| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:28:09 AM | What would you say to a woman with a guy that no matter what his girlfriend says, he thinks she is saying mean things about his Mom..I keep telling my friend the guy is emotionally stunted and let him go ..But she keeps trying to convince this clown that she isn't being mean to his Mom..
It's like a reversal ..Usually it is mom trying to convince the son she is treating the girlfriend nice.
But she likes him..And I say he is hopeless..And that normal men respect and love their moms but they sure don't choose mom over her every time.
He reads things into what she says too..He seems to think she is hating on his Mom all the time and is defensive and mean about it.
Oh yea he is in his mid 50's. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:44:20 AM | Well this one is for the " weird book " on life. Mom's not the problem here,but the son's over protective atitude. There are emotional issuses involved, as well as inmature reasonings. I would tell the lady to find a mature person to be "her boyfriend " ! And stay away from this person,she may be into trouble later on because of his unbalanced protective attitude. It's very appearent that he needs professional help!
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:45:47 AM | | Eek, she should leave the dude alone. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 2:58:35 AM | Maybe this guy's a big fat mummy's boy and needs to be told to take a good hard look at himself.
Or she could be the one to initiate the professional help a person his age must be in severe need of if he is still letting his obession with pleasing his mother dominate his personal life and his relationships.
Or. He could just be evil and is playing manipulative mind games with her, sounds like it's working if he is!
Or maybe the spacemen are coming back soon to take him to live on their utopian world that is nestled in the tail of a passing comet, in which case, it'll all be over soon - provided he's saved up enough bread bag ties that is... | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:04:22 AM | | Wow, sounds like he is being a bit juvenile, however without hearing what he said, it is hard to say | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:28:15 AM | Invite them to sit down together and watch "Psycho."
That will either cure everything or bring it to a head! | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:37:08 AM | That is tough. I am a *TOTAL* "Mama's boy". In fact, someone saying something derrogatory about my mother is one of my WORST "hot buttons". Sounds like this man is so paranoid someone will say something offensive about his mother, it's roid rage without the roids!
This might be viewed as a character flaw of mine, but yes, I do take my mother's word over all else. Mom is the ONE woman guaranteed to NEVER fail me or abandon me. I could be a total gutter-snipe and MOM will always love me. That is loyalty you just can't put a price on. Just remember, in a MAN's heart, there **IS** another word for God, that word is MOM.
I hope this helps, at least a little. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:39:28 AM |
Invite them to sit down together and watch "Psycho."
That will either cure everything or bring it to a head!
I don't care who you are, that's some funny stuff, right there! | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:21:43 PM | | He sounds like a nut. This relationship your friend has sounds like it is self-limiting and he will at some point leave since he is so sensitive about his mom. If I was her I would be complimenting and praising his mom to the sky so he thinks I think his mom is the second coming of the Virgin Mary. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:30:14 PM | it's over.
the boy hasn't stopped breast feeding yet. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:31:44 PM | The story is all good... but we don't know exactly what she is saying about the mother.
If this is all a bone of contention for her there is a possibility that she has a long hair across her ass concerning the mother and it comes out sideways. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:08:22 PM | | Mind your own business. Seriously. You have no right to try and break up someone else's relationship because someone in it doesn't fit your standards. This isn't the OC, this is real life. Get your own (life). | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:33:01 PM |
I do take my mother's word over all else. Mom is the ONE woman guaranteed to NEVER fail me or abandon me. I could be a total gutter-snipe and MOM will always love me. That is loyalty you just can't put a price on. Just remember, in a MAN's heart, there **IS** another word for God, that word is MOM.
Good point, and very true. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:35:27 PM | No woman should stay with a guy like that. It is unhelthy. This guy, even if he cares about your friend, has already doomed the relationship. You need trust in a relationship or it will not work. If he is always defensive towards her than he does not trust her. However, you need to let her figure that out for herself. You have warned her and she is not listening.
You are obviously a good friend to her and you want to help her before she gets seriously damaged. You can't help her right now though. If you continue trying, you will only be giving her more stress. She obviously loves the guy so she wants to believe it will work that's why she is ignoring your warnings and advice. Don't try to fix her problem. Just talk to her and tell her things will be okay. When she is feeling stressed get her to go to the club for a girls night out or get her to see a movie with you. When he relationship fails don't say I told you so. Just let her cry on your shoulder.
I have been in a similar situation with a close friend of mine. Trust me when I say this is very good advice and that you should take it. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:37:08 PM |  and all I have is 4 daughters......
The guy is 50 for God Sake.. His mother is probably ready to kick the bucket. Leave her alone. WTF.
Tell your b*tchen friend to stop picking on old ladies. What a skank. If she can't say something supportive and kind about his mother she should keep her fat mouth shut. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:41:14 PM | | Sounds a little like the women that constantly think you are critising them personally when you make an observation about society or even another woman. | |
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| What would you say?
Posted: 5/11/2009 8:50:35 PM | -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
If I had been repeatedly telling my friend that I thought their significant other was a hopeless, abnormal and emotionally stunted clown...I'm thinking I have probably already said too much about something that is really none of my business. | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 8:54:47 PM | IMHO, the guy needs psych help and the woman doesn't need him.
I would not want to have to deal with someone like this.
She can be his friend and try and help him get some kind of help, but that is up to her. Dating is a process of sorting through what you want vs not want. If she wants hassles like this the rest of her life........
Defensive and mean kinda clinches it for me.
Rob | |
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| Mama's boy
Posted: 5/11/2009 9:52:10 PM | | You can say "Well the mom won't live forever..." | |
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