| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 1:55:09 PM | | Ive been on the this site for awhile left because i got into a relationship and came back when i was single again with some updated information new pictures and hoped that i might be able to meet someone that shares similar interests has some of the qualities that i like similar tastes and low and behold i was impressed.Reading and going through many different profiles i saw alot of women of different ethinicities,ages, backgrounds that seemed to share alot of the same interests and were looking for some of the qualities i know i have and i thought ok i have a shot.Im not mr optimistic im mr realistic so i figured with all these women i should be able to at least talk to a handful of them maybe we'd be friends or maybe we just wont hit it off lol never even gets to that point because......they have to respond first lol and it never ok maybe not never but close enough happens.All i see is read delete or read with no response and i wonder WHAT ARE THEY REALLY LOOKING FOR!?I mean i know im a regular guy but im not a loser work plan on going back to school in the near future pay my own bills have a sense of humor try to stay fit e.t.c.(checkout my profile)lol and yet i get back nothing?Honestly im not one of those guys thats looking to hook up with the prettiest woman on here and those are the ones im after then it would make more sense im after regular attractive women who seem to be looking for and want the right things respect,honest ,sense of humor a guy that sends decent messages and asks real questions and not just about their bra size and yet nothing?My question to the women on here is then whats the deal?Is it race,money,height,weight....ya'll get the picture lol and to the guys is it just me thats having this problem or is this the norm ?Please enlighten me. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 2:01:46 PM | Yes it does happen. There's really nothing you can do. I get messages and cards once in a while, but never ,except in a couple of occasions do I talk to one who I really like.
That's the problem when you try to find love on a site and the only thing you go by is a picture and a profile. I wish you good luck and also be patient and if you like someone it sometimes takes a little more than a couple of emails before they warm up to you. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 2:09:11 PM | | my guess is they want freinds and not much else, or they want guys who spend money on them. because many reject love outright when it is offered(or atleast the potential of it) | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:09:53 PM |
Nothing less than 60% off Sale at Macy's. New shoes. A huge sausage.
Your fecking kidding me right?
Macy's has huge sausage 60% off?  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:14:25 PM | They're looking for guys younger than them,to take them world traveling. their profiles look like excerpts from "romance novels" and most sound like they're describing their dog.(affectionate,loyal,lovable,ETC) Looks don't matter to them,as long as you look like Brad Pitt,Mel Gibson ,ETC and have their income.
I've tried to cancel POF a few times,but keep getting "new profiles from administration". It's the same ones,nothing new.
I like to think as them as the Losers. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:24:39 PM | They're looking for a guy dense enough to think that "women" (which implies "all") can be generalized in terms of their wants, etc.
Easier to control the feeble-minded. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 5:12:26 PM | | Well,I wish I had a clue also,what they want.But I would not take it personal.Because I think a lot of guys feel the same as you do.I know I do,What they say in their profile,does not always mean ,what they are looking for,it is what the wish for,I guess.I must tell also ,A lot of these ladies came on this site,and some guys ,really did a number on them,and nice guys like us ,well they do not trust anyone,It sucks for nice guys. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 5:32:26 PM | In answer to what women are REALLY looking for; I can only say that they don't KNOW what they're looking for. This is especially true for someone who's been single for a long time and/or dated too much.
Sleazebags with a trillion in the bank and a penis extension for a car believe that they stand a better chance. Sure they do, but the women they attract are gold diggers and who the heck truly wants a shallow chick like that in the first place. I certainly wouldn't. Wit, humor, looks and brains attract more guaranteed.
As for the mentality among women on this site, well I couldn't care less because I'm just here for the forums. Let's just say that I do my fishing elsewhere. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 5:37:19 PM | I can't speak for *all* women but I did go to your profile and read it.
I think you may get more of a response if you checked your spelling and grammer.
I really am not being critical here... I'm just trying to help.
Best of luck,
~Lady~ | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 6:11:19 PM | I don't think that by generalizing will get you guys somewhere. I could also say the same things that many of you guys are saying here in regards to what women want. Take it for example:
* Men say "I don't care much about the looks, it counts what its inside"...Oh, really?
* Looking for "well educated woman with whom to share intelligent conversations"...and usually these conversations end by men asking what are you wearing now.
* Quick witted, outgoing, laughter....blah, blah, blah.....WHAT ARE MEN REALLY LOOKING FOR?
I could say that at the age of middle to late 40s.....men are still trying to get Barbie dolls. C'mon men...isn't it the character of the person that should count? Are you men still browsing on the clouds for that perfect with all viertues woman? Are men trying to find a trophy to brag about or are men trying to find a lady with many good qualities? Can someone asnwer me? | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 6:12:13 PM | | Socks, I know I've said it before, but I seem to always be looking for a lot of socks. They need to look just like the ones in the box in the laundry room. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 6:58:28 PM | the same as everyone else.
