ji_98
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:09:27 PM | i met this guy that i use to go to church with a while ago. .
i met him up again randomly 4 years later at the public library ,we talk and chat and later he tells me he has a mental illness, and says hes manic depressive. one thing about this guy is -he talks very very fast and talks a lot a lotttt, tells me he has this crazy business idea and wants me to join in, says he nows barack obama and arnold schrwargger and has their number on his cell, think he can make millions doing some business idea. he lives in government social housing and has a speical colored bus card that i never seen before, and told me governemtn pays him each month money since hes on disability. he doesn't have his grade 12 and hes in his late 20's. i ask him to finish HS,but he said hes ,more intersted in creating his own business and talks about his dreams
what i am asking is i go to library a lot , do u think its safe to still talk to this guy once in a while or should i just ignore him completely. should i even hang out with him like i did before 4x's. he tells me he has to go home before 4 since thats when they serve dinner at his social housing place. i mean i didn;t now what manic depressive was. he told me he has it.
but even before telling me his illness, i knew something was wrong with this guy-his speech-talks too much and sooo fast and the stuff he says-dreams like he will be rich millions and make jobs for america.....and driving ferrarais
i just want to now how safe-would he harm me or do something crazy to me.would u talk to someone like this. ii mean what would u do, continue saying hey to him and talk to him,but not hang out, or hang out less or not at all. what would you do | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:59:58 AM | | Most manic-depressive people are fine.. I am, i am not on any meds, but i manage it well ......and the only time you need to worry is if you see signs of aggresion towards you. If that person raises their voice to you for no reason, or gets overly jealous, you should prob. see other people. Agression is prob the worst part of it, and if someone cant control their agression or are not on meds to tame it if they are agressive, its best not to date them... | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/7/2009 12:48:54 PM | He sounds delusional and psychotic.
Do you really need friends so badly that you're willing to risk it with someone like this? I mean-- what would you talk about? His delusions? Would you be agreeing with him because it's impossible to carry on a real conversation or would you be trying to talk him down to earth?
Frankly, I wouldn't waste my time-- I don't see any value in it and I'm not qualified as a mental health practitioner to know how to deal with someone so unstable. | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/7/2009 1:05:21 PM | | The person that I know is a manic depressive and supposedly takes medication. She gets money and gets free medical (medicaid, I think). She has a low self esteem and gets very jealous of me..She wants to be me..A whole bunch of us go out (girl's night out) and she is always making all kinds of paranoid comments about how men propositioned her, etcetera, etcetera...she makes up alot of stories that aren't true..If I was you..I would dating folks who are manic depressive...I would love to fix her up with someone I know but I am fearful that she might turn on someone and would be harmful to others or herself..She needs to not concentrate on herself but see if she can help others somehow..She doesn't work and she's bored..and she's lazy...I have never known anyone who is so lazy...and gets paid for it..I sometimes wonder if folks who are manic-depressive or say they are....is it real or all an act so that we can feel sorry for them and help them? I don't know....For your own sakes, if I was you, I wouldn't date anyone on disability, or someone who doesn't have employment and are able to work. | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/7/2009 2:36:35 PM | The guy you are talking to is in the midst of a manic episode. It sounds as if his meds haven't kicked in yet. He is sick right now.
But all bipolar people are not the same. There are many who stay on their meds and are stable. There are different types of bipolar disease and different degrees.
But this guy you are talking to is not well right now. I wouldn't go anywhere with him but I imagine you are safe in the library. | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/13/2009 4:24:44 PM | Yes, most of us, are safe. We are not all "crazy". It's just another thing some of us have to deal with sometimes. Not all manic depressives are the same. Please don't judge all of us, by one bad experience with one. Many of us are stable enough to date, and even enjoy it.
There is also a misconception that we must all be "dangerous". That is not the case either. Are there some folks with mental illness who are capable of violence? Of course, but the percetage is no greater then that of the general population who commit violent acts. But we are not all like that. This disorder effects everyone differently. Some folks are more severe then others.
If this guy "worries" you, you have every right to move on and turn him down. But don't assume that every manic depressive person is the same. You have every right to be careful and protect your safety if someone seems "off" to you, but being bipolar does not automatically make a person a threat. For most of us, it just simply means we're bipolar, and that's it.
Sorry if I sound a tad irritated but there have been several threads on here already that make us all sound bad, and we're not. We just have an extra thing we have to deal with sometimes.  | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:42:59 PM | RUNNN AWAAAAYYYY!
I'm not kidding. And don't believe that "If you're in a public place you're safe" BS, either. I saw a female police officer get killed because she thought it was safe to confront a naked EDP (emotionally disturbed person, politically correct speak for a nut case) in broad daylight in a public parking lot. He picked her up like a rag doll (EDPs can have superhuman strength), turned her upside down, and pile-drived her into the pavement until her skull literally split open and her brains fell out. The other responding cops had to shoot him mucho many times before he finally went down.
You listen to your "friend" - do you think he is remotely connected to reality? | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:31:02 PM | You only need to worry if he's aggressive or violent.
However, if your attention toward him suggests anything more than you are able to offer, if he is delusional about that too, I would exercise caution with him.
I'd establish firm boundaries with him...but I really have no idea what he's about...
It's more his delusions I would concern about than anything...but I've known manic depressives who wouldn't harm a fly. They do often get obsessed though with a beloved or a perceived beloved...so be careful. | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 5/13/2009 10:45:21 PM | The only danger here is ignorance. Do the right thing, get educated.
Manic Depressive Illness or Bi-polar is an illness, if she said I bumped in to this person and they told me they had HIV or Leprosy would you all say run in the opposite directions fast as you can?!? If he breaths on you you could die? Well, some of you probably would..I suggest getting out of the dark ages and join the rest of us in the light, its much nicer over here :)
He is clearly in the midst of a manic episode, either not on meds or on the wrong meds. It is a debilitating horrible disease. It is not his fault or his choice to be sick and there is no reason to treat him like a praia.
That being said, you also don't' need to to associate with someone you don't genuinely like. | |
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 6/8/2009 6:30:32 AM | OP..from what you described, it sounds like this guy is not on meds or is not taking ones that are effective.
His "dreams" are delusions of grandeur, often a common feature of those in a manic state. This would be a warning sign to me....is he able to diffrentiate between that and reality? It sounds like he is living in his own dream world, not pursuing education or a stable living situation.
If you ask me, this guy isn't ready for a relationship. Are you ready for the drama? | |
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toy09
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Joined: 5/4/2009
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:13:13 AM | I know a few people with BPD, they are good people. Some take medication for it but in any case, it really isn't as bad as half the people on this thread make it out to be.
So what if he get's emo every once in while, it goes away just as fast as it starts. The only time you should be worried about it, is in the extreme cases where it turns violent. Those cases happen a whole lot less than what you would be led to believe by paranoid bigots.
Anyway, If some you really want to blissfully hate others (for a physical dissorder none-the-less): go right ahead, I can't stop you. I think there is a lot worst people can do than having BPD though.
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| manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:58:26 AM | i am bi-polar...i am amazed at the stupidity, bigotry & just downright hatefullness of some of the posters here....my emotions are sometimes a little intense & those voices inside (which are really just my guilt & insecurity) get on my nerves at times but not nearly as much as the rampant ignorance of some people...
one of my ex's was also bi-polar but he also has schizophrenia w/auditory hallucinations, without meds he is not a bundle of fun but that does not make him a bad person...the fact that he is also an a$$hole did however make me dream of driving a stake thru his heart!...just kidding....mostly | |
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