| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/2/2009 9:35:38 PM | If I happen to run across a profile that says, "Don't favorite me without contacting me first or I will write an intersting testimonial", well, I'm the kind of guy who wants to see what you will write. I used to have more, but those members deleted their profiles and I currently have 2.
However, I met two women earlier this year who told me they never would have agreed to a first meeting had they read the testimonials and I've had other friends tell me to get rid of them.
So, my question is, if you ran across a profile with tongue in cheek testimonials, would that stop you from responding to emails or making first contact?
Bob
I'm especially interested in opinions from women in the 40-60 age group. Since I'm not trolling for page views, here are the ones I currently have on my profile.
Randominternetguy is a great guy, and looks very sexy in a black bra and panties. He keeps trying to steal my shoes and handbags, but at least he can put on makeup. It is disconcerting when your man looks better in lingerie than you do. He should have read my profile closer, before he added me.
* is so right, Random does look so hot in bra and panties! And talk about a big cable :wink:. He keeps talking about his 12" . . . Be warned, he is currently involved with two sisters and he has a hot tub fetish!
And here is the first one I ever had:
Wow, talk about an interesting date! We met at a local Burger King where he insisted on tipping the person taking our order. The employee did get a little upset though, when RandomInetGuy vaulted over the counter and placed a big wet kiss on his cheek. He's quite the conversationalist too. We talked about everything from how big my a** was to what color thong he was wearing. But it was a bit much when he kept insisting that his bra was prettier than mine, and loudly demanding that we have a contest in the middle of the establishment, letting the patrons vote. The parents who called the police, as well as the little crybaby kids, over-reacted, as did the cops who were overly rough as they tackled him to the floor and yanked his pants back up. He's going to make some lucky lady VERY happy. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/2/2009 9:41:56 PM | Well Bob, yes and no.
Some women think testimonials are tacky. Other women like em because some else knows you here and may even know you in person(which means you aren't necessarily someone that spends their life online).
Some women read way too much into testimonials, others don't.
Bottom line: It's your profile. Put on there what YOU want. If someone doesn't like it? They weren't meant for you. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/2/2009 9:59:59 PM | I don't think humor always comes across as funny as we think it is. I would not have gone out with someone with things like that written on their profile. I wouldn't want to be with the kind of guy that wants that kind of advertisement.
But that is me. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/2/2009 10:14:12 PM | Haha. I think they're hilarious, even tho I'm not in your age range. The Burger King one was the best. I think tongue in cheek testimonials are better than the real thing. You always have to wonder if the person is getting such rave reviews why in the world did not one of those work out? *shrugs* I say keep em. If she can't laugh along, well, do you think you'll really get along? | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 5:26:52 AM | I find your's a turn off b/c all three focus on you and women's under-garments... I find them more disturbing than funny.
Testimonials in general make me wonder if the man is so great then why aren't you still dating him....unless something about distance is mentioned.
A good testimonial is sincere with a hint of humor, IMO, but overall, I find them a turn-off. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 6:21:06 AM | Personally I do find them a turn off. I don't let friends write ones for me. Nor vice versa...even if it is ''just friends''
As a woman I wonder ''did they date'' ''did they have sex'' ''did she send nude photos'' ''did they get naked on cam together''....why do i think this? Because a lot of people do these things online. Without even meeting they could have engaged in these types of behaviors.
And I to think ''well if he's so wonderful, then why are you not with him.''
I have seen some that are very sexually explicit, and can't fathom why a woman would even talk to a man who had testimonials from women bragging about what a great lay he is. Kind of nasty.
Also if we click on the girls page to see what kind of girls you like, and we think ''eww she's slutty'' or ''wow she's way prettier than me, he won't like me then''.....well it can just create problems all the way around. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 6:32:40 AM | Let's just say they are not helping you....
These are tasteless.
Not a big fan of testimonials period.
These two make me wonder about your criteria for the women you meet/ seek.
If I read this on a profile, I would definitely go to the next one. In a hurry. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 6:39:18 AM | I'm not a fan of them ... it's no mystery that you've more than likely been on dates from here and have met other women, but I don't want to READ about your dates or see whom you've met.
Even if they're just from friends I find them to be a turn-off and to be quite tacky. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 7:41:20 AM | A joke isnt funny the third time...they are just too much.
I feel since most have not even met the one they are writing about, it's pretty useless actually. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 7:53:39 AM | I'm not a big fan of testimonials to begin with. They usually fall under 3 categories IMO
1) She has never met the man, they're internet buddies and think they oh know each other so well (delusional)
2) If this person walks on water why aren't with him (there's more to this story)
3) Women marking their territory and it seems men are too oblivious to notice (sends women running the opposite direction)
Mostly, testimonials are just unneccesary.
OP - your testimonials come across as just r eally stupid and immature (especially for the age range you're looking to attract) | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 9:04:02 AM | They are a little off-color. Some people like that kind of humor. Some people like slap-stick too. Why don't you just post some pics of yourself with pie in the face or falling down in a pile of banana peels.
