| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:39:40 PM | | So Im getting back on the horse as that term goes, and in the past I dated a guy who was just a total ass to me and my mom hated him and I took his side so my mom kicked me out of the house and then later when me and him broke up she made me move up north and Im finaly home and really would like to stay sooo how do I convince my mom [when I do meet some1] that he's good, since I moved back I brought home one guy and later found out he was a ass and a ex criminal so like I need some advice, anyone up for helpin me out here =P | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:48:49 PM | Easy, meet someone good.
After your last one, don't blame your mom.
Maybe hang at her church and meet a guy?
Might not have the lawless ex criminal appeal, but she would approve.
LOL
If you do meet a guy(from wherever), just don't hide it.
Ask her opinion and see how it goes.
Good Luck. | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:51:00 PM | You mom "MADE you move up north"?! WTH?!
Yeah... my advice is wait until you're old enough to date and can support yourself (and you future bf cuz it sounds like you have a broken picker). | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:59:50 PM | =P that whole north thing is a long story
whens old enough :P Im 21!! I think the prob with my mom is she wants to be around now cuz in the past she wasnt and when she was she either was drunk or a **** and she might be trying to make me do good decisions but I hate it!!! get off my back already, I think she wants me to be single the rest of my life with dogs as my children *sighs* lol! | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/6/2009 8:06:27 PM | | Stop dating until you no longer need your mother's approval. What's mom got to do with it? And what is HOME? Her house?? You're 21? Have you gotten a college education? If not, seems like that's what you should focus on. | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/8/2009 9:34:37 AM |
that whole north thing is a long story...whens old enough :P Im 21!!
Then your mother can't "make" you do anything, including living up north. You may not be able to live with her unless you adhere to whatever agreement/rules have been cast, but otherwise you're "free, white and 21" as the saying goes.
I think the prob with my mom is she wants to be around now cuz in the past she wasnt and when she was she either was drunk or a **** and she might be trying to make me do good decisions but I hate it!!!
So do you believe you mother has made the positive changes her own life needed so that you can respect and value her advice/input? If not, then why seek her approval anyway?
I can't say that my past is just like your mom's but maybe there are some similarities and it has resulted in a little distance between me and my oldest daughter. Now, when I try to advise her but wind up lecturing, we have a signal where she says "Mom, you're doing it again." You and your mom might work out a similar agreement. | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/9/2009 3:32:42 PM | Maybe your Mom is trying to parent you as she feels she should have done the first time around. I wonder that growing up with a parent who drinks alot, you maybe didn't get alot of very good lessons in life. Is she trying to turn life around for the two of you?
If you want to impress your Mom and want to keep peace in your home, get to know ALOT about the guy you like, don't sleep with him, and after you know TONS about him (give it WEEKS of talk!!), tell her about him and ask her if you can bring him home to meet her. After she meets him, ask her what her initial impression was. Tell her you'll keep it in mind and ask her to please be patient with you so you can have a chance to learn about guys. Truly, be kind to yourself and keep an open mind for what she suggests.
You'll learn more about the sorting process over time: how to notice a TRULY good guy vs the 'red flags' telling you when they're jerks.
All the best to you. | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/19/2009 1:55:30 AM | | get a guy that dont treat you like shit give you a tip countrymusic , us guys have same problem with women some are nice some are ****es you want a nice guy dont go to bars that are holes and pick up guys go to market or movies even dacing im sure you will find a nice guy that will treat you with respected , go to your moms church hang out with friends , thats what im doing im looking for the right women with personality and has a good heart . plus NOT A **** good luck in your surch . with me looks dont matter need a women with a heart .............. you should look for a guy with heart NOT A ***hole | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/19/2009 5:09:46 AM | One thing you have to remember is that guys really don't care whether your parents like him or not, in truth.
They really aren't that bothered if their own parents likem them or not, a great deal.
Women never fly the nest very far, and their families remain huge parts of their lives. Guys are flying away as soon as they have wings.
In short, you do all the work. Don't rely on him to be mr. wonderful in front of them. | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:06:47 AM |
guys really don't care whether your parents like him or not, in truth... Women never fly the nest very far, and their families remain huge parts of their lives
Well, then, it shows poor planning on the guy's part to not care about her parents and what they think if they supposedly have such a huge influence on their daughter and consequently will be up both their a**es close to 24/7 if they get married or live together.
Really... this explains soooo much! | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:54:36 AM | I think you should put on your "big girl pants" and get your own life!!
How old are you?? 12?
oops..thats rightyou are 21! A legal adult!! START ACTING LIKE ONE!! | |
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| How to convince my mother with a new guy!
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:39:56 PM | OP:
I have had that 'talk' with my son, who is 21. If he leaves home, he better have a stable place to live because my home does not have a revolving door. You need to grow up and get your act together. You probably pull that shit with your mother because you get away with it. You give no consideration to your mother by taking up with a bunch of worthless losers. Think on this: Is this the kind of guy I can bring home to meet my mother? I run a tight ship at my place and i would never permit anyone living under my roof to play stupid games like taking sides with worthless lovers over me. If my son happened to be right, then I am still right because it is my home and RESPECT is boss. If he doesn't like it, he knows what he can do and that is the reason no one ****s with me at home like that. Except for the messy room, but that is another thread.
P.S.: Get with the 'program' cause your woman card is about to be revoked. | |
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