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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 4/25/2009 12:35:44 PM | I'm just saying hello to everyone. I made this profile just a week ago, and I've never tried internet dating before, but I guess I haven't got anything to lose. I don't know if I've got a good profile or not, so I'm submitting it to the angels and wolves. I hope it's good, but please let me know if it's ok or not. I'm going to try to get some more pictures of myself, because I think the ones I have up are a little lame, but I can use a second opinion.
I've sent out about 7 emails to some girls already and have yet to hear a reply from any, but from reading the forums, I guess it's pretty common to send a lot of messages and never hear anything, so I'm not really discouraged. It would be sweet for a girl to message me (hint, hint) and I don't expect it, but who knows with a good interesting profile...
Anyway, let me know what you think. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 4/25/2009 7:32:52 PM | Hi - this really wasn't bad for your first try!
More photos is always a good place to start.
The profile body has good information, it's just a bit tricky to read being in two big blocks. Are you able to split it up a bit more? Remember to keep similar ideas together. You may also want to add a bit about what makes you laugh, what you are passionate about. The real estate information is good, but in the current economic climate it may seem a bit 'risky' to your viewer.
Are you able to add a bit more about who you are hoping to meet here? What will she be like? The more details you can add, the more points of reference your viewer can find in common to feel a connection. Good luck! | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 4/26/2009 9:37:34 AM | Hi. Since you bumped, thought I'd give you my humble opinion. ;) I did think you looked older in the thumbnail, maybe because of the hairstyle. I also thought you were a few extra lbs. Maybe it's just the photos. You do look very nice in blue with your dark hair. ;)
You have a lot of 'fluff' information in your profile...things that can be shared later on down the line. Don't put toooo much detail about your life, like where you went/go to school, etc,.....Leave some mystery and conversation for later on. Also, try to use a paragraph to tell women reading your profile what you're looking for. That helps, since women actually read them. LOL...vs. men, that look at pics and shoot out mass emails, right? ;) Tell us the criteria...Do you want a woman that's a home body, a sports nut, tall, etc, etc. Oh, and the bottom - just my opinion, but when I see a guy will date anyone 18-99, it's a red flag for me, saying not picky at all. You also might want to take the 75 mile limit off. I know 5 states over might not be practical, but that someone special might be 80 miles away....
Best of luck to you. You sound like you have some nice goals! Very admirable. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 4/26/2009 10:33:33 AM | Definitely not a bad start.
Must lose the mirror picture. Also, edit the picture of you and your sister. Having and loving your family is admirable. Pictures of you with other girls will cause the chicks to click on by without reading to find out its your sister. But, that's your money shot - crop and use as your main shot. The way the site displays photos, the one you are using makes you look older and you are probably not getting clicks in the right demographic.
And, in your age group, you can expect to do 99.99% of the first contacts. So remember its a numbers game and keep going for it.
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 4/26/2009 10:38:19 AM | You are a cute guy but your height could be an initial issue. Personally, I have dated men your height, and it is a personal preference, but a lot of women are intitially turned off by it. Now, if the met you in person, and they got to experience your personality, etc. in real time, it would probably be less of an issue. This is internet dating however, and quick judgements are the norm :( There is nothing you can do about it here, except making your profile as intriquing and interesting as possible and try to illustrate some of your personality in the forums. I would lose the part about them contacting you (they will if you make your profile intriquing enough) and leave out some of the fluff, such as a description of your username, etc.
If you are EVER open to the idea of having children, even if way down the line, I would suggest putting undecided/open to the question of wanting children.
Best wishes | |
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| Requesting further review
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:54:48 PM | | Just a bump. I'm wondering what people think about my profile now. What can I add / remove to make it better? I know girls I message are looking at my profile, but they aren't messaging me back. So, I don't think my messages are the problem since they seem to spark enough interest to at least get the girls to check me out, so my guess is my profile is the problem. Thanks for any feedback, and please don't just tell me what I'm doing wrong, but also what I'm doing right so I don't go back in and change it for the worse. | |
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| Requesting further review
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:31:36 PM | It's all good info, just disorganized. If I may:
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Hi, my name is Richard. Right now I live in the Southwest subburbs of Chicago, near Lombard. People have described me as frank, uncomplicated, practical, flexible, perceptive and independent. do you agree with 'people'?! It's OK to add.. "and I agree!"
