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Posted: 5/8/2009 12:01:10 AM | Something happened yesterday that I still don't understand. How can somebody be dumped and then be accused by the dunping party that you're ignoring them? I don't get it. I broke up a couple of months ago and since then my communication with my ex has been on and off. Every once in a while I get an email , text or phone call by her . So I answer back , just to be polite, but I decided to continue my life and have cut all contact with her. Nothing!!
Yesterday I get a text asking me "How I was " and saying did u get my text or are you ignoring me?" I would like to know whats the mindframe of a person like this. How can she tell me that she's not ready and needs sapce and a couple of months later sends me something like that?
This is very odd to me. Cause I decided not to pursue her anymore, I'm just enjoying my life and making sure all my building blocks for the future are set. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 12:04:38 AM | Dude, same story on my end.
Scroll down on the first page in this forum and look for the topic I started. You'll get your answers there.
Seriously scary because this is the same exact problem I was having! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 12:06:58 AM | She wants to feel that she can still have you while she goes out looking for other dudes.
You did bad by keeping contact with her...cut all ties!
You're doing well by enjoying your life...leave the past in the past. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 12:15:17 AM | Wow, sounds like the exact situation I have been in.
Read the thread DoctorCox314 started... pretty much covered what you need to do. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 12:17:22 AM | Wow three different guys in one night having the same exact issue?? What the f*ck is wrong with women?? | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 12:59:38 AM | How's this for an interpretation -
"I dumped you but I didn't hear you go thump. So now I am trying to get back in touch to dnp you again. Please have the good manners to plead, cry and grovel as you are mear man and I am WOOOOoooooMAN (lts of reverberation) ... heartbreaker and heart staker."
Do you think I got it right
Disclaimer - I do not claim all women have this purile teenage attiude. But when you meet one that does it is a bit amusing. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 1:40:41 AM | | Face the facts. You're not "ThE OnE", but you're on hot-standby. Meaning when she needs either sexual satisfaction, or an emotional tampon (I'll give you odds on which happens more often) you're the one she'll ping. Stop communication with her, and move on. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 1:41:40 AM |
So I answer back , just to be polite, but I decided to continue my life and have cut all contact with her. Nothing!!
so .. first you answered back "just to be polite". She probably thought that since you were broke up but still communicating that you were "friends". Then you decided to stop talking to her. ??? IMO - kinda rude. Most people would wonder WTF? So - why not just tell her that you've decided to get on with your life and you can't do that if you're still being "polite" to her?? 
I don't understand why people just stop talking to others rather than being honest from the get go. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 1:44:46 AM |
How should I interpret this
You don't have to interpret it, just ask her why she keeps in touch.
Cutting all contact with her by ignoring her is not the same as politely telling her that you're no longer interested in having her in your life. That is in fact just ignoring her.
If you haven't got over her yet, or if your relationship or breakup was so traumatic that you no longer like her then it's understandable that you don't want to talk to her. So tell her that. Politely. THEN when you ignore her she will know why.
Or are you just enjoying the fact that she broke up with you and now she seems to be chasing you?
Not knowing either of you it's not possible to know why she is keeping in touch.
Are you in the habit of going out with manipulative egomaniacs? If so, yes she is probably playing head games. And so are you.
Was she a nice girl that you liked a lot and would still be with if she hadn't dumped you? She's probably still a nice girl who cares about you, maybe feels guilty about hurting you, and just wants to know you're okay. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 2:46:22 AM | msg1.
This is not odd at all. Its a game. The oldest there is, called the breakup game. Replace your SIMM in your cell and you'll be fine. After you do that you can call the people your interested in contacting and update them as to the new number.
The simple solution is thus, if you don't want contact anymore from an individual diminish the capacity of that individual to contact you. Including not jumping up to answer their incoming texts like some pavlov dog. ;)
If you want it to be over permanently leave a message that expresses that. Untill there is a solid "We are not entertained" in response to the annoying behavior of some person, how can you expect them to stop? Silence on a romantic matter, does nothing but encourage the stupid "that there's still hope". And silence to an annoying person only allows them leeway to expand their borders of predictable and supposedly unreproachable ways to harass.
If that is the case, with this Femm, explaing in polite detail exactly what will occur if she continues to harass and its her (exploitive deleted) if she continues.
Unless of course you like this game. ;)
And your immature enough to want to play. ;)
They are an Ex. Perhaps that should have some meaning?
