is a Demi Moore in your future? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:43:44 AM |
If you are trying to sell the house...you really can't complain about who comes to view it,can you?
This house isn't for sale. Not even for rent, to ANYone with that attitude.
Kinda doubt if that attitude will be appreciated by very many here.
Advice: head off to another forum, little guy.
You are right, breath: that whole post suggests that we are so old and unattractive, we should take whatever we can get. Where have I heard that before? Surely not on these very forums? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:53:51 AM | I have to agree with scatterzoom, not the flirting part. If he is seriously looking meaning not sex I don't see the problem. If he was desperate he might go for the ugly women his age? Age doesn't maturity. I dated a woman that was 49 when I was 32 she was hardly mature for her age. I knew a girl that was 22 that dated a man in his mid 30's, she was very mature wanting to get married and all. Her ex boyfriend that was her age wasn't mature enough, he wasn't ready for marriage or the other things she wanted.
I don't see any harm for a meet, you can't have too many friends. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:28:38 AM | | I am not interested in men that are the age of my children, in fact more than a few years younger than me is all I am willing to concede but this has more to do with my own insecurities than it does with attraction or compatibility. I have a friend who is my age and whose children are much younger than mine ( I don't know if that has anything to do with it but I suspect it does) and she loves younger men! Absolutely. She will meet a man her own age and whisper to me that he is awfully old. It's quite amusing at times. I have another friend who is the other extreme and always went for the older guys. She ended up marrying someone 15 years her senior and they are very happy. Different strokes. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:36:09 AM | well, it can be sweet to have interest, but as far as reciprocating i doubt that it'd be with someone who's of an age that i could have given birth to
it seems that up to 10 years either way is where i've been most comfortable with chatting and have the most in common
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Having said all that, why would any REASONABLE flirtation or interest be turned down?
If you are trying to sell the house...you really can't complain about who comes to view it,can you?
no complaints about the views - just because someone might find you attractive it doesn't mean that you have to return the favour
... to continue your house analogy: just because some termites might find the house tasty, doesn't mean you should invite those little worms to dine ;D | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:42:00 AM | I'm pushing 60. No way would I date anyone under 45.
I like to ask them what is it about the older women they like? Is it our flapping underarms, the soft hanging breasts, the cellulite thighs (look like cottage cheese packed into flesh coloured pantyhose). Get real kiddies. We're not desperate (err..I'm not) and it's not going to be an easy lay.
When they ask if I like younger men I say... "yes.. well marinated and slow cooked"
That said. I do thank them for their interest because, on some level, it is flattering. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:45:25 AM | | I did date someone who was 15 years younger than me for a while. I ended up feeling more like his mother......... So no, I wouldn't do it again and wouldn't be flattered by a younger man contacting me. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:46:10 AM | men more than ... say ... 8 years younger than I am ... don't communicate at the same level ... younger men will say, "she's very mature," meaning, "she wants to get married!"
whereas, if I were to say "she's very mature," I'd mean more along the lines of "she's really got it together, knows where she's going, has stability and direction in her life ... she's not going to be impressed by meaningless youthful exuberance!"
I have dated a lot of men younger than I am ... by maybe 8 years ... I admit that, for a short while, I dated a man almost 20 years younger than I was but I swear that was an accident ... he looked much older, was from Germany and didn't speak the language all that well!
unfortunately, lately ... I seem to "draw" a LOT of men who start out their communications with me by saying, "YO! BABE UR HOT!" or "GIMME TRY YU LIK!"
somehow ... I doubt we'd have much in common to discuss.
they may be mature within their age group ... but ... they're hardly quoting Ralph Waldo Emerson, Plato's discussions with the master (Socrates), Ernest Holmes or any other of the spiritual and wise men of history ...
they won't understand the perils of refinancing their houses ... or investments disappearing before your very eyes ...
they don't even KNOW the people I think about ... even existed ... they don't REMEMBER the day Kennedy was shot ... (sometimes I can ALMOST remember the day Lincoln was shot!) ...
the negativity within me suspects they think I'm an old woman they wouldn't be seen dead with in public ... but ... if they're NICE TO ME ... I might be "grateful" for their attentions? 1st guess ... 2nd guess is that they mite think I have more money to spread around than their current girlfriends ...
but ... that's just me being suspicious ... silly me! I'm sure they REALLY think I'm hot and that whole lik thing ...
Molly | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:54:43 AM |
unfortunately, lately ... I seem to "draw" a LOT of men who start out their communications with me by saying, "YO! BABE UR HOT!" or "GIMME TRY YU LIK!" .........but ... that's just me being suspicious ... silly me! I'm sure they REALLY think I'm hot and that whole lik thing ...
Nice to know that the young can still wax lyrical when occassion demands. When I had a picture posted I got a letter from someone enthusing about my looks. I suggested he needed to get his rose tinted spectacles checked out. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 10:47:36 AM | Shortly after I joined this site, I was contacted by two younger women -- one, an Asian lass with a rather vile mouth when I politely declined her invitation and the second, a pretty young girl who seemed rather confused. Neither case seemed like a compliment to me, as my reaction to both was: "Huh ?? Is there something I'm missing here ??"
I think you'll find, OP, that most older women don't need younger men to flatter them. They get quite enough from their own age bracket. And the reason for the flattery is usually more along the lines of what they're looking for.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:45:45 AM | Ladies,
I'm certainly not suggesting that ANY woman on this site or in forum is old or unattractive.
But I did repeat what I was told by women my age and older about how they perceived themselves and the attention they were getting after a certain age.
But, let's see:
How many women on here complain about not finding men around their age or older?
How many women on here complain about not finding the "right" man for them?
How many women on here are looking for a "soul mate" that according to them is the right age,height,weight,eye color, race, national origin, that does/doesn't have kids,that is/isn't employed,that is/isn't married,etc.
And...this is my favorite lives within a self-specified distance from the woman that thinks he'll be their "soul mate?"
So having narrowed the promising applicants for the job down to a probable few, it seems that the women on here are now dissatisfied w/ the fact that there's not much left.
And also that what's left might not be interested in THEM.
If you then decide that you don't want to acknowledge that somebody outside of your self-selected group has decided to contact you...how can you honestly complain because you are alone?
Or am I misreading all of the postings on here? | |
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I'd just figure he was desperate! 
