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Posted: 4/18/2009 7:47:44 PM | I have been on here for a while now, and about four months ago I met this girl from London. We have been chatting alot and even talked on the phone a few times. She is trying to move here, mainly because she was born here and she says that she wants to come back, and be with me. It all started out smoothly, until a few weeks ago where she is telling me that she doesn't have enough money to get here, and that she wants some help with the money. I usually give epeople the benefit of the doubt, but she gets mad and signs off when I ask her questions like, what is the name of the agency that she is going through to get her ticket. A day or so after she disappears, she writes a letter saying how much she wants to be with me and how sorry she is for getting mad.
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Posted: 4/18/2009 7:51:10 PM | sucker.
I have a nigerian princess cousin with a bank full of money. Send me $4,350 today and I will introduce you to her.
Greyhound is less than $300. See what true love says then.... | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 7:52:13 PM | shes a scammer dude
i had severalpeople i chatted to in the past try that same bs,
regardless tho ,if she gets mad and signsoff when you ask her adirect question , what makes you think when she gets here, that her temper tantrums wont get even worse and her expectations grow even higher
she sounds like a wacko , or one of them bipolar people at the lesser end of the spectrum
if she cant pay for herself to come see you, ask yourself why youd be desperate enough to fund some strange womans holiday  | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 7:53:30 PM | yeah, thanks
I will keep that in mind. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 7:59:36 PM | Did she mention more about needing money?
If she was born here, and serious about wanting to be with you, she could look for a job here. As for the initial funds to get here, what happened to old-fashioned saving for the trip?
Not going to the "you're getting suckered" since I don't know either you or her.
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 8:03:05 PM | | oh dear. I was chatting with a guy recently who described someone very similar. maybe we have a scam artist here. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 8:05:19 PM | thanks, I appreciate your response.
I totally agree, saving money for stuff like this should be priority. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 8:14:08 PM | | offer to fly her over with ur air miles thats what i did and it ended | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 9:18:06 PM | | Scam, scam, scam! Tell her that you will go there to meet her first...try searching via the internet and you will probably see lots of others that have been through this. Ask more questions about where she lived here and if it looks copied/paste then it is and she really does not know. Tell her that you cannot afford this but you will support her 100%. Then she will ask you to take a loan out. Then ask her how the weather is in Nigeria - where most of the scam artists live. Oh yeah, and ask her for a picture of herself with her toothbrush or with the local paper showing the date. These people do this for a living and you may not even be speaking to the same person in every conversation. Do you phone her or does she phone you? You are young and you do not need that and I am pretty sure you could meet lots of gals that are just a bus ride away. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 9:36:16 PM | | Run, run as fast as you can. This is a scam and you wouldn't believe the numbers of men and women that have fallen for it. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 11:35:47 PM | I share the sentiments expressed by all the posters.......Put the issue of money aside for a moment will you......It is her mood swings and signing off when she doesn't get a response she is looking for, that would have me concerned......You could end up with a squatter, stressed out and who knows what...Think with your upper head, and think logic.. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 11:39:16 PM | RUN... Run away very very fast and be glad you had the folks on POF to steer you straight.
If you don't follow our advice.. well I have this girl from Nigeria, whose family was expelled from the country, whose father was a king, who was exiled into Monaco, who needs YOUR bank account info in order to claim her millions. She also gives terrific head so she says!! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 11:47:57 PM | I find it kinda scary that he even had to ask the question to begin with....
Obviously his gut was telling him something was not right... should be listening to that right there imo. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 8:44:57 AM | | You should block her and learn from the experience. Count yourself lucky to have not sent some money to her; you wouldn't see her or the cash again. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 8:17:15 PM |
I find it kinda scary that he even had to ask the question to begin with....
Go meet her yourself. Make a holiday out of it. Drive down there, if you like what you see, bring her back with you. If not, or if she doesn't exsist, you got a road trip holiday in. Canada is awesome in the summer for travelling.
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Posted: 4/21/2009 8:22:15 AM | If you like I can act as your escrow, simply send the $$ to me and it will get taken care of. My company is The Fly By Night Balloon Company LTD. We registered it offshore to avoid tax issues. I suggest bearer bonds since there are less implications in terms of transferring funds.
For your convenience we also have a Calgary drop off centre. Place the bonds in a plain brown paper bag, leave this next to the trash bin on the North side of the Greyhound terminal and one of our balloon agents will be by to pick it up
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:13:09 AM | Ditch her... then send me her link.
She sounds hot | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 10:09:28 AM | | Yes, I think you've got that right RBG. I'm about 99.99999% sure she ...er, whoever is in the pictures....is indeed, hot. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 3:48:11 PM | Consider this ...
Why would a woman risk herself to travel halfway across the world to "be with" a guy she barely knows? Four months of Internet chatting and a couple of phone calls (surprised that you actually got her number ...) does not make for a long-term committment. She's playing you, pal ... trust me, if you send her any cash, whatsoever, she'll keep stringing you along. Maybe her plane ticket costs more than anticipated, maybe her dying mother can't afford to kick in as much as promised, maybe she's writing "from the airport" where she, reportedly, was just robbed. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 4:43:01 PM | | like meg 15 says, tell her you are coming to meet her in her country. Think you can book hotels rooms either over the internet or through a travel agent. Worst case is you get a holiday out of it...even if it turns out to be by yourself. My guess if she is phony she will stop the email | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 6:46:16 PM | | Did you also send money to the former Nigeran Minister of Finance? | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 10:18:34 PM | hinterland ... if she does not even have enough money to move here, are you aware that you will also likely be totally supporting her once she is here? And, after six months you will be considered common-law?
You sound like a nice young man, but you really have to be cautious too. Like others have said, go meet her and spend a bit of time with her BEFORE even thinking of bringing her home!
- Keep in mind the saying "a fool and his money are soon parted"....
- take warning from all those who have been generous, only to be kicked in the teeth for it...
(Red flag number one is the fact that she would even tell you that she wants help with the money ... no self-respecting person would even imply they want/need money ... especially so early in a "relationship".) | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 2:11:11 AM | Considering the exchange rate, her net worth is about triple here! Can't she sell her car or something to come up with the money?
I went through something similar, I dated a British man for about a year, long distance relationships are rough. He was going to move here, but the stress/anxiety over selling his property, car etc, and actually DOING it blew it all out of the water. We ended things and he stayed there.
As much as I'd like to jump on the "it's a scam" bandwagon, (and it's very possible that it is all a scam) I know long distance relationships happen and people do move across oceans for each other.
Leaving one's home country is fun to talk about, but it's a totally different story when it comes right down to doing it.
Best of luck to you and please let us know how it all turns out. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 6:35:10 AM | Not that it matters as far as being a scam goes, but does she live in London, England or London, Ontario? Just curious... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 10:18:49 AM | | Does she even look like her picture?How do you know for sure she is from London?Defintely sounds like a scam. | |
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