| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:09:31 AM | | I am a bit confused. I strike up fantastic conversation, on the site and on the telephone, we pick a day and time to meet. Then we do, the conversation goes well, the same getting along type thing in person that we did before we first met and then something always happens. Could it be that my profile is getting 'hit up' by men who are perpetrating a fraud or actually scared. I couldn't imagine what they could be scared about. While there are psychos on this site, I have met some fantastic men with whom I now have a great friendship with. At least if there is no chemistry with me then we can always maintain a great friendship. It is just the ones that confess one thing and you never hear from them again after the first date. And trust me, there was NEVER any intimacy involved and we met in very public places. Can someone offer some helpful advice? | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:40:31 AM |
It is just the ones that confess one thing and you never hear from them again after the first date.
Some people get caught up in the "Idea" of a person online and on the phone. Then in real life, things fall short of their expectations. This may be the case here, I'm not sure.
I would change your handle -- 69 has it's own connotations, and wander over for a profile review -- a little help never hurt.
And one thing -- it's better to have a first meet and greet -- it takes the pressure off. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:45:41 AM | You just have to chalk it up to people being people ... and you just never know what someone might be experiencing outside your encounter.
I wouldn't take it personally; just move on ... | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 9:51:58 AM | | I dunno why...you look very pretty to me! Seem a bit serious...know any good jokes? | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 10:11:43 AM | | Snm69, your experience is not specific to men but to women as well! There are many women on these sites who initially come across gong-ho with overt expressions of interest and enthusiasm only to dramatically change their tune upon meeting. It has to do with unrealistic expectations on the part of many male/female seekers and their being invested in fantasies of beauty/looks, money and power rather than inner qualities and characteristics that make for a long-term committed relationship. In other words many of these individuals are not ready for a relationship but fulfillment of fantasies. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 10:19:30 AM | | snm69 i must agree with comfort, women too have expectations set rather highly hoping to find the man with best looks best job money body everything. most men are the same i will say that, but for someone to meet up with soemone they have this picture of what they are like in their head of what they will meet in person. well that could end short or it could be beyond what they imagined. my advice take the good with the bad and when the bad dont stick around then dont fret just keep chuggin along sometimes easier said then done. good luck | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 10:20:36 AM | | o and another thing i forgot to mention was the 69 in your name isnt the best way to attract the nice guys some guys see that and think instantly they can get some, hope this helps:) | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 12:39:32 PM | Guys suck. Plain and simple. A majority will tell you that they think you're interesting and they want to get to know you better, and sadly only a small minority actually mean it. Most of them seem to only want one thing ... or at least, a number of female friends I have on this place seem to believe that.
Just keep your head up and realize that it's better to weed out the crazies than to get stuck with one later on.
Good luck. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 1:58:30 PM | | Took the advice and changed my handle plus dropped the 69. They are my initials and birth year and if I want to be taken seriously then I guess I had to change the screen name. I was up before about a month ago and deleted my profile. I am up under a new name so let's see how things work out for me a second time around. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 2:00:11 PM | | Took your advice. It was the advice someone else who read the thread gave me so I actually changed it. They were my initials and birth year. Some how nobody believes that I am nearly 40. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 5:41:21 PM |
Some how nobody believes that I am nearly 40.
You make it sound like that's a bad thing. I must admit you don't look 40 as far as I can see. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:58:45 PM | your Right Randel most guys just think of one thing but real men know how to treat a women and have a good time  | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/17/2009 9:11:26 PM | What a guy wants depends entirely on the guy. I can only ever tell what *I* want. The guy next to me may want something completely different.
You're just going to have to look for the guy who wants the same thing that you do. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:57:43 PM | My own dad told me that men are jerks and idiots. I just wish he would have told me before I was dumped!  | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/18/2009 7:07:04 PM |
Can someone offer some helpful advice?
Ummm... perhaps stop thinking that what you want is what men should also want. Some men don't want to be friends if there's nothing else. And we can have great conversations with people whom we have no intentions of ever dating. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/19/2009 2:48:18 AM | | guys want a slutty woman like Melody. Some one that thinks they are wholesome and in reality are just another easy piece of tail. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:34:38 AM | Not that hard to figure out. - Men just want to get laid. - Nothing more, nothing less. -
It's very very simple. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:43:21 PM | they want the nice wholesome g/f that they can take to meet friends and family....and they also want the slut that they can have sex with....in most cases its not the same woman
in other words...to quote a friend of mine...men are pigs | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:40:55 PM | | un fortinally i think u al are wrong. how i see it . is .. girls have choice... guys have chance. if u are have a prob with a guy****n u over .. look for a diffrent kind of guy dont just blame it on all male's. if 1 guy ****es u over doesnt mean all men should die .. ya no what i mean .. its the ladys choice to be with the ***holes | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/21/2009 5:03:55 PM | I think you've asked or phrased this question in a couple of posts...haven't you snm?
You're confused about what guys really want? Oh please. Would an answer to such a broad general question such as that lead you to the man of your dreams. whew!
How about the fact that a fantastic relationship is very rare, and doesn't grow on every tree you walk by..? You just haven't met the 'Striker' yet, that's all.
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/22/2009 4:18:04 AM | Wow. Both men and women are picky we can all be pig-ish.
I have dated nice guys, and some real strange breeds.
The hope is to find the one person that it is natural and easy with.
That's hard and it sometimes it takes time.
I have dated men that were everything I thought I wanted but when they hugged me goodnight....nothing. NO spark. Not anyone's fault, just happens.
But being the hopeless romantic I am, I know that this is all worth it.
If it didn't work out, try try again. and again and again and again and again and again. | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 4/22/2009 9:37:20 AM | Hello,
I don't know what the conversation was all about ...but what I do know is ....let the man be the chaser and I never give out my number unless they ask for it and I NEVER allow my self to be available everytime keep your schedule full....it keeps them guessing men like the chase. I think maybe the guy was intimidated by you,maybe not who knows....just move on theres alot of guys out there for all of us! lol I think respect goes a long way and now adays alot of ppl do not have respeact for others and alot of ppl take alot for granted. Good luck. Charlie | |
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| What guys really want?
Posted: 5/12/2009 2:34:14 PM | | yeah ...i agree with someone who said "They get caught up with their idea of who you are" which is why i think its best to not talk for very long before meeting that way you have a general idea of who someone is BUT you dont have this built up expectation from talking for weeks or months or however long... | |
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