| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:29:32 PM | | Let's say you have a friend whom you met recently. Apart from a fairly normal friendship, you engage in receptive oral sex with her without reciprocation. No touching, no intimacy really, not even kissing. What kind of relationship is that? Are there a lot of women who are ok with just providing oral sex anytime, while just maintaining a platonic friendship with her? From a male perspective, I suppose it doesn't get more convenient. But does this happen often? Does this make your bj friend a slut? | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:38:35 PM | What kind of woman is she ? Any woman willing to only give out bjs would be smarter than her...pony up the money honey. Makes her a stupid woman. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:38:44 PM | | Every woman I know is like that....and then I wake up with slobber on my pillow! | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:39:54 PM | | Since I abhor the word slut and given the description of the relationship, I would say unequivocally you may be the first male slut on record. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:43:37 PM | That sounds awfully sad and lonely to me. Not the BJ part, but no kissing ,hugging or licking on her?
I am guessing that she would like to be more than friends and is hoping the way to your heart is through your penis. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:46:19 PM | Have you tried to go further? If so, did she stop you? Or were you happy with just the BJ(s)?
Are you sure "she" doesn't have a penis? | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:56:45 PM | | I've heard of this; and my advice is not to judge. I've heard of women who do this for reasons of self esteem; i.e. they have some serious emotional scaring; and need to feel needed or wanted. I've also heard of women who were so totally aroused by giving oral sex that just giving was a total turn on for them. (There are women out there who can actually orgasm by GIVING oral sex.) If your "friend" has self esteem issues; you would be doing her a favor by discussing this with her, and NOT continuing the BJ relationship. If she just loves oral sex, AND trusts you enough to engage in it with you, what you do with the relationship is your business. She may love oral sex, but STILL be VERY selective about who she does this with. Regardless of why she's doing it, if you DON'T respect her BECAUSE of what she's doing, you owe it to her, and yourself, to terminate the relationship. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:00:32 PM | lol is it a rare thing? I've a relationship similar to it, but only because his girlfriend refuses to give him head, she knows (sometimes watches) ... I'm one of those rare ones that can get off giving head....
I do agree with windloverr tho ... you need to find out why she does it ... ... ...  | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:05:49 PM | Normal is a wide range.
She's getting something out of it or she wouldn't be doing it. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:12:58 PM | Ill be honest here about the situation to clear things up. I just wanted to know if its a common thing that's all. I just found it strange that an ongoing arrangement as such can be maintained is what's interesting. That some women would so selflessly want to please a man (not necessarily HER man) without any prior opening, kissing, touching, just down and dirty like that? -
Incidentally, her actions indicate that she's very turned on by the whole spiel. I mean why else would she moan and swallow to completion and the whole bit, if she didn't get some enjoyment out of it? | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:17:17 PM | | ^^^ it's not selfless if she likes it. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:18:10 PM | | i wish i had a bf buddy, seriously. Specially if she's good at it. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:22:08 PM | I've had a few ask me to give them head... just that, nothing more... and my response is always.. "what's in it for me?"
While I enjoy the giving.. I also enjoy the getting. This is not the kind of relationship I would put up with for long... | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:23:33 PM | it's very rare that you find a woman who is into being a BJ buddy. especially if they are strictly into BJ only.
Booty buddies are pretty common tho | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:26:58 PM |
^^^ it's not selfless if she likes it.
My thought exactly.
~OP~ There are indeed women who love to give without any strings, other physical contact and/or reciprocation. In my little circle of friends, we call it "Pulling a Monica" or simply a "Lewinski."  | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:07:08 PM | Actually females who give oral sex has become a major source of sex according to many studies, especially females under the age of 21. And to be honest I hate the word slut from males who readily accept the easy sex!!! Why is it a woman is a slut to you and others who want sex but you and other men aren't sluts because you accept easy sex?
~Beth~ | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:15:03 PM | I agree with applepiefaceplant. It sounds sort of empty and sad. I had a relationship like that once and I couldn't take it. Oral sex is still sex, at least in some form. Sex without intimacy is empty and eventually not good for you in the long term. Every once and a while sure but long term... it's supposed to be more than that.
I guess the real question is... are you okay with it? Is she your only "oral buddy" or is she someone that someone else in your life would consider an affair? | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:25:18 PM | the name of this thread an after i read it made me think of the ol school song by too short called blow job betty
uh some men an women can get off on just giving oral sex alone without wanting anything back,, why dont you try pleasing her an seeing what she wants an likes instead of always being the lonely receiver..wow no dating no kisses no hugs no romance not even no $$$ payment for her "work"..
i don't get it.? an all you do is get ur d ick sucked then leave..wow.. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:28:02 PM | ........................................if i could.......................
........................................i would..........................
......................................be my own
......................................blow job friend...............
.....................................but i cant......................
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 7:21:32 PM |
I've also heard of women who were so totally aroused by giving oral sex that just giving was a total turn on for them. (There are women out there who can actually orgasm by GIVING oral sex.)
If she just loves oral sex, AND trusts you enough to engage in it with you, what you do with the relationship is your business. She may love oral sex, but STILL be VERY selective about who she does this with.
Yup this was my first thought!  | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:03:51 PM | What a great solution!
I've a relationship similar to it, but only because his girlfriend refuses to give him head, she knows (sometimes watches) ... I'm one of those rare ones that can get off giving head...
I recently wrote that receiving was a pretty important thing for me, and that I'd want a long term relationship to include it. (Giving is too, but that's not what this is about.) When I read your post, sylvir8605, it seemed like a great way to go if I found someone who didn't like it but everything else is perfect.
Obviously it's not a real solution, but it sounds really good! What happens when the BJ buddy is no longer available? Then I guess I'd have to break up. That would be sad. And it doesn't really scratch the itch of being part of foreplay. Oh well!
OT: I have heard of the phenomenon, but like others have said, the reasons probably matter.
That being said, I've been in a couple relationships where she has done nothing but a BJ occasionally. We've done plenty of other stuff at other times, of course. It was also the case that whenever I've tried to reciprocate (and I did try), she was never interested, and it would lead to full-on sex. One even told me that she liked to do it once in a while, as a "gift" but didn't want the same in return.
EDIT: It never ceases to amaze me how easy it is in some people's minds to equate sex directly to money. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:13:16 PM |
Are you sure "she" doesn't have a penis?
This was the first thing that came to my mind. Maybe "she" is getting off in more ways than one. | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:15:47 PM | If your positive she doesn't have ulterior motives........such as hoping more will come of the relationship.......then enjoy yourselves.
But I'd want to be damn sure she wasn't harboring some desires to be "your girl". | |
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| Blowjob buddy
Posted: 4/25/2009 11:51:51 PM | I've known of some girls like that. Then again, I'm in college... In general I don't think it happens too often. I'd wager that even most men wouldn't want such a one-way same-ol same-ol routine.
But some people really just like to give. For example, my bf gets off on giving, but, psychologically he doesn't like receiving (which is actually becoming a point of conflict..). If it made your bj friend a slut, it would most certainly make you even more of a slut. But I don't think it makes either of you a slut, personally.
Questions: Do you ever feel slightly guilty or like you should at least return the favor? Do you ever even want to/try to return the favor? I know I would feel very selfish and bored if I didn't give back any sort of intimacy, so I'm just wondering if there's a voice in the back of your head or not.... | |
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