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Posted: 5/12/2009 1:40:47 AM | i finally thought i found the right one i want to forgive but dont kknow if i can anymore . i worked so hard to make heer happy i gave her all my love and romance i even wrote poems to her had candle light dinners and movies walk on the beach that she didt get befor then she said bye omg i given up on women and just not date period ill make my ow money and support my self live my life love hurts to much . its not worth the pain to go threw anymore . anybody can change my mind on datiing again be my guess and help me get over her  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 2:39:57 AM | | Okay listen you sound like a really nice guy. Some women are stupid and dont know what they have until they dont have it anymore. But whatever she did to you is not worth giving up having that one special person. That person that knows you better than you know you. That person that is soo beautifully perfect for you that you cant bother to see no one else. You have to have faith because I truely believe that that one person is out there for everyone. You will see. One day when you arent worried about looking for someone, this amazing woman is going to come into your life and you are going forget about all the things that the wrong women have done to you. Love hurts when its with the wrong person but when its with the right one...its the greatest breath of air, its the most musically sounding heartbeat, its feeling that runs thru every cell in your body. Having faith is what life and love is all about. Without it you will have nothing and you will never be happy. You know that being single for the rest of your life will not make you happy. Trying to avoid love will only make you that person you dont want to be. Love will find you I promise. Dont give up on love. Just think of all these wrong gurls as just practice for the "RIGHT ONE". If you ever need to talk let me know I am here! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 4:54:36 AM | | Sounds like the piece of trash I recently met. Don't feel bad. Seriously. Some people take advantage of others. And it is painful. The way I look at it now, and it has taken me a few weeks to move forward and now I feel relieved now that I did not get stuck with someone than more issues than National Geographic. It is not easy loving someone especially when it is one sided. Especially when you have been fed a bunch of lies and inconsistancies. Look at it this way; it has relieved you of being hurt even more. There are other people out there, believe me. On line off line, you will find them. Or they will find you. After the bullshit that just happend to me, has actually brought a possible real man into my situation....not some wimp who chose to walk away. And thats all he could do because he cannot even drive (legally). :) Hang in there OP. God works in mysterious but good ways. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:07:39 AM | I think most of us have been burnt at one point, i know i was. I took her out, paid for dinner and activities, drove her around (she had no car) i was basically her entertainment. Someone to hang out with and chat to, i was simply used then tossed aside. I got the news over MSN of all things when i wasn't even at home. Her reply was "of all people i thought you would be happy for me" (happy for her finding someone else), WTF.
In a way glad she is now out of my life, theer are far better women out there OP, i found one that i thought was perfect, but not to be, at least i wasn't used this time though. You learn quickly not to make the same mistakes the second time round.
Good luck in searching, don't give up! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 7:17:10 AM | | Sorry to hear that. It can be tough when something like this happens. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 7:23:54 AM | It's always hard when you'be been dropped or taken advantage of......I don't care who you are. The one thing that seems to help me was to realize there's nothing more important that just being myself. Either someone will accept it and stay around or they won't........It doesn't help someone who is hurt, just don't stop being who you are.
Smiles,
Abby | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 9:55:31 AM | | i want to thank you for beiing there for someone you dont even know sounds like you have a good heart . my friends and family are tryiing to help me and ven find me a girlfriend but i told them that i dont want to get hurt anymore , my best friend took me out the night she broke it off and that didnt even help i totally given up and dont even care anymore my life is different since shes been in my life and im so cunfussed about life right now. thank you your so kind and thoughtfull | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 2:08:44 PM |
i worked so hard to make heer happy i gave her all my love and romance i even wrote poems to her had candle light dinners and movies walk on the beach that she didt get befor
No matter what we do for others they are under no obligation to love us. If you wrote her poems, prepared candle light dinners etc under the pretenses she would love and stay with you forever then you were being manipulative. We date to see how compatible we are. We should never fault others for recognizing we are not what they are looking for.
OP, we have all been hurt, but it is up to us to heal and move forward. There is always a risk when loving - some are willing to take it, and some are not. Our choice - our prerogative. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 8:46:03 PM | WELL THE LATEST NEWS IS SHES GONE BUT BUT JUST FOUND SOMEONE ELSE SHE MAKES ME LAUGH SHE NEW I WAS HURT WAS TRYING TO HELP BUT FELL FOR ME THIS TIME IM NOT FALLING INLOVE UNTILL IM SURE THANKS EVERYONE LOVE YOU ALL HOPE THE BEST FOR EVERYONE | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 11:01:22 PM | Pokerplayerbc - I really feel for you that someone was so disrespectful to treat you that way. Let me give you a women's side of the opposite situation. I have been dating a great guy for 3 years and I am still just a girlfriend. I have been consistent with my feelings, actions, etc. He doesn't have to wonder/worry about whether I love him, find him attractive, am faithful, etc. I compliment him whenever it's appropriate, try to make his life easier when I can, etc. He travels 3 - 4 days almost weekly for business. He takes me with him frequently - says he would more often if I could be away from work. When he is in town, he wants us together almost 100% of the time. He speaks of our relationship in future terms - mentioning going places months, etc. from now. He treats me well, takes me to business functions (conventions, dinners, etc.), we go to expensive and no-frills places, have fun & laugh, but can be quiet together and it's okay. He goes out of his way to help me with things that come up, etc. I love him, respect him and don't want to be without him. He says he loves me. I miss him whether we are apart a night ( I work nights) or a week. I still have my own interests and he is fine with that. We compromise on almost everything effortlessly - sometimes we do what he wants and sometimes what I want without even a minor squabble.
