| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:44:42 PM | When we are looking for love and someone to spend the rest of our lives with, we often have our "preferences" of shape, height, color, and size of what we are looking for, even though it sounds like we are purchasing a car, we are in fact looking for that special someone.
Do you think it is possible for a man to fall in love and want to be with a plus size woman even though he has never been with a plus size woman before? Is it possible for that love to be so over whelming and blinding that he chooses what his heart wants instead of his mind? | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:56:50 PM | Absolutely!
I used to make excuses and "warn" a man before we met that I had weight to lose. Now, I don't care. I am who I am (thighs and all!).
I've met some awesome men and have had relationships (plus a 16 year marriage) and I was never thin during any of those times. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 2:37:33 AM | Absolutely it's possible. That's the whole "surprised by love" concept.
The challenge is: How many men will put themselves in a position where they'll take a chance and be surprised?
It's tough in an online forum, where we browse options like we might a catalogue, looking for exactly whatever we have in mind. Might be easier to make an impression in person, where your personality leaves the strongest impression. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 2:55:36 AM | Who is? 37 and really needs to ask this question? I doubt it!
Guys never get serious much less fall in love with those who lack the basic level of common sense needed to get through life with out the need to ask whether it is safe to stick a finger or metal object in a wall socket! This question is the equivalent!
If an answer is truly needed and this is not just some type of attention seeking/pity/troll thread, I would amazed to learn if you in fact still have all of your fingers and toes! | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 6:09:26 AM | Oh most definitely
Not every guy likes slim girls...every guy is different in their taste in women...but at the end of the day it's how you feel
I think the overwhelming and blinding thing reminds me of the movie Shallow Hal - it does happen when you follow you heart not your head...but its a choice
At the end of the day...everybody is beautiful in there own little way | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 8:07:21 AM | I will tell you a story.
Many years ago, I had a male friend who hated cats. HATED them. I thought it odd, since he seemed like the sort of person who would actually LIKE cats. It turned out he was buying into male propoganda--men are SUPPOSED to not like cats, and like dogs. Of course, this guy then moved in a house with cats, and loves cats now. Has cats of his own now.
Replace the word "cats" with "fat women". Although then it sounds weird if you also don't replace "dogs" with "thin women". So replace "dogs" as instructed. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:23:36 AM |
Do you think it is possible for a man to fall in love and want to be with a plus size woman even though he has never been with a plus size woman before?
It's possible...
But...
It depends on his reasoning...
If hes just simply never been with a plus sized woman, then yes, he just may discover he likes it... same as someone who has never dated outside of race....
However, if it's a physical attraction (or lack of attraction) it may not work.. especially since men are often very visually driven...
I've got a few women friends, I know who are plus sized, and while I'm not particularly appearance driven myself, ( My G/F is "a few extra pounds").... I do have a limit at what I find attractive or not.... they can be beautiful people. One of my friends has the loveliest personality in the world, delightful voice etc... pretty face, but I could never go there because she was too voluminous for my tastes...
One of my buddies married a woman a couple of years ago... he's never had a problem with sizes...gone from anorexic to his wife who is very very large... she's a great lady... and he and her are very happy... but she doesn't do it for me... | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:47:57 AM | oh hon its absolutely possible...
I think most people fall in love with someone they never expected to affect them that way.
I am a widow, in my mid 30's,mom to 4, chubby and black...and I have had some of the most surprising relationships. Guys who had never dated out of thier race...or were dead set against a woman with kids....guys who only dated perfect 10's....all of it...and then they get to know me and I can surprise them with my humor, and level headed, laid back attitude. I am smart and accomplished and comfortable in my own skin...and many guys find that very sexy. I didnt always feel like this. I know for me I needed a major overhaul of my self image to see that I can get the same quality man any 24yr old stick can. Feel good about your self and it translates into irresistible sex appeal. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:29:04 AM | YES< YES
we all come in different shapes,sizes and colors............................there is someone out there for all of us......................keep being positive and have f aith.............. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 11:18:54 AM | I would like to say thank you to all and to ~The Rock Man~, no this is not a simple ploy of seeking attention, but sometimes a little reassurance is good. I do find it a little hard when you come out of a relationship that was not good both emotionally and physically. However, I have come to love myself again and know the man that I have in my life now does love me.
I love myself and my body and I think some of my best features are my brain, my eyes and my ass. Any man that takes the time to get to know me, will love me to the end.