If you like them, leave them. It may hurt your chances of finding a woman but if that's YOU, you just may find the right one.
I don't think my bra or undies would fit you. I am only a size 1. You look a little you have some thunder thighs there.
The salami pic is a bit much. The only answer comes to my mind is to shove it up your........ | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 9:06:10 AM | I have had unsolicited testimonials appear on my profile out of the blue. Never before had contact with these people and they sucked and they were fat and ugly and I told them "get that crap off mu profile or I will kill you and your whole f%&*king family."
I like the other testimonials, and if ladies have a problems with it then they are some other guys problem.
All this fussing about what women want...who cares after a while? I might as well start paying for it soon. I mean I am going to cater to the whim of every power mad women on this site? Or please myself?
The testimonials are harmless and so are the favourites. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 9:26:57 AM | Goddamn! I missed my edit time. These unwanted old biddies and their covert, patronizing, passive-aggressive, sugar coated poison pill, were looking to ride my coattails because I am well know in the forums. I threated to go to admin.
She says all you had to do was ask. Well, thats all she had t o do before she sullied my profile with her self serving garbage...and furthermore... | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 9:40:45 AM | Would a testimonial be a dealbreaker for me?
Actually it probably would, I look at them as childish - sort of "MySpacey"
As always....to each his own | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 12:22:27 PM | I don't see what' the deal breaker with testimonials when there is nothing mentioned other than the character of a person. I have two testimonials (both unsolicited) and I've never met any of these women. I've spoken to them and they seem to think I was worthy of a testimonial.
I find it strange that it's a deal breaker when someone of the opposite sex gives you a kudos because women claim they want a man that they can just talk too about anything without the extra attraction there. When that is done, and a guy makes friends (strictly platonic) with one of these girls and the girl decides to help him out by granting him a testimonial, other girls are turned off by it. So what is a guy to do?
I'm starting to agree with the guy before me, somethings that some women care about should not even be considered by some men.. It's there fault if they want to be turned off. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 12:34:24 PM | I just checked and you still have them on your profile. I was going to ask how they were working for you, but if you haven't taken off the tests., they must be real chick magnets.
Honestly don't know how your profile is working for you either. I would suggest a total profile review. But that is me, again, I think humor doesn't translate too well on the internet and your page goes way over the top imo. | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:02:56 PM | Testimonials from people one has never met in person are pretty useless - IMO. I won't allow them on my profile and I won't write one for anyone-whether I've met them or not.
I did find yours kind of disturbing because they all referenced the lingerie/women's clothing. It would make me wonder if you really were into that fetish, and if so-that would be enough for me to pass on your profile. However, I did find them funny.
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:05:26 PM | Thanks to everyone who has provided input, I can see I have some thinking to do. I think there is some misconception about them, and that in itself is enlightening.
Some of the responses seem to indicate that there was more to the testimonials then there is. These testimonials are the first communication I had with them. I think one of them didn't even read my profile, but wrote the testimonial and removed me. I can assure you that none of them has had the opportunities they write about. It's what they chose to write in response to me making them a favorite without contacting them first. I don't do that anyway, but I made an exception in these cases specifically to get a response. I guess women portraying me in bra and panties is supposed to be the ultimate insult, but I see them as hilarious. (Do they make a bra in size 52A?)
I'm not interested in meeting lots of women, and as some of you have noted, I'm never going to have that issue. I'm not interested in women who feel the need to make derogatory comments, or (and I have had this happen to me) actually write me to tell me how much my profile sucks. I'm willing to limit myself to women who find my profile amusing.
I don't see this as an issue about changing myself, but rather, what I choose to display on my profile. My preference is not to say I have a sense of humor, but rather display it. However, if most women, in my age group at least, seem to take this in the wrong context, I do need to rethink their value.
Thanks again to everyone for their opinions.
Bob | |
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| Are silly testimonials a deal breaker?
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:30:52 PM |
I don't see this as an issue about changing myself, but rather, what I choose to display on my profile. My preference is not to say I have a sense of humor, but rather display it. However, if most women, in my age group at least, seem to take this in the wrong context, I do need to rethink their value.
I don't think it's age selective. Most don't get my sense of humor either. I've had quite a few different profiles here. Until this one, they were all humor-based. It was a really fun thing ~ for a while. I recently did yet another re-write and the difference is really quite shocking. It completely changed the tone of the email I received. My testimonials are not tongue-in-cheek, but I do love your's. I think they're very funny. That works for me, but I've learned something since being on POF ~ not many have a raging sense of humor when it comes to written words. I've gotten very DRY emails, only to have phone conversations that were to die for funny. I think something in the middle is best and even then, it will likely only "speak" to a select few. This site is really tough when it comes to "meeting" someone ~ I do much better elsewhere. The numbers game here is insane. Maybe try a couple of the other free sites and see if that changes anything. Good luck to you!  | |
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