| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 4/21/2009 6:35:09 AM | Hi kat here:
I am new to this website and have had several email conversations with guys on this site. That's good right? That is what I thought too. But I can't understand why they don't want to take it to the next level (meeting up) Anytime I suggest it, the guy just mysteriously disappears!! Has anyone else had this problem? or is it just me? Hoping someone here can shed some light and help out a fellow fish.
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 4/21/2009 8:44:18 AM | No. I have'nt talked to any of them on the phone first. How many emails should I have before talking on the phone? and should I let the guy suggest it or should I take the initiative?
Too many rules, it's making my head hurt!! : ) | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 4/22/2009 10:54:28 AM | Kat go to the phone fairly soon because then you can tell if the guy is a scammer/married or not. Once he agrees to phone, see if you have anything to talk about. Emails are your perception of his written words and may not be a true picture of who he is. Speaking on the phone can help you decide if you are interested or not. If you have exchanged a few emails and you like what you see, go for a few phone conversations. If you find you still like what you hear, then there is nothing wrong with asking to meet. If he doesn't want to meet you after a few weeks, he probably isn't going to. Why prolong this? You will know fairly soon and be able to move on if he isn't what you want. Use your intuition and don't let any of these men rush you either.
Good luck! | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 5/9/2009 6:35:11 PM | | Definitely looking to meet up with people. Just rather frustrating when I feel like I'm connecting with someone then they suddenly disappear on me before I get to the meeting stage. Had this happen 2-3 times recently. One hasn't even logged in for 5 weeke :( | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 5/29/2009 9:05:35 PM | | Happens on this end too- just when you think things are going well the other person either never emails you or cancels their account. For a moment I thought it was me, but that's just crazy; I'm way to charming :) | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 6/7/2009 4:21:46 PM | I am ultra-serious about meeting up, but nobody I'm interested in replies back :(
Maybe it's the whole military thing or because I'm kinda nerdy? hehee
I am so borreeeddd... This summer is gonna suck w/o a girl to hang with. | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:52:26 AM | I know that I have asked that same question about the women on this site.
Seems that 'dating' has become a new 'hobby' for everyone.
People need to list it with all their other hobbies
"Photography, cooking, gardening and dating. Yes, as many people as possible. Don't want to get to know you or have a relationship or anything. Just dating. ....."
I feel like no one wants anything that might lead to something resembling a relationship.
Yeesh. Used to be the 'M' word freaked some people out. Now. The 'R' word is the old 'M' word. Yes, that is right - R E L A T I O N S H I P.
Heaven forbid you have a good time, get to know someone, maybe even like them and (OMG) spend part of your life with them as partners in life - exclusively.
LMAO....
People are just plain wierd. | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:50:21 PM | It seems to be the common cycle; women get tons of messages from guys and respond to the ones who don't want to meet up (or just want sex) and the guys who would want to meet up are ignored.
Like stevelfun said, dating is the thing to do these days. And by dating I mean online stalking. | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 11/12/2009 9:56:50 AM | | LMAO I had a situation like that twice. The girl had posted how she was looking for something serious and we hit it of through email and over the phone, but she has issues on what her daughters would think about her dating. Keep in mind she was a 38 year old woman with two teenagers. She treated her kids as if they were 3 years old and i could tell she just never made time for herself. Anytime i would ask to meet her she would say she had to take her daughter to either cheerleading or to doctors appointments and other random things. All im saying is if u dont have time to date dont put urself on a dating site. | |
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| Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up?
Posted: 11/26/2009 8:41:38 PM | I have encountered many who just want to talk via email and have no intent of taking it to the next level. I suspect they are not really single and/or just surfing the net for chitter chatter.
The ones that do offer to meet for coffee do show up so they are definately out there.
Just hang in there. It takes time | |
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