Again, thank you to all who responded and have a fabulous day. Good luck to all. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 3:04:58 PM | | Depends on the confidence of both parties. It really is no different than many other issues, maybe even less of an issue. IMO over weight sure beats a bona fide nut case any day of the week :-) | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 3:38:41 PM | | big , small, tall , short, wide, thin... honestly who gives a rats ass.... depending on the man and what type of man he is, if its true love then physical appearance shouldn't mean anything to him and he will truly let the girl know that he loves her, if he does love her for how she looks then that in my dictionary is not called love. That is called fun... true love comes from the inside..... it is a high possibility that he will love her but only if he really does love her. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 4:04:38 PM | | Yes, it is possible and it does happen more than most people know. It doesn't matter and shouldn't matter what size you are if someone loves you for you that is the kind of love we all really want. Yes, I know that some aren't attracted to a larger frame no more than they are attracted to someone who wears dirty clothes per say. Its really what makes one happy that counts. Good Luck to you! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 4:49:31 PM | | IT HAS ALL TO DO WITH THE WAY YOU CARRY YOURSELF! I AM A BIGGER WOMEN AND I AM WORKING ON LOSING WEIGHT, NOT FOR NO MAN BUT FOR MYSELF! CONFIDENCE IS THE KEY. NOW IF YOU ARE A WOMAN WITH NO CONFIDENCE AND ALWAYS NEGATIVE IT WILL BE HARD TO FIND A MAN. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:10:46 PM | I think it's absolutely possible. Honestly, I don't think I could be with a gal who is rail thin to the point of being unhealthy. I have a preference for girls who lead a healthy lifestyle (not wanting to go to MacDonald's all the time, enjoys eating healthy, exercises), but that doesn't necissarily mean that they need to look like a fitness model. They could be a bit "chunkier" and still be in fantastic shape/health.
There's that old adage "Someone out there for everyone" and it's absolutely true. Not everyone immediately thinks about the exterior first or makes it the deal breaker. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/8/2009 2:38:20 PM | | Of course... In my experience the problem with weight generally falls as much on the person carrying it as it does on the potential partner. I've seen women try to act and dress like the thinner gals in an attempt to land a man. It is obvious they are trying to land something that is out of reach based on societal norms by using behaviors to do so. If a woman has a strong sense of self and is not hung up on the trappings of the world she immediately sets herself apart and dramatically increases her chances for being noticed for who she is. That being said... there is a big difference between carrying weight and laziness/gluttony. I don't think many are attracted to laziness and gluttony. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/8/2009 4:25:59 PM | | I don't know I think I have been interested in skinny as well as a little extra it depends on so many other things . When you are around someone long enough you really don't notice those extra 20 lbs. I personally like someone who is not perfect I find the little idosyncrasys someone has to be alluring. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/8/2009 4:36:00 PM | It is possible because I have many a friend who married a thin woman who is now a plus size, and they still love them deeply.......
What may be harder is to fall for someone that is not what you think you are attracted to in the first place, but many will alter their thought process because the even though still wanting all those attractive things, they do not offer what they want, so most will need to have a reality check for what they can truly command.
Being fit is a life time activity that gets harder and harder as one matures, but for me it is a mandatory part of what I am looking for, along with a brain that matches it. I do not need a young hard body to be happy, but I do need a mature woman that has kept herself in shape and aged well, because that is what I think I am offering and hope to have the same.
Once truly "in love" the blindness of that love will allow many imperfections to exist and not seen, along with the total aging process, but even that has a limit when one is as good as they can be, and the other chooses not to be, and finds every excuse to prove their point.
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/9/2009 4:39:37 PM | I think if a guy was in love with a woman who was not plus sized, and she became measurably plus-sized (like having kids or over good period of time being a little heavier), yes, of course he could still be in love with her (as long as she didn't grow to enormous size, or was much more than JUST plus-sized and used to be hot w/ a mild personality).
As far as MEETING someone and falling for them? If a guy (or girl) never dated someone of a plus-sized variety, and that person was not a reasonably attractive person while on the plus-sized realm, chances are, no, they're not going to date you. They may entertain the notion of fooling around, given certain circumstances (and their looks themselves), but if they never dated anyone plus-sized going into it, they're not going to date you (thus not put themselves in position to fall in love).
Exceptions could be made for those who can hardly find someone of a matching personality type, and they come across a woman who finally has one to his liking, and again, not well-beyond-plus-sized and she's within his "league" or "realm" of looks within reason -- then yes, sure! | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/10/2009 6:27:46 PM | | Its possible but not probable. A date site is a meat market. So, if u are overweight you will probably get passed over for a thinner woman. THis is not always the case. The knife cuts both ways. Usually, people go for the attractive person first then work thier way down the list. Its just human nature. | |
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| Do you think a man can love someone who is...?
Posted: 5/10/2009 6:45:44 PM | Absolutely. I get so goddamn lonely at times that as long as she's sweet and warm, I could care less about what she looks like. But it took me 'til age 44 to get so desperate...
Just kidding. I'm not that desperate, but would be open to a sweetie of any size and shape, as long as I find SOMETHING about her pretty. | |
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