| | Perhaps a serial dater/liar?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | I met someone on here who pursued me,and thought I'd give it a shot. Got along great-then calls this a.m. telling me his ex-girlfriend was at his house, and wants to get back together. The kicker-he says he's going to be with her for a few dates, and wait till she flips out again, and he can end it???Huh? Thanks for the honesty, but i believe he thinks I'm going to wait for him, ans said he'd call me next week. Yeh right I'll wait for that phone call........Don't know what to believe-Liar or serial dater- Any thoughts? | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 12:35:07 PM | Does it matter what you want to label him if you're not going to wait for his phone call?
If it were me, I'd consider myself lucky to learn about his character earlier than later. | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 12:54:24 PM | | I would have to say player. He wants his cake and eat it too..you are his back up plan. He was either being honest to piss you off and get you off his back OR thought he was just that good that you would wait. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 12:55:43 PM | .Don't know what to believe-Liar or serial dater- Any thoughts?
Neither, OP. At least not from what you said. People have complicated relationships, sometimes, with their "exes". We can't really know, for sure, that someone we're talking to, and hoping to meet, has some unresolved past relationship. I don't think he's a "player" as would someone be ,who, for example is still married (separated) and is on a dating board.
That's not to say that you should wait for his call. If something happens that seriously wrong early in a relationship, there's no point to going forward.
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 12:56:49 PM | | Sounds weird. When he calls you let him know that you too got back with your ex-husband and/or boyfriend and that you'll call him the following week to let him know how it's going. | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 1:12:01 PM | Never mind the labels, just consider this a lucky out... Obviously he isn't done with the relationship with his Ex... If he were, then he wouldn't have a weekend shag fest with her, and will call you next week...
Tell him good luck with his life, that you are look for someone a LOT more different...
THEN move on, and find someone who doesn't have an ex he is still willing to shag for a weekend until she freaks.. That is just freaking weird, complicated, or what ever label you are looking for...
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 1:17:12 PM |
Don't know what to believe-Liar or serial dater- Any thoughts?
Only that you really know how to pick `em.
And that this thread will probably give rise to about a zillion more "I'm a nice guy, why can't I get a date?" threads. Way to go!  | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 1:56:40 PM | Like other the say, labels mean nothing. Fair enough he got back with his ex, but the guy is a true a$$ for saying:
He will be with her until she flips out.
And he going to call you next week?!?!
So in other words, I'm going to have my booty call all week until I get tired of her and then I'll look you up. What a freaking douche.
Speak in volumes in how much respect he had for you.
Please tell us you completely deleted his number. | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:05:16 PM | Oh that's just downright weird. This is right up there on the Scale of Strange with the guy who broke off the involvement rather than get tested for STDs prior to having sex. Or the one who didn't understand why his girlfriend was unhappy with other people coming into their bedroom - and staying to talk - while she was nude. Or the woman who mentioned, casually, that she had for several days in a row texted a man about 30-40 times a day - wondering why he hadn't called.
All very different, but with one big thing in common... I think all of these people are just nuts, is all. | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:30:44 PM | | When he calls tell him you'll call him back in an hour...after you're done bangin his brother... | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:30:48 PM | ~OP~ I don't know if he's a liar or a serial dater, but he's certainly not very bright. He couldn't come up with something more ingenious than that? Good grief!! If he's a player, he needs to up his game ~ that's about the lamest attempt to sting someone along that I've read (or personally heard.) He did you a HUGE service with that phone call. You can now move on to someone who isn't an idiot.  | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:32:04 PM | | When a man acts flaky like that, he shouldn't be surprised if people flip out on him (as he says his ex has and will). He's the catalyst for it happening. | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:39:46 PM |
All very different, but with one big thing in common... I think all of these people are just nuts, is all.
There are, amongst the many people on POF, a certain percentage, who are terminally weird. Fortunately, most of us have instincts that keep us from getting involved with the truly nuts. As the OP mentioned, this never got to real life.
I can see how it can happen with an ex. What I don't get is asking her to wait a week. Delusional at least. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 4:27:26 PM | | Ha! you hit the nail on the head! He texted me, and I text what you just said! The just said, hope you find what you're looking for... | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:44:27 PM | OP what the heck does it matter? It amazes me that you are even asking a question;
He's a scumbag and why did you pick such a guy? Women whine about how bad guys are but no one put a gun to your head to date him; YOU CHOSE HIM!
Some women need to wake up and not worry about reasons or try reading guys but they need to look at the actions and make people accountable. If a woman did that to me, I would tell them to get bent, block them from contacting them, and never talk to them again.
It's about respect; who cares what the reason is; | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:53:06 PM | He's a complete moron??? I bet you'll just sit back and wait for this dreamboat to call back. 
What the hell is wrong with some people? | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:57:00 PM | If you have to ask this question........please dont date for awhile......I think you need to go into one of the other forums that talks about therapy.... | |
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Posted: 4/25/2009 12:20:44 AM | OP he is brutually honest for sure, and in the meantime, he has no respect for you.
Is he a good catch and deserves some spot in your pond? Hmmm you decide.  | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/25/2009 12:47:24 AM | I don't think he's either.
A serial dater would be with you for a while, end it, then never look back. He wouldn't look back at his ex either.
This guy certainly doesn't sound like a liar. He's being extraordinarily honest.
Perhaps you meant a player? I don't think he's that either. Players tell you what you want to hear.
This guy has no filter between his brain and his mouth. I often consider that a virtue... At least it lets you see the real person.
Amazingly, I think these few lines give us a lot of insight into this guy. I think he's probably complicated and caring, but weak-willed. He has no interest in his ex, or not much, in a romantic sense. However, he still cares for her. He probably knows her habits and behaviors, hence his disinterest. Right now he's "giving her a chance" which she has undoubtedly been begging for. Knowing her so well, he's certain that she can't avoid doing exactly what he's probably told her over and over is why he can't be with her. He's trying to let her prove it to herself - giving her enough rope, so to speak.
I can't blame you at all for not putting up with it. Who would?
It's interesting, nonetheless. | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:36:20 AM | Well, he's not a liar, cozy, because he sure laid it out to you what his 'plan' is, right?
Serial dater? hmmm..well, some people do just like to date....and if both parties are of that same mind...we're just dating...then that could work for some.
It sounds like he was really not over his Ex...that's all.
A lot of folks think they are ready to date before they are really ready. Not always good.
Kimbo******************** | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:42:56 AM | Dumbass is the label that comes to mind - an honest dumbass though
oh yeah, and a legend in his own mind | |
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| Perhaps a serial dater/liar?
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:43:29 AM | Whoa! Sorry, but I also sense a deeper issue with your situation. First, I agree that you shouldn't wait around and hope that he's going to change because the Heavens opened up above him with an inspiring "AWWWWWWWW" and suddenly sees the light and comes begging for you. But my second point, and most importantly, is based on what he said to you about getting back together with his ex when he KNOWS she's going to flip out on him. I mean think about it ... why would anyone want to be with someone who they know is so emotionally unstable? ... UNLESS ... he actually finds enjoyment with provoking her and watching her freak? If that is a fact ... and that's just using my sense of intuition here ... then he is likely to find enjoyment with provoking and sadisticly teasing women. In other words, he might find enjoyment in watching, controlling, and even beating down women mentally just to make them as miserable as possible.
Sorry, I'm a big psychology person, and his response to you gives me the ebbie jeebies.  | |
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