| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:32:32 AM | | For 3 months have been dating a woman who grew up in Russia, a rather good life I'm told. She seems to have a different attitude towards dating. I'm always the one making plans, calling, sending cute text messages, etc. with no reciprocation. Although I really like her and we have a great time together, I'm a little frustrated. She seems interested in me, but I can't tell if the behavior is typical hard-to-get or typical European. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:40:28 AM | | All women are different. That is the way she is. The only way you will know what she wants and who she is would be by talking to her.Asking her will matter more than finding out if it's a 'Russian Thing" an ' American Thing' or a 'fill in the blank here thing' | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:46:51 AM | How long has she been in America? She might be hesitating to take the initiative 'cause she doesn't know American ways. The Russian immigrants I know definitely went through culture shock and kind of held back for a while.
It could also be a language issue--she literally doesn't know what to say. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:47:06 AM | OP,
Go to Sarah Palin's website and ask her!
She's an expert on anything " Russian"
and I assume she hosted many meetings with
woman from that country in her back yard! | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:48:38 AM | | well, you can't ignore "cultural norms". i would do some research on Russia and their way of life, what are the norms for them, what are woman's roles there, you may gain an understanding of where she is coming from. yet do not stop there. you grew up different. so sharing this with her will open the lines of communication and let her see other options she may not have considered. Like the other poster said, it may be her way, or it may be cultural. You need to consider both. The big question is. once you find out which it is or maybe both, if she says that is how she likes it. will you be happy living this way with her? | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 8:48:43 AM |
Go to Sarah Palin's website and ask her!
She's an expert on anything " Russian"
and I assume she hosted many meetings with
woman from that country in her back yard!
At gunpoint. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:16:34 AM | I love Sarah Palin! and you won't be able to see her at gunpoint soon with our present disarm america PR, ie. gun stores and pawn shops are selling out......yawn...
On topic, why don't you just explain to her what you have stated here. She probably has no idea what you are feeling. It seems honesty transcends any language barrier or cultural barrier. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:46:33 AM |
with no reciprocation.
There is your answer comrade !
After three months I would assume the dance of initial dating are over and the relationship has begun and since she is still unresponsive and taking into account there is a limited amount of details regarding your relationship, I would have the opinion that she is not all that into you. Yea, she may like you to a degree but that is about it.
Peace | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 4:28:11 PM | Her daddy's probably some Russian mobster, and she's probably used to being treated like a princess. Better treat her right, or you may be sportin' some new cement shoes in the fishpond.  | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:02:32 PM | Not necessarily talking about money here, the ones i've known were nice when you are being what they think western men should be, and getting their way, and very not nice when you aren't and they aren't.
But they are pretty darned adorable when they want to be aren't they  | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 2:00:09 PM |
I can't tell if the behavior is typical hard-to-get or typical European. what difference does it make if you're a little frustrated? My suggestion is to ask her what dating is like in Russia and ask her how it compares to dating in the USA.
Communication is always a plus! | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 2:03:24 PM | From what I understand there's some consistency shown that European women of Slovic discent do have expectation of the men in their life to take care of them, to wait on them and in dating there attitude is: "what can you do for me?"
My only first hand experience with this was a close male friend who actually "ordered" one of these women.....she nearly made him insane, AND shortly after she arrived here and they married - her three children and two "uncles" followed. It was a freaking mess. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 2:13:24 PM | | Well certainly different cultures make for different views on things but in reality I'm guessing it's more about who she is and what she expects much more so than being from Russia. Many women all over the world share her views. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 3:11:46 PM | I have 2 words for ya OP. Green and card, well actually greencard is like one word isnt it ? Ask her to marry U, then give her half your stuff, lol. She will be very happy.
PC disclaimer: gd there really are some ridiculously HOT russian women and alot of them have brains to go with all those looks. But the average american male, had better have hiz eyes wide open, when messing around with the kind Im talking about. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 3:15:30 PM |
Are Russian Women Different?
Yes, many of them have full beards and have to shave twice a day. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 3:27:34 PM | I am Estonian and we are very close to Russia. I have few Russain friends and actually speak some very broken Russian. Russain ladies often take a sit back approach in relationship and give a man the right to persue. They afraid to push. It is apllicable to many carrer matters as well. They feel less equal in relationship that American women who often expect equality. They want a guy to be a leader.
