| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:17:54 PM | I've come to the conclusion that I never want another relationship ever again. They're expensive, I always get hurt, and it's safer for everyone that way. But I also can't even get laid by the loosest women. So I've concluded that I'll never find a chick to get laid, either.
I'm not happy about this, but I'm quite comfortable with it. My friends think I'm either just upset, or that I'm calling my hand before the game has ended. I don't agree with them.
Are there others who think that I'm being completely unreasonable? I feel just fine with it, but I'd like to know what makes people have hope to believe that being single and alone for life is not possible. I think it is, not necessarily by choice but by consequence... and I'm fine with that. Why am I the one who is wrong, about his own life? Are there others who are living with the same conclusion? | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:27:36 PM |
Are there others who think that I'm being completely unreasonable? Yes. You're only 27. I think you might want to get to know yourself better so you can stop picking the wrong girls. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:32:25 PM | Not quite sure what being "only 27" has to do with that. And I firmly believe anyone can get to know themselves better - that you could be 99 years old on your death bed, and still not know enough about yourself.
To say I'm "only 27" and not know myself well enough to avoid the wrong girls is insulting (and it was not your intention I'm sure) given that I'm not an average 27 year old by any stretch. (Im actually quite sensitive about my age).
But I feel quite appropriately comfortable with the fact that I'm a loner, and will be for life... yet everyone thinks I'm wrong. It can't be because I'm "only 27" and that I need to "get to know myself better"... | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:36:39 PM | | If "everyone" thinks that, then perhaps you should heed their words. Or become a monk if you feel you are and will be a loner for life. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:47:13 PM | | A number of years ago I had the same sentiments... I wanted to be a nomadic goat herder, with internet access of course. Life is about ups and downs. Everyone can have a good stretch, it's how you survive the bad stretches that make the difference. And anyway, it's part of the big cosmic joke: the moment you give up, she appears right in front of you. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 1:50:34 PM | Funny, because whenever I give up, that does happen - and it ends up ending horribly.
I'm finding that this "bad stretch" is really just my life in ordinary... and the problem was that I never accepted my loneliness. Now that I have permanently accepted it, people seem to think I'm wrong, or too young to make such a conclusion.
Giving up is not by choice, it's that there's no point in trying when you're never successful anyway. I think the key for me was getting rejected by a hooker... at that point, I figured, "ok... now I know". That's pretty good proof, I think! | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:22:29 PM | | Yeah i no what it feels like i feel that every second of the day and i think i had enough because i dont want to be in a world where i dont fit in | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:39:18 PM | | I myself have said the same thing but just when you think that is what you want and start going on with your life then poof you find someone you want to date and it all starts over again. Just take a break from dating or trying to find a date for now and relax. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:45:27 PM | thedab101
i truely think ur trying to hard let it happen, when u atleast expect it, it will happen your given up way to soon jjust go on doing your daily things and one day it will be right there in front of you | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 2:48:52 PM | And when I never try? If I just let things happen naturally,when I least expect it? I don't feel like there's any reason to "least expect" anything, especially when my past experience proved me wrong, constantly.
Everyone says "take a break", "find yourself", etc. I'm not taking a break, I'm just not going to ever be found by anyone, and for any reason, and that's fine. I don't like it, but I can live with it. Why is this wrong? | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 3:00:04 PM | I don't want to fit in good gawd have you looked at it? Do you aspire to mediocrity? Life is mountains and valleys, and sometimes the valley can look pretty dark and Presto you walk into patch of sunshine, I just try to dig it either way. "You don't want to be in a world you do not fit in"? Come on man where is that at? Is some kinda attention needing gig? Here's what you do, okay? Pull up your big girl panties and go out and kick some butt. look man I got to learn to walk all over again, my left hand is still paralyzed,and I wear a small leg brace, Lost my fianace' a 1/2 million dollar house. a killer job in management and you wanna know what? so big fat fn deal. I got lots of time left I'll do it again only maybe gigger!lol, and I intend on kicking ass. I am not gonna sit back and go gheez my life sucks. Life is what YOU make it, so go getcha some,take a good long pull and rock it out!