20's: Sex
30's: Love and commitment
40's: Their lawyer
50's: Their second life
60's: Their retirement fund
70's: Their keys
80's: Their walker
90's: Their Depends
100's+: They forget... | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 7:05:54 PM | Sigh
Your post is a why don't women want a nice guy wrapped up in a rant thread isn't it OP?
Come now...you honestly don't believe that the competition on these sites is pretty fierce do you? You're one of thousands, not one of hundreds, all seeking the very same thing. You aren't saying anything that's not said by men on this site EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Why don't women respond?
You're too young
You're black/not black
You're too far away
You're too old
You're too short/too tall/too thin
You don't have a job/you have the wrong kind of job
You don't look cute in your pictures/you look too cute
You don't like fat girls/skinny girls/tall girls/short girls
The list could go on and on and on...and there wouldn't be an answer. I hate to break it to you, but just because YOU see a woman who interests you, doesn't mean that you interest HER. That's not being mean, it's being honest.
Contrary to popular belief, MOST women here don't get 100's of messages everyday. That's a lie propogated by a bunch of bitter men, trying to justify why they too, aren't getting any play. Well it ain't true, and we will tell you all that all day and you still won't believe it. Well, I hope that you're listening when I say it again. It's not necessarily anything you're doing right or wrong. Maybe it's just not your time right now. Give it time and relax already!!! Try real life dating. Try just being friends. Try anything but concentrating on dating. It'll never be easy but if you get impatient and start whining, trust me it'll get even ahrder than it already is.
Let it come to you versus trying to make it come ok? | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 7:13:48 PM | Aw phuck... not this one again. Okey dokey - here we go:
What are women really looking for?
My keys, my wallet, and a really, really cute, comfy pair of shoes.
WHAT ARE THEY REALLY LOOKING FOR!?
Okay, the fountain of youth, a really cute, comfy bra, and a pool boy named Antonio.
My question to the women on here is then whats the deal? Is it race,money,height,weight.... Yup. That and a whole lot more.
Tip to the wise: Online dating is like shopping when you're hungry. Eat first. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 7:44:19 PM | Holy crap, Nothing Is Constant, how did you get this:
So you want an unintelligent, politically correct, dimwitted moron who hasn't learned anything of substance or value in life... is very naive, devoid of any intellect on the deeper levels, and is easy to manipulate. Those types are pretty highly sought after so they tend to get snatched up relatively soon as they become available.
from this:
What I want is a man who is not a pessimist and who does not generalize about an entire group of people.
Bitter much? I think you might need a little time-out, you're getting cranky. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 8:12:25 PM | I know how you feel, the same has happened to me. I do get replies sometimes but not alot, hell sometimes weeks go by. To be honest I think it speaks for both men and women that we don't really know exactly what we are looking for until we find. I'm nto here looking for a hook up or love at first sight I'm just here to see if I will ahve any luck or not. it's only because of the hours I work that I'm even on here. I can fully understadn how you feel, I've been single for awhile now and I'm sick of it but at the same time I won't settle for someone that I have little interest in or that I'm not attracted to.
The dating scene today sucks both offline and online, So we can all do the best that we can i guess lol | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/16/2009 9:49:14 PM | So you want an unintelligent, politically correct, dimwitted moron who hasn't learned anything of substance or value in life... is very naive, devoid of any intellect on the deeper levels, and is easy to manipulate.
So if you are a positive person who always tries to find the bright side of things then you are dimwitted, a moron and unintelligent?? Wow that's just sad that you would think that. I am not someone who wallows in self pity, self doubt and See's the world in a bad light so I guess I am a moron too.
***backs out of the room to put the troll chow away*** | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/17/2009 12:23:28 PM | Can't answer for all women, but I know what I would like. Smart, energetic, stable, and sexy. What I don't want: couch potato, sports fanatic, internet porn addict, adolescent mentality. Big turn offs: Men who have more hair care products than I do. Neat freaks. Picky eaters. Agressive drivers. What I have learned since I started online dating: There are many men out there who talk way too much. If he talks about sex all the time he probably needs to learn more about it. If he brags about money- he assumes he can buy you. Men who don't tell you they are married should be guillotined. Emails can never take the place of a live conversation. Don't assume that baseball caps look better than a bald head-NOT! Politics is a great conversation starter- but you better know what you are talking about. Don't assume that if I don't want to have sex with you that I don't like sex- WRONG! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/17/2009 6:47:17 PM | | I want a pair of really hot heels I can stand in all day, fabulous hair color that touches itself up, a self-cleaning toilet, and groceries that walk up to my door and ring and the bell. | |
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