I currently work as an adminstrative assistant at a government hospital, but I'm learning about real estate investing, and hope to break the 9-5 job in the future and become a full time investor, and I think that's probably several years down the road when the economy is on the rise again.
I'm a pretty simple guy without a whole lot of outside commitments, so that means I'll have plenty of time for you. That doesn't mean I don't have a life, just that I'm not tied down to a prior relationship or family/friends depending on me for their support.
My favorite movie types are Sci-Fi and scary thrillers, while Family Guy, Robot Chicken, South Park, and Futurama, are some of my favorite tv shows, and Disturbed, Green Day, and Linkin Park are some of my favorite bands.
I like camping, but not the outdoors kind. A nice resort is more my style. I am spontanious sometimes, for example I'll just get up and go out to a comedy club, or go to the zoo or a museum without much planning. I do work out most days of the week and enjoy walking, and playing football or shooting hoops. it's OK here to ask someone to join you, or challenge them to a game!
I'm looking for someone who is fun, bold, and generally looking for a good time. I actually like girls who talk a lot, and who always have a new interesting story to share. I'm interested in meeting a friendly girl to date or even just to just be friends with. Someone who I can call up and spend quality time with, and who I can depend on and who is willing to depend on me to be there is ideal.
I'm not one of those kind of guys who lives for the chase, or loves to play the game while moving from girl to girl. I'd rather take my time, and get to know someone really well and see if it develops into a lasting friendship or more. here would be a good place to say "Care to chat?" or something light, but don't ask them to send you a message.
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I didn't change any of your words (correct spelling of spontaneous) but just regrouped the thoughts and made smaller paragraphs so it's easier to read. See? | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:40:22 PM | | you're not doing anything wrong. in fact, you are a guy women should want to date. However, along with your messages, the women are getting messages from guys with "hot bods" that are 6'2. Really hard to compete with that, buddy :( I can't believe that woman told you that your height could be an issue. WTH does she want you to do? Lie and put that you are 7ft? People can't change how tall they are. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:42:49 PM | oh one more thing. I don' t think the average POF woman is impressed by your Halo skills. So, I would lose the XBOX LIVE picture!  | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:52:46 PM | I wouldn't change a thing, OP! It is laid back, genuine and comes from your heart.
You already mentioned changing a few photos- never hurts.
like how you state the ideas about the first date- good for you!
you haven't heard back yet, and 7 emails is not many sent out- just hang in there.
you do already have a favorite--
good to see that you are reading the forum threads and getting acclimated.
all the best
cheers! | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 5/3/2009 4:54:43 PM | ^^^I've been on for a couple of weeks, and I've sent out 20-25 messages so far. I got one reply, and half of the others are read/deleted. I took the advice and made some changes. I think I have an ok format for the messages I send. I usually start out with a simple Hello, I'm _____ followed by a comment on one of the girls interests, and how I relate, and a question about one of their interests and an invitation to reply. Short and to the point.
Thanks for the help though. | |
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| I changed some pictures
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:10:06 PM | | Ok, so I'm not so new to this site anymore, but I did go back and change some pictures on my profile. I took out the old, and shot some new pics. So the question is Yea or Nay? I think they're alright, but what do you think? What's good, what's bad? | |
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| I changed some pictures
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:20:17 PM | Your profile is wonderful and your pictures are lovely!
I have a wonderful hazelnut creme pie recipe that is pure bliss, so if you like sweet food and sweet men, I'm your guy
*swoon*
The girl who snags you will be a lucky girl indeed.