Like dimebag darryl would say getcha pull!
T | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 5:18:15 PM | well you know whats good for yourself right? Perhaps its just a phase and when a good girl comes around youll say different. We all have our ups and down which puts us in that position (Im only 23 and ive felt like that) but its just a lesson in life. I also learned maybe yes i dont really want a relationship but for what ive learned and been through there is no reason i should stop trying to put myself out there and sharing what i feel with others (kinda like this), as you never know who you might touch with your words.
Just got to remain optimistic of your future. Better days are coming  | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/3/2009 5:20:24 PM | hmm...I think there are many people who can make a decision to remain single, for many different reasons, and all of them are personal to them alone, and not really for others' to judge. In fact, you may be surprised, but most people don't really care one way or another what your choices around that are.
But to make a decision based on being hurt, and sour grapes, and just feeling pissed off that you have been screwed over a few times, or not getting laid enough, is a decision based in negativity....not based upon solid reasons for 'you' on remaining single.
Usually, after you're done being all bunched up....you end up back in the game anyway...after little hurt boy decisions like that pass.
Kimbo****************************** | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/4/2009 8:47:30 AM | You're here asking questions, so you're obviously NOT "fine" with being alone. I can relate.
Masturbate, then be happy hanging out with close male and female friends. Watch A-list Hollywood movies for emotional/spiritual release, even if those emotions are negative. Works for me. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/4/2009 8:55:51 AM | | Trust me, it is much better to just stay single and have complete autonomy over your finances. Just get yourself a PS3 or XBox 360 and you will be fine. Being a monk isn't such a bad idea. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:20:36 AM | | Why don't you start growing a really long beard so people will eventually come to you for sage advice. Wear long flowing robes and walk around talking to yourself or proclaiming the world is about to end. If you can manage a miracle or two that will go far in getting people to listen to what you have to say. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:31:37 AM | | Im in exactly the same situation as you and its been like this for several years now. I'm seriouslly thinking about just becoming a monk as that way the only hardship i'd have to endure is a lifetime of toiling in the fields. I hate being single but this is all I seem to be then a girl comes along and it's amazing for a time but low and behold she ****s me over like theres no tomarow. I don't think I can take anymore of this. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/9/2009 4:59:19 PM | Have you been examined by a psychiatrist or psychologist. There are people who suffer from some problems that make it almost impossible to connect with someone. You would never even know it sometimes.
Sometimes certain therapies can help these folks, and sometimes not.
I hope for you that you are not in that category
If you aren't, then giving up at 27 is INSANE, and I'd say see a psych anyway. You must be awful scared to be hurt again which is understandable, but you must have the courage to keep getting back on your horse. NO excuses.
Good luck
Rob | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/9/2009 6:11:53 PM |
Why am I the one who is wrong, about his own life? Are there others who are living with the same conclusion?
I'm living the same way. And I'm sick of my family and friends telling me I'm wrong for being alone so I think I know how you feel to a degree OP. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/9/2009 6:53:21 PM | I don't know how anyone can be happy contemplating being alone for the rest of their lives,but the way you answer the other posters it would seem that your ideal mate would be a person who relishes debating,maybe you are dating people you have to dummy yourself down for,or you are dating just based on a physical attraction thing,Your a good looking guy who seem sucessful in your career,but maybe you need to take the time out to assess what it really is that you are looking for in a female,and as for the hooker did you check to see if her "not in service" light was on. | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/9/2009 7:24:01 PM | Hey I'm 45 and STILL getting F***** over the same way!! At least I know it's not JUST me and other males are going through the same hell! I don't know if this makes you feel better or worse! But remember, (i didn't see where you are from) there is always Reno!! 
(at least I hope it's still there!!) | |
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| Acknowledging when you've had enough
Posted: 5/9/2009 11:04:41 PM | [I wanted to be a nomadic goat herder
it is said that a goat is little more than a sheep with handle bars ]
least they aren't ape hangers | |
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