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Posted: 4/19/2009 10:55:28 AM | I need a best friend dammit. At least a wingman...
I have no one to hang out with nowadays.
I go see movies on my own... I prowl everywhere on my own. Its become sad.
I need regular hang out buddies...
Don't get me wrong, I have friends, its just they have all moved on with their lives. School, work, etc. Even me, I have a messed up work schedule - my weekends are on mondays and tuesdays. I see my friends a couple of times a year, its rare that I see them a couple of times a month.
Am I the only one?
I need people to hang out with on a regular basis (at least once a week).
Humans are social beings, and we are smarter by being social. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 2:38:40 PM |
Am I the only one? Considering the lack of response to this thread, it would appear so... 
K... seriously... I don't have a huge circle of friends... but the ones I do have I value. I tend to cultivate longterm friendships with regular communication... but I don't have to hang out with these people every week.
As I've gotten older and life has gotten busier, I've learned that me time is more important than hanging out with someone else... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 6:21:00 PM | Nope. You're not the only one. However, although humans are social beings, depending on where you live (Ontario), the money is more imporatant than being social. You either work your ass off to pay the bills, returning home exhausted every day or flex with your fellow mankind. Unfortunately, we all have to put food on the table, with average rents of $1400 p/mos. and no manufacturing industry, lousy hourly wages in a place like good ol'Ontario, people are more occupied with hustling to make an extra dime just to put chow on the table.
I have friends too with, families, etc... and with kids in the mix, soccer games, karate classes, tutors, school fees, etc.... who has time to talk to anyone in an elevator anymore? Besides, the converstation is going to be about making more money to buy another car or something. LOL
Just my crazy sense of humour bro'. I know where you're coming from. I'm 42 and sitting here jerking around POF when I should be hangin with my peeps who are all too busy going nuts. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 6:10:43 AM | This is a thread that needs to be highlighted in golden arches. It is so damn true.
My biggest work days, thanks to being self employed and having to cater to the crowds, are fri,sat and sunday so my "weekends" are monday / tuesday. I do many movies alone. I eat out alone. I look around on a gorgeous Monday and think "why is everyone inside those big buildings" and i realize "oh yeah, regular job stuff".
I started doing stand up comedy on my Monday nights, i find that helping a little. At least it feels like a bit of a friday and takes some of that "out of the loop" feeling away. Maybe we should all just hit the pub monday at the same time and declare Monday the new Friday. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 6:22:35 AM | | He!!s bells....I just did Cuba alone!!!!!!!!! How sad is that? | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 7:41:41 AM | | There are tons of events listed for Toronto every week. There is no need to prowl alone when you can join in on anything you like here at Plentyoffish. Just go to the Ontario Forums and click the red link for Ontario Singles Events. You'll see what I mean. Good Luck!! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 7:59:23 PM | I have no friends.
I do movies alone
I eat alone
I go for drives alone
I actually don't mind it! There is no drama in my life and I can breath.
It's not so bad.......................... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 8:09:27 PM | radars72! I so hear ya!!
Bromance...lol?? rally I thought this was a gay thread, you may want to change the topic.. lol
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Posted: 6/20/2009 9:01:54 PM | Thats such an Ontario thing. When I lived out West it wasnt nearly as bad in Vancouver. Hence me moving back.
Heres my social life this week.
a. had plans to have lunch on Tuesday, person cancelled Tuesday morning and re scheduled for Friday night, Tuesday schedule blown
b. had plans to meet up with someone on Tues night, they cancelled last minute and said lets do it Saturday
c. Friday morning, person A cancels and so Friday night is off
d. Saturday morning, person B cancels and so Saturday off
Fortunately I have some retired friends who were avail Sat night and we had dinner.
People in Ontario have no sense of "other". Its all about you! Your word means nothing. You say meet next week, you dont really mean it, you mean you will meet if you feel up to it and nothing better comes along.
People in Ontario need to get their heads out of their wallets and learn to play fair.
But then, I am tired of preaching and waiting. I am moving back to BC. Not that its perfect there, but sincerely, the most selfish, self centered, self involved, money hungry, joyless people I have met in my travels are here in Toronto.
So OP, its not you. Its the narcissicm here. Ontario is a fail place to live. The weather sucks, people are cold, and there is nothing to do but spend money and go shopping.