Good luck in your search. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:44:40 PM | | Sorry SMP, can't let this one get by without posting a small comment here. While it is in one's best interest to post a "great" or "greatest possible" photo, and no I do not have more than one on my site, I just wanted to let you know that not all women judge men by their looks. In fact, the ones responding with the "hot bods" as you have alluded to don't turn me on. My first impression is: Hmmm, is it vanity on their part or really just for health that they develop their physique? As another contributor has stated, at least I do, women read the written message. But I do look much deeper than that. Don't judge a book by it's cover has had longevity for a reason...Don't lie on the bio, etc and be yourself. Good luck to all. | |
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| I changed some pictures
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:59:29 PM | A good overall profile OP.
7 emails is nothing. You may send out 70 and still not get a reply.
Takes time for your product(you) to gain market appeal.
I'd lose this:
"I'm a pretty simple guy without a whole lot of outside commitments, so that means I'll have plenty of time for you. That doesn't mean I don't have a life, just that I'm not tied down to a prior relationship or family/friends depending on me for their support. I'm not one of those kind of guys who lives for the chase, or loves to play the game while moving from girl to girl. I'd rather take my time, and get to know someone really well and see if it develops into a lasting friendship or more. So do you care to chat?"
I don't think reading your ad a girl would assume that about you.
Makes you sound needy. Especially the care to chat part.
But hey, everyone's a critic right?
Maybe boil it down to this:
I'd rather take my time, and get to know you really well and develop a lasting friendship or more.
Putting "you" into your profile a few times instead of "a girl" draws the reader in and makes it more personal and personable. A little marketing trick that could be handy.
I'd also lose mentioning "good time"
Sortof sounds like a booty call hint.
Use "enjoy ourselves", "make memories", or some other wording.
I like this:
it's not always the things you do, but the people you do it with that leaves a lasting memory.
But those are minor quibbles. Pretty good as is.
Be patient and learn your market.
We are all unique types that are not attractive to all women.
try as we might!
Can't sell ice cubes to Eskimos unless you're really good.
But they buy em plenty in the desert.
So try to focus on the type of girl that likes ice cream dates.
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| I changed some pictures
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:27:56 PM |
7 emails is nothing. You may send out 70 and still not get a reply.
Takes time for your product(you) to gain market appeal.
Check out the date of the original message. I've sent out way more than 7 emails by now. This is a work in progress. Rather than make a new thread every time I change my profile and want feedback, I just keep adding to this thread. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 6/26/2009 11:58:32 PM | Hey, my profile has grown quite a bit from where it first started. I think it's pretty good now. Only question, is it too long? | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:04:37 AM | Not too long, just right! This is looking really good now.
But - get some outdoor photos!
In your opening paragraph, there is a great opportunity for light humour. Take this line: I'd say I agree with that and add because my friends are very perceptive .... and bribeable, too! A smile is remembered longer than a list. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:01:13 PM | I'm not new anymore. Oh, and bump bump bump! 
Oh, and what picture do you think should be my primary? | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:59:43 PM | | I made a rewrite of my profile, and looking for a review. Should I make a new thread? Oh, and bumpsauce! | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 8/25/2009 11:37:56 PM | No, don't make a new thread.
This line stands out like a great red zit on a teenager:
I tend to do what I want when I want, so you can't expect me to always just go along with everything you do
WTF? Who is this guy? This sounds like some spoiled brat who will stomp his feet if he doesn't get his way. I'm SURE that's not the impression you want to give. Are you trying to say you're used to being on your own and have your own ideas? You're not going to agree with everything she says just to make her happy? You're the kind of guy that will say "Yes, those pants do make your ass look fat"? It may take a while to get used to making plans with someone else in mind? Please, reword or delete for your own sake. | |
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| Hello Everyone, I'm new to POF
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:31:35 PM | ^^One problem I've always had is I have a tendency to either be brutally honest, or if I think my honesty might hurt someone, sometimes I don't say anything at all. Either way, people get angry with me. I guess I'll just delete that line and let the ladies find out for themselves. The truth is things hardly ever go my way, and I'm actually a little sick of it. I used to be the kind of guy that tried to make everyone else happy, and as a result my own happiness suffered for it. I actually had to distance myself from my family so I could do some of the things I wanted too. Thanks for your reply though.
Mods, can you please delete this thread? I don't really want to bump it anymore. | |
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