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 intelxual
Joined: 4/16/2009
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In the past few weeks I have gotten 4 phone numbers from women in nightclubs/bars. I waited a day and either called ot texted each of them after we initially met. Out of the 4 only one bothered to respond, and even then only sporadically. Two of them I just got voice mails and no response, and one other I saw at the club the next weekend and she told me she was only out to have fun, no interested in meeting people.

So, can any women out there tell me why these women even bothered to give their numbers?

I have a sister and she is extremely picky about men, and when she gives her number out which is rare, she dutifully waits and expects a call from the guy.
 Landra
Joined: 9/10/2007
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Why don't women call/text back?
Posted: 5/4/2009 6:30:08 PM

So, can any women out there tell me why these women even bothered to give their numbers?
It's easier. Then you go away happy and don't give the woman a hard time or sulk about not getting her number or argue about why she should give it to you. Plus, she doesn't have to be honest and direct enough reject you in person, she can ignore you until you go away.

I don't agree with this behavior but women aren't the only ones who say yes yes and think ignoring a person is an acceptable way of getting rid of them
 Lynsteph74
Joined: 12/1/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2009 6:38:55 PM
You met them at a club, right?? My best few guesses would be 1-They were SO drunk they forgot who you were, and are now afraid you are some weirdo, 2-YOU were SO drunk that what you thought of as suave and gentlemanly, was actually creepy behavior, 3-Like she said, they are too immature or wimpy to just say, thanks, but no thanks, or 4, after you left the love of their life walked in, and they eloped to Vegas already, so you will never hear from them again...I think you should give 'em 1 call/text after meeting like that and if there is no response, lose the number...
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 5/4/2009 6:40:15 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Landra said it best. Nothing like a guy in a club who might be a wee bit too drunk to hear no thank you. Getting #s in clubs is pointless. If the woman has her beer goggles on (and we have them too), she'll remember that you were the guy who she wasn't remotely interested in and gave you a number (not always hers) just so you'd go away. I just say no and if he asks more than once say no again and walk away.
 mesorpsails
Joined: 11/24/2008
Msg: 5
Why don't women call/text back?
Posted: 5/4/2009 6:53:32 PM
Ditto Landra

Also, when someone asks me for my number and I don't want to give it, I just tell them I'll be at the same bar next week....lol OK, so I only did that when I really do go to the bar every Friday night, but still...lol
 MandaKay
Joined: 4/13/2009
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Why don't women call/text back?
Posted: 5/4/2009 6:56:26 PM
And you're absolutely certain the numbers they gave where their's? Because I know some people will give fake numbers.and even though someone responded to your text, doesn't mean it's the person you think it is. I respond to texts and half the time I don't know who it is texting me.
 CutiepieHoneybunch
Joined: 11/27/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 5/4/2009 6:58:15 PM
OP, the beer goggles came off and you're not attractive enough to keep them interested. Quite simple. Tis' why people are fed up with the bar scene usually. Decisons made with the aid of alchohol don't turn out well.
 Bellydanza
Joined: 11/25/2007
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Posted: 5/4/2009 7:00:48 PM
Men do this too. It's not exclusive to women.

But you say your sister is picky, yet you got four numbers...seems like you're NOT too picky.
 intelxual
Joined: 4/16/2009
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Posted: 5/4/2009 7:05:28 PM
Yes, I am absolutely sure. The voice mails had the same name and voices I remember from the clubs. Also, I don't drink when I go to clubs since I always go alone and have to drive home, none of my friends like to dance, they prefer pool halls and bars, plus they are all married. As for the texts, she definitely remembered me because she texted back that she remembered me because she liked my name and thought it was interesting.

The 4 numbers were over a few weeks time. I am looking for a GF, so if I don't look I can't find one:)
 MandaKay
Joined: 4/13/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 5/4/2009 7:12:14 PM
Just as you're looking....I'm sure they are too. And while there might have been initial interest you aren't what they are looking for after all.
 RicardoKlement
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 5/4/2009 7:19:58 PM
....nah, that is why I stopped askin' hotties out....way too much of a pain in the arse....too many hurdles to clear...first ya gotta talk to them....hope to get their digits...then you gotta hope that the number is real....and if it is, you gotta hope they actually do want to talk to you...then you gotta hope they find you to be interesting enough to agree to go out with you sometime..then you gotta hope they actually show up and don't stand you up...if they do show up, you gotta hope you impress them enough during the date to earn a second date...then you gotta hope an ex boyfriend or f*ckbuddy doesn't re-enter their life...then you gotta hope that the 2nd date builds on the first date...then you gotta hope...well, you get the point.

It is soooooooo much easier to just get an hot escort for 250-400 dollars an hour. sooooooo much easier.
 talista
Joined: 10/11/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2009 7:31:50 PM
I agree with Landra. But usually I will take a guy's number if he gets agressive rather than give one.


And you're absolutely certain the numbers they gave where their's? Because I know some people will give fake numbers.


This happens too, I get a lot of weird phonecalls from guys who think they have some other girl's number.
 minako79
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 5/4/2009 7:52:52 PM
there's your answer right there, in a club... you can't expect women to be more serious... too much competition.
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 5/4/2009 9:08:56 PM
I'm assuming for the same reason guys don't call us back...they're not interested. I think women sometimes give a number to "be polite" or "nice' or whatever, but they have no intentions of calling if they're not interested, so they simply don't. (especially if they exchanged numbers while drunk. That voids everything)
 Practically Housebroken
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/4/2009 9:42:09 PM
If you’ve been around here for any amount of time you’ve seen the stir not responding to an emails causes. I'm guessing it doesn't get any prettier in person.
 jmantra062383
Joined: 2/8/2009
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Posted: 5/4/2009 9:42:26 PM
If you're looking for something serious, the club is not the place to be
 NESunshine
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/5/2009 3:39:33 AM
They didn't want to do the right thing and say they weren't interested. It's a silly thing that men and women do because they don't like awkward situations or confrontations.

Also, don't text someone as initial contact going forward. That screams impersonal.
 KISS MY A$$
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/5/2009 4:06:52 AM
I used to know a chick that would give them a number. It was the number to Saint Mary's Church. Her name was Mary...

She will perhaps burn in hell.
 Lori922
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 5/5/2009 7:12:29 AM

So, can any women out there tell me why these women even bothered to give their numbers?


B/c it's much easier than rejecting you to your face.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Posted: 5/5/2009 7:28:27 AM
First of all...comparing the dating practices of your sister and women your interested in, is just wrong on so many levels.

You get a number and it doesnt pan out...so what...your having fun meeting them arnt you? I doubt you are thinking your going to meet miss right at the bar.
 sweetnsassy802
Joined: 4/17/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/5/2009 7:33:33 AM
Clubs/lounges are mostly places where women/men wanna let loose, unwind, dance, etc, not really hook up. It isn't really the spot for it.
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