Epic Fail.
And PS; Whatever you do,dont date an Ontario girl. They are tense, rigid, self involved and have no time for romance. There is a brief window when they are available as they hit their early 30s and realize if they want a baby they better damned well make the time. After that and before that, its all about her. You, as a man, dont even come up on the radar. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 9:06:10 PM | | Bromance...lol?? really I thought this was a gay thread, you may want to change the topic.. lol | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 10:00:31 AM |
So OP, its not you. Its the narcissicm here. Ontario is a fail place to live. The weather sucks, people are cold, and there is nothing to do but spend money and go shopping.
Methinks you need to live in another part of Ontario before you slur the whole province. Ottawa ia great and the people friendly.
OP the events are a good place to make friends. We even have movie nights - no pressure, just a chance to share the laughs or gasps. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 5:10:25 PM | | I came to a point in my life where I found myself with out real freinds to hang out with - I started going to POF events and made tons of nice friends - it's nice to know there is always something going on that I can join in on when I want to. It's hard being lonely! If ya go to events with a positve attitude you will meet some nice people you can befriend! | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 10:55:47 PM | | I have plenty of people to "hang out" with, but not so many single members of the fairer gender variety. Although I am looking for a partner, it would also be fun to "hang out" with some single ladies as well, but for some strange reason, even the ladies whose advertisements say "hang out" tend to "read deleted" all messages. So, that says to me that people here really aren't looking to "hang out" after all... | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 5:01:41 AM | | ^^^^ That's why you can't totaly rely on simply messaging - you have to get out and meet people face to face - and the best way is at the events. Then people get to see you in person and how you behave - then make a decision to interact with you! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 7:56:54 PM |
Whatever you do,dont date an Ontario girl. They are tense, rigid, self involved and have no time for romance. There is a brief window when they are available as they hit their early 30s and realize if they want a baby they better damned well make the time. After that and before that, its all about her. You, as a man, dont even come up on the radar. What the heck are you talking about, you've been barking up the wrong tree. I don't see 30 something ladies as being rigid non-datable material.
You have to at least get involve in something for you to meet people not just POF. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 1:56:00 PM | has nothing to do with a tree or barking .....being bitter isnt gonna suport your hatred for ontario , if you dont like it here get the hell out ....that simple , dont sit here and try to belittle people that live here cause you cant fit in / make friends or getlaid ...honestly i think you have the wrong thread for that type of arguement. The op is looking for friends ....not looking for some bitter knuckle dragging BC rejects slander .
Friends are few and far between , i suggest looking around for someone with the same type of interests as you , no rule saying you cant be social on a dating site . | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 7:45:52 PM | No you're not the only one lol
I moved 2 years ago and still know no one other than a few relatives. I wander the city and check out the sights alone lol But I've always been comfortable being by myself, so it does'nt bother me that much. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:18:41 PM | Meetup dot com has lots of groups for all manner of activities.. Try it out.. I belong to a hiking group and a couple of social sites that don't involve bars at all but everything from winery tours to brunch to hiking/biking/museums.
I've been on some great trips and met some really nice people.
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Posted: 7/10/2009 3:58:39 PM | Ignore the 50 something wannabe hipster that uses the term "is a fail place to live" and "epic fail." Note he also claims to be a fan of actor "Chris Walken". I'm not sure if that is because he can't spell Christopher or he is too cool to type out his whole name. It could also be that he is good friends with "Chris". If so, my fail.
He talks about women in their early thirties and under like they should be on him like bees to honey, or more like flies on poo. I wonder if they don't want to date him because the brush he just painted all women with was covered in bitter?
Back on topic. If you are looking for other dudes to hang out with, the best thing to do is get a home renovation project going and meet other guys shopping at home improvement stores. Nothing says not gay like a hammer and duct tape. I'm not kidding. Most guys could debate door hinges for four hours, even if they didn't know squat about them. After you play dumb by asking "which plunger would work better?" spend some time talking to them at the store.
Talk up your project, invite them over to see it Saturday. Have a beer and a steak available if they have time. Ask them to help out.
Bromance accomplished, and you have a nice new floor/bathroom/garage rack or whatever. | |
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