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Posted: 5/11/2009 8:40:08 AM | I been with this guy for 2 months things were going great at frist then after a while things got alittle crazy and out of hand. He wont even talk to me or anything I have not seen him in 3 weeks and 2 days I think there is something up and i am pretty sure I know whats going on he is cheating on me but i cant prove it | |
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Posted: 5/11/2009 9:04:13 AM | | please help I need help with this I donno what to do my heart hurts and the last 3 weeks and 2 days i have not seen him i been crying my eyes out thats all i done it feels like someone ripped my heart out and he doesnt care can someone please reply | |
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Posted: 5/11/2009 9:20:24 AM | Hate to say this, but 3 weeks and 2 days, are you sure you are still in relationship with him? I would think not. So, he wouldn't really be cheating. He just took a whimpy way out to break it off with you. And I know not much help for you there.
All I can say is move on. Listen to some sad music, cry, eat some good ice cream, and then get back out there.
Your young and he just wasn't the one.
Wish you the best! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2009 11:24:19 AM | It would appear that you had been used , and left at the curb for trash day. You need to have a good vent/cry. Then pick yourself up,head out with your friends to go and find another . Stop dreaming of yesterday,move foward today. He isn't worth it.And the lies will end.
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Posted: 5/11/2009 2:00:40 PM | | I am sorry I do not have a picture I do not have internet I am using the appartments internet but anyway yes we were together and everything was fine until now and we never broke up with each other and now he turned off his phone help I need advise on how to move on when we were suppose to get married and get got me a ring and everything and i was in love with help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cry myself to sleep over him I know its stupid but i donno what else to do..... | |
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Posted: 5/11/2009 8:01:19 PM | | Ask yourself this, "am I willing to be treated like this." Even if he comes back do you want him. He left no calls not writing no reason ? It doesn't sound like you or your feelings are a priority to him. You should be a priority to you . I know from experience its hard to not think about an ex but it becomes easier when you focus on yourself . I personally would look at this as a quality in a person that is cancerous to a relationship. So even if he comes back with an apology though it my feel good to have him back and end the torment ,but in the end what are you really getting back? and for how long? | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 12:09:53 PM | | thanks for the responds I need them I really dont know if he comming back i highly doubt it and I paid for everything at frist like dinners and movies and going to the zoo cause he said he didnt have any money. Its hard to move on especially when you thought he was the right one and you loved him and everything was flowing right. I was in Love with him and got my heart broken please respond to this anyone. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 1:55:48 PM | I been with this guy for 2 months things were going great at frist then after a while things got alittle crazy and out of hand. He wont even talk to me or anything I have not seen him in 3 weeks and 2 days I think there is something up and i am pretty sure I know whats going on he is cheating on me but i cant prove
we were suppose to get married and get got me a ring and everything
It sounds like he got caught up in 'being in a relationship.' You were engaged within two months? I am sure you feel you love him, but if he has turned his phone off and you have not seen him in weeks, it is his way of ending the relationship. When someone cheats they still have contact with the partner, he isn't cheating, you have been left.
Sorry, honey. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 3:46:03 PM | | well maybe I been left behind but there was one day he did this to me and I looked for him and he was living in an hotel and there was this girl that I did not even know I asked her because she knew dustin she had his number at one time she said they talked on the phone a bit then he asked her to go up to the mountians and video record him an her and frist I did not believe her then she said she wasnt lieing. I told him before he stopped talking to me and shut off his phone i told him what she said and he said she is lieing to you now who do I believe in this case him or her? please respond | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 4:07:02 PM | | wow look im sorry but you sound obsessed by this guy....when you mentioned "3 weeks and 2 days" i thought to myself why not just say 3 weeks? it seems like your counting everyday since you last met him and wouldnt surprise me if your calling him everyday?? are you?? you need to calm down a bit....its like your not thinking right, your 28 but sound like your 16 you do sound very immature sorry but im saying this as maybe you need grow up a bit and realize hes not the right guy for you! if anyone makes you feel like sh*t and worry...why bother being with that person? your find someone better! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 4:12:57 PM | What is the real issue here? The fact that he may or may not have been filmed, lying about it, or the fact you found him in a hotel with someone you don't know who tells you they had been corresponding?
Please do not overlook the fact you had to 'find' him.
I understand your need for closure, but sometimes actions say everything words cannot/do not convey.
You do not need strangers on a website to tell you this is not a healthy situation for you. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:02:03 PM | first, you are not going to get closure on this one. i know the feeling well. but, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, no matter how many times you talk or whatever, you wont get an answer, or if you do, you wont get the truth.
because of that, the only thing to do is just move on. while i can see you are having trouble getting over it, you really need to forget about it and move forward. 2 months isn't really that long. i know feelings can be really intense sometimes. but, get together with some friends or family, don't talk too much about it, try to push it out of your mind and do things. just keep busy. you'll cry a lot. you'll do weird things. but, you need to work on just moving forward. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:55:40 PM | I'm wondering what 'alil crazy and out of hand' is. Appears to be that something at that point transpired. At any rate he is keeping his distance. I know your heart hurts but really try to not focus on him or this situation. Dont make someone a priority when they only make you an option,,,,  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:57:49 PM | | He's made no attempt to contact you? Sorry, He's done with you. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:58:29 PM |
...Its hard to move on especially when you thought he was the right one and you loved him and everything was flowing right. I was in Love with him and got my heart broken please respond to this anyone...