It is the best I can expplain it. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 10:24:58 PM | Yeah! They wear Kossak's when they "do" it......lol
News flash.....we're all the same, we pms, we get jealous, we want things, we can P whip you before you can bat an eye.
The only difference between Russian women and us is 5,000 miles and guess who gets to pay airfare?????
Good luck with that. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 11:09:52 PM | Here in the Sierras over in Jackson CA there is a Russian Orthodox church where I have met many many women who have come to the states with their families in the last fifteen years, and one thing I have noticed is the women as a rule are much like American women were in the 1950's. They like the man to make most of the decisions. If a man likes her she likes him to encourage her to hug and kiss. If she likes him she will let him know. But the fact is many women see men as friends. They do like to be told what customs you like, such as text messaging you back or remembering special occasions with a card etc. You might want to have an adult conversation on how she feels she wants to be treated. And what about dating in this country confuses her.
~Beth~ | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 11:26:42 PM | I've date 3 russian women and they are very insecure in some ways; they are very attentive and smart but wow, they seem to be beyond sensitive and very easy to offend.
One asked me if I liked a certain rock group and I said no and you would have thought I killed her dog.
I've been to Russia often and they have a huge alcohol problem with men; the avg. lifespan for some men in the major regions of Russia is 57 years old.
They are an extremely proud people but they value education and their women are very elegant and sophisticated and very beautiful.
The cultures are way different; it's a challenge but they are a fun challenge. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/29/2009 11:45:41 PM | | It all sounds very familiar, I dated one for 4 months. Could it be the same one? Did you meet on line? does her name start with a "T ", she states that she 40 yrs old actually 42yrs old, short brown hair, hazel eyes, 5'7" heavy smoker. Speaks softly with accent and argumentative at times. Recommendation, give it up, its costly, you'll whine up frustrated. I could go on and on..... | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/30/2009 2:22:13 AM | | Some people don't think it's proper for a woman to 'pursue' or act overly interested. Yet, if she responds when you make advances, pays attention to you when you're together, answers your calls, and looks at you a lot when you're together, touches you frequently (no, I don't mean in a sexual way, just casually), smiles when she sees you each time you meet, you really have to go with your gut and hang in there; she may never 'warm up', but she likes you quite a bit. On the other hand, if she is often 'busy' when you want to go out, always seems like she'd rather be somewhere else when you're together, or disagrees with you often, perhaps you will have to forget her. People who are interested in each other find time to be with each other, and enjoy it. | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 4/30/2009 5:53:50 AM | I'm thinking of ordering a Russian mail order groom. What do you think? I could get a young one and train him up the way I want him. He can wait on me hand and foot. I'd like to come home from a hard day at work to a well educated, handsome, strapping, adoring, high maintenance Russian guy who will:
1) massage my tired feet and shoulders
2) have my delicious hot meal waiting
3) be ready with entertaining and stimulating conversation or just shut up when I don't feel like talking
4) is fashionable
5) works out at the gym
6) is respectful and attentive
7) loves sex and is up for just about anything
Sounds like a plan. I also thought of mail ordering a groom from Asia or Poland....oh, know what??? When I did a search on my computer for a website for mail order grooms, there weren't any!! Oh, shucky darn!! I may just have to look into that....equality and all, ya know.  | |
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| Are Russian Women Different?
Posted: 5/6/2009 7:42:59 PM | | I live in a town heavily populated by Russians. The women are very, very different and, without exception, are strictly money driven. Now before I get attacked, these are not generalizations or stereotypes, they are observations. It is a topic that is discussed regularly and everyone's experience has been the same. Every single time I have ever chatted with one of them, they have asked me a financial question, usually something about my business or what kind of car I drive within the first 5 minutes, often within the first 2. There are a plethora of Russian women here who are in their mid 30s, married 3 or 4 times with a child with each man. The general consensus is that Russian women like to upgrade their husbands and the single men around here are all well aware and tend to stay far away. There have been times when I would IM with one of them and would say that I had some menial job and miraculously, they instantly vanished. Kind of funny and kind of sad but here it is a well-known reality. | |
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