mc50
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Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 1 | |
| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 6:20:42 PM | | I have a male friend who has been spending 1-2 hours almost daily chatting with me for over a month now. We have a lot of laughs, some of which is sexual bantering, but mostly a lot of self-deprecating humor and word play, with a dose of just plain silliness. He's known me most of my life, at my best and at my worst. I'm wondering if there is any potential for this relationship to develop further, and whether our chats are any indicator. TIA. | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 6:25:40 PM | I used to chat for hours on end with whoever was on. In highschool, I could handle probably up to 10 convo's over MSN at once. Now that I'm older and have better things to do, I can still chat for hours, but usually only a couple convos at a time. When I'm on the forums, chat is distracting, so it was cut back more. Now that I spend a lot of time on the phone, and when I'm not on the phone on the forums, I hardly chat at all.
But yes, if it is a good friend, I can chat for hours with no intentions. Why are you two always chatting instead of hanging out together? Flirting in person is a much better indicator than flirting over the net. | |
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mc50
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Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 4 | |
| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 6:31:51 PM | | Yes, we grew up together. We live in different states right now. Our chats are usually one-on-one; I can tell when he's chatting with someone else (responses slow down) and usually it's his brother, with whom I chat, too. | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 6:40:57 PM | Do you want this relationship to possibly develop furthur?
Is he single?
So your profile says you are 50, and I would guess he's roughly the same age. That makes you two grown adults. Hopefully also mature adults. Here is my suggestion, as just a youngun' who's made it work for himself. Talk to him about it. If you see potential, let him know how you are feeling. If he doesn't reciprocate the feelings, as two mature, grown adults you should be able to carry on your friendship as it was before. But that means you have to be ready and willing to accept a possible rejection and be fine with it.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 9:16:29 PM | | Only the two of you know for sure. There are girls that I can talk to for hours that I want nothing but friendship from, and then there are others that I have talked to in hopes that the friendship develops into something more | |
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3e
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Joined: 10/3/2007
Msg: 8 | |
| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 9:53:07 PM | | I personally feel if he is investing that much time in conversation with you he is probably interested. Don't they say men usually want "something". He's either interested or your the only one willing to listen to him. At some time the banter has to pause so you can get to really know each other. | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/23/2009 10:50:49 PM | Of course! Chatting 1-2 hours a day is THE indicator that a promising relationship could blossom between the two of you! If there is sexual banter and silliness, well, then it's a done deal!
Wait, no...actually talking to HIM and asking HIM is indicative of a potential relationship.  | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/24/2009 1:32:21 AM | Don' t date friends it leads to the worst pain ever if it doesn't work out not only do you lose someone you fallin in love with you lose your best friend as well.. Its a very hard thing to do...
If it works out it could be great but if it ends it makes you almost on the brink of giving up on life.... lol.. Personal experience would lead me to say just stay friends especially with a long history. Or just be very careful cause one of you is gonna get hurt terribly is things don't work out.
Anyhow I wish you all the luck in the world if you decide to go along with it.
and Happy Fishing if you don't! | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:23:03 AM | | During one of your word plays or inbetween the sexual banter you could ask him on a serious note how he is feeling about you. The rest of us, including you can only guess. If your investing so much time in him, take a minute and ask him what's up. | |
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mc50
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Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 12 | |
| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:56:17 AM | | Thanks for the thoughtful replies. Chat is a new medium of communication for me, hence the hesitation and the question. If I am with people, I know how to read their signals. I cannot imagine spending this much time with someone who is "just a friend," however, but I can see from the responses so far that is normal behavior for some of you. Good to know. I do intend to ask him about the possibility of moving our relationship forward; I know that is the only way to go. I was just wondering whether or not he is already thinking in the same direction. | |
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| He Likes You
Posted: 4/24/2009 10:19:25 AM | Spending that amount of time chatting - he HAS to be a great friend. Just blurt it out. Even if he's not interested, you two have such a long history together, I doubt he'll be weirded out by it; probably flattered.
I'm taking bets, contact you local PoF bookie:
1:1 He says Yes.
1:1.5 He says Yes, but I was too embarrassed/shy to ask.
1:5 He says No.
1:20 He says No I'm gay.
1:100 He says No I'm actually a robot/clone/space alien. | |
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| Guys, how much time do you chat with friends?
Posted: 4/24/2009 3:45:39 PM | Well if you’ve known each other for a long time, you’d think the question “Do you want to go out some time?” would have come up by now, if it were coming at all. So it sounds like he’s just really good friends. (Sexual jokes when it comes to guys, aren’t always intended to lead in a literal sexual direction) He might just be having fun.
But if all else fails you could make the first move. You never know, maybe he’s had feelings bottled up for a while. (God knows men do that a lot lol ) | |
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