Yes it really looks like you are heart broken.
So heart broken you have a profile on POF looking for other guys.
I would say you should call the Springer show and at least get some money out of your messed up life. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 1:04:00 AM | | i feel your pain verysweet26 i fell back inlove with my highschool sweet heart thought she was the one for me wrote her poems and love letters and candlelight dinners everything she wanted didnt get befor she realy had messed up life and was trying to slowly bring her back to fun life and not so painfull life but i guess she was use to it and left me again my storie is on women . read my blog im thinking of given up on dating period and just having friends LOVE HURTS just to much | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 5:46:05 AM | Dear broken heart again,
Im sure you're a wonderful person,there's far too many men to cry over this one,forget
him and move on! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 9:12:57 AM | First of all I am VERY sorry for the loss of your love and dream!
First thing I ask you is: What do you want? do you want to forget him and move on? do YOU want to have him back? or you just want to forget the pain?
The following suggestions are for you if you want to ease your pain and become a better you.
1) Know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE - almost everybody has gone through separation, rejection, disappointment, loss of loved ones and it is part of living. Eating 1 slipping pill just one night or two sometimes will help to rest the mind.
2) know that it FEELS VERY VERY bad in the first two weeks - but it will get better with time unless you choose to keep the pain. Some people like to suffer.
3) buy a journal and begin to write about anything that passes in your mind; your fear, your feeling, your questions, how you loved him,what happens at the moment you write, what you hoped, what you hated about this situation, how do you feel about your relationsihp, him...it will CLEAR your mind and help you see the truth. Write in the morning, in the middle of the night, anytime, keep it with you so you can write anywehre.
4) If possible, stay outside your home as much as you can, possibly with friends or loved ones, or just stay in the car, or go to places where there are many people around like malls, bookstore, you will be MORE DISTRACTED and the pain is less and your mind will not focus on him only. You might get hugs and live encouragement!
5) Do you ever have anything you really like to do instead of loving him and taking care of your relationship? TRY to enjoy doing it again and have fun! Sometimes, it can give you extra endorphine that fight with your stress hormones to balance your state of mind
6) Do you have faith in God? do you know that though you walk through the valley of darkness God will go with you (Psalm 23). Do you know who God is? the most mighty and powerful being that walk with you in your heart. You will not fear anymore.
7) Be a chooser not a loser. Remember what your requirements are and your wants and needs in life. Did he meet them in your relationship? Or what do you think might have triggered his loss of interest. Remember, love does not change in a second...SOMETHING HAPPENNED and you have RESPONSIBILITy in it somehow even very little. Remember...YOU CHOSE FIRST THING TO GO WITH THIS PERSON....FIND OUT!!! Stand as a responsible person not as a VICTIM. Try to be a better you!
You can do it! Peace be with you! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 10:27:29 AM | What do you mean things got a little crazy out of hand?
Is there a story here at all?? | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 11:48:43 AM | | It may seem like I am immature and 16 but I am not I am 28 its just hard to go foward and move on when someone you did love broke your heart but thanks for the replys I know i shouldnt be on here asking for help but i am because I dont have that many friends. Its hard not to think about him but I will try to move on and get my mind off things. And I do want to move on and find someone better I know there is someone else out there and better for me. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 11:55:20 AM | | OP, these are normal things you are experiencing. I would learn to be more independent. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 6:00:47 PM | I'm just barely, barely beginning to climb out of a similiar situation myself. I'll never know exactly why he decided to leave me, but we also can't control what decisions other people make. Every time I even think I see his vehicle I want to cry because I wonder if some other woman is getting the best of what used to be in my world.
Its so hard to dig through what went wrong but some day you'll reach that point where you realize he is missing out. By the sounds of it though, this man did not respect your feelings and you found him in a hotel room with another woman! I hope you are able to pick yourself up, every day hurts, but every day slowly gets better. I could wish I had the man who was with me back so much, but he'll remember who was so good to him when he's good and old and wishes I was still there! hahaha, some day you'll find someone, just remember that not all men make the same mistakes. I wish you well and hope you do find what you are looking for. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 7:30:21 PM | | had a similar experience with a woman I met on here. THen communications quit. It hurts worse when you dont know why it stopped. Learned the hard way its not just guys on the web sites that earn the title "player" | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 10:27:01 AM | Oh god, how can any of us know anything based on what you shared? Were you being obsessed with him? Were you stalking? Were you being fantastic about your claims about your relationship with him after only 2 months or were you just having lots of sex with him, misconstruing it as more than what it was?
There are so many unanswered questions here...and "things got crazy" hardly describes what actually happened.
My recommendation: move on...you're young and able...have fun, enjoy life, get out and get active with friends/family and those you KNOW care about you.
There'll be another guy around the corner. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 11:31:15 AM | | All I know is I loved this guy I meet and I meet him on a phone dating line. we were together for 2 months things were going fine then he didnt see me after a weeek then two weeks then three weeks he is leaving me behind and cheating on me and it hurts he is playing games with my head and refusing to see me. he will text me once in a while then stop for a couple days. and no i was not stalking him at all i do not even know where he is staying at and he knows where I live and has my key. my friend even noticed he was being all clingy at frist because we went to her house and to the mall together she even noticed something was wrong before he got distant with me. and i know there is someone better out there for me. | |
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