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Posted: 5/8/2009 4:32:30 AM |
One word.......women. Enough said
Dude, not even close to "enough said". I've had guys do it to me. As a matter of fact, just last weekend I got a text from a guy I haven't dated for 3 years. I told him straight up that I wanted nothing to do with him right after the breakup and haven't said one word to him since. The text he sent me... "RU over ur tantrum yet? Ur gonna have 2 talk 2 me someday"Happens every couple of months.
OP; she's a nutbar. Send her one more message along the lines of "I don't want you in my life and never will. If you try to contact me again you will NOT get a reply so don't even bother". Then go back to ignoring her. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 4:44:38 AM | azsoler,
there's not much here to figure out.
she's holding on to you even if it's just a little bit because right now she doesn't have a replacement.
you'll find that one day when she has a new love interest, you'll simply not hear from her again.
ignore her by not answering her cell calls to you, just delete her text messages and don't text back. if you have a land line and she leaves you a message just erase it.
just cut contact every way she can possibly initiate it with you.
she's a pathetic loser.....
best wishes, Marial | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 5:17:44 AM | YOU moved on and like many woman she likes to think she still has a little bit of control over you...had the same thing only with a woman I was married to...I walked away which was the hardest thing Ive ever done but had to happen....except for the legal.....and the financial crap...never looked back....thru our marriage her first ex came over for holiday dinners...I put up with it because of his kids....shes remarried and it still happens with her first hubby....the only thing missing is her second hubby...ME....lol....free!....IM FREEE!....good luck guy! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 5:24:43 AM |
One word.......women. Enough said.
Get a grip, men do the same thing. Whether it's a not moved on thing....I dunno, but whether I ended it or they ended it there's a periodic recycling opportunity. I think it's just one of those things that results from too much opportunity.... It's so EASY to make contact so people do when they are feeling lonely...or nostalgic...or drunk...or horny....whatever.
Don't let it go to your head. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 5:27:01 AM | People need to realize that this is in no way just on the woman. It takes two!
Others drama and chaos can only effect me if I'm involved. One makes that choice.
So my take on this is very simple.
It's your own fault. You made a bad decision. Not only made a bad decision, but actually enjoy the chaos. So much that you are even willing to further it by posting and questioning it, for even more conversation about it! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 5:39:18 AM | | My comment was intended to be a funny. I joke...that's what I do. Of course it happens with both women and men. I can only speak on the side of the men because this has happened to me. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 5:41:19 AM |
It's your own fault. You made a bad decision. Not only made a bad decision, but actually enjoy the chaos. So much that you are even willing to further it by posting and questioning it, for even more conversation about it!
Very good observation! I agree!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 6:55:46 AM | I don't want to come off ****y here but HOLY...My daughter broke up with her ex and stopped and ceased all communication with him (there were control issues on his part).She basically cut him out of her life as she knew they could not be friends again til he did some growing up.
Two years later she did email him to express how sorry she was for his loss(his aunt passed away from cancer and my daughter was close to his family).He replied back and thanked her and started telling her a sob story about a girl he liked and he didn't like her back and how he thought he will never find anyone again like my daughter.My daughter being a very mature 20 year old laid it all out to him.She said its been two years and he needs to move on.She found someone and is happy and he will find it also.After emailing him back she blocked anymore emails coming from him because she knew he never grew up and was still guilt tripping her.
And thats what you need to do block all communication with this woman and move the hell on.She still sounds like she needs to grow up and stop being controling. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 7:25:06 AM | Azsoler,
In my view, there are a few possibilities:
1. She regrets breaking up with you and is kicking around the idea of getting back together... but only on her terms
2. She's messing with you because she's sadistic
3. She feels guilty and she's trying to mitigate her guilt by being 'friends'
4. She might have had another guy on the side (which is why she "wasn't ready and needed space")... but it didn't work out with him and now she's going to 'Plan B'... which is you.
Regardless of which possibility it is, she's not long-term dating material for you.
Cut her off... and tell her why you're cutting her off... or just direct her to this thread. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 7:25:51 AM |
I interpret it as a troll post......Nuff Said!!!!!!!!
 Classic! ,,,, ,,,,,, | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 8:38:09 AM | WTF?
Didn't I answer this question yesterday?
Cotton Candy flashbacks are a ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dude if an ex calls why do you answer?
If a tree falls in the forest and nobody hears it does it still fall?
Does a bear shit in the woods or in the hand?
A bird in the bushes...
Questions only you can answer.
But learn how to NOT answer your phone.
Ta Da! Problemo solvedeed-o | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 8:46:09 AM | | You are in charge of you. If it bothers you, dont answer the call/text. Ignore, block/delete. Use your power to control your life. | |
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