Seems perfect, huh? Would it surprise you to know that I am ready to split up with him??? I want to be more than just a girlfriend - I love him and want to make a life with him. I see us as great partners. He apparently does not see/want these things and makes every excuse as to why he doesn't want things to change between us. I am tired of coming home to an empty house, he says he doesn't want to give up his 'space' and his 'stuff' at his own house. (In his defense his marriage was all about her and what she wanted and what he wanted was shoved to the back burner or not allowed.) He'll share anything and everything with me except 'closet space'. I have looked at this upside down and sideways for months and can only deduct that 'he just isn't that into me'.
Will it hurt me to break up with him? I am already devastated just thinking about it. I have thought about it for months and struggled/agonized with the decision. I don't think I will ever be 'ready' to do it. But, I know that I won't ever have the chance to be with someone that wants me like I want him, if I stay in this relationship. I am 49 and want a partner in my life that loves me and is as ecstatic to be with me as I am with him. I don't see Jeff as wanting to be that person. Will it hurt him? Sadly, I used to, but now I feel like it will just 'inconvenience' him slightly until he finds someone else. Maybe not - but how would I know???? He never says he would be upset if we ever split up - he only says he wants to move slower with this than I do - as if 3 years+ isn't moving slow????
So the answer to your question is a resounding YES it does hurt us, too, especially if we really don't want to do it, but for our own good it seems like we have to. I think you know what I mean, even if I am not wording it well. I don't want to leave him - I love him - and whenever I think about the day that I do I feel a hollowness and emptiness that makes it hard to breathe. I just don't see any other option unless I want to continue to share my life with just my cats....... Have a blessed day and I hope this helps you see things from another perspective even though you'll still have to work through your loss - sending good thought your way - Karen | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 11:56:00 PM | | You cant go into every relationship thinking this is the one for me, just take it as it comes and accept the fact that you may have to keep looking. You need to take time to really get to know the other person and that could take years, but you may also find out that you cant handle them in the first week or month. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 12:10:32 AM | You have to find some one that likes what you do so its not an EFFORT for you to be nice. In any realtionship pleasing others is good but when you please them and forget you it's no longer good. Seems you are not happy that she was not appreicative with your efforts. Oh well move on. And next time think before pleasing others, interests are best when they are common. And add your own spice to it. Dateing should be fun, not a chore.   | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 1:44:48 AM | | i know women these days dont go for nice guys they go for the bad looking dude with a attude thats the saying is nice guys finnished last . im taking a course to get my life going and its hard to find that speacial friend that you need to make your day when u come home from work . ive got lots of friends and they told me to go on pof to find someone but same thing girls like diferent things in a man BAD GUYS always win a girls heart, my heart was broken once and dont want it to happen again i lost a very speacial person in my life 2 years Ago and still havent got over his death then this happend to me i tell you all you guys with bad in them have better shot having love then us nice guys | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 4:52:32 PM | | went out with friends last night and saw my ex g/f with my ex best friend now im realy pissed off we went outside and went at it the whole bar was out there watching it im realy hurt now how can you get over that best friend going with your exg/f im serious of thinking about writting a book about dateing its painfull when your bestfriend atleast you thought he was your bestfriend . he told me he would never let a women get between us im done with dating for a while my heart is just to broken right now he was like a brother to me . im tired of getting hurt from people i thought i cared for, from now just having friends that i can trust and stick with work and my course good luck everyone on finding that speacial friend and speacial g/f or b/f im off the market for awhile just looking to meet new friends to add to my list later all | |
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Posted: 5/15/2009 3:40:05 AM | | just to let everyone know that is the ladies went how had to much fun and lost a bet with friends and had to something in whiterock bc at sawbucks in front of it in the middle of the day so any can see so now im on utube some where if you can find be my guest lol i strecked in front of sawbucks pub llol i think i had to much fun lol | |
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Posted: 5/15/2009 8:57:16 AM | | To quote one of our fellow fishies, "Do you want some cheese and cracker with your whine?" | |
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Posted: 5/15/2009 9:47:05 AM |
WELL THE LATEST NEWS IS SHES GONE BUT BUT JUST FOUND SOMEONE ELSE SHE MAKES ME LAUGH SHE NEW I WAS HURT WAS TRYING TO HELP BUT FELL FOR ME THIS TIME IM NOT FALLING INLOVE UNTILL IM SURE THANKS EVERYONE LOVE YOU ALL HOPE THE BEST FOR EVERYONE
Well its good to see that apparently you are able to move on a whole 3 days after this woman, who you supposedly loved, broke your heart | |
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Posted: 5/15/2009 9:53:16 AM | | Good for you, poker. Laughter heals the aching heart. Laugh on and love her...if and when you feel like it. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2009 10:22:32 AM | | Why the hostility about being "used"? You buy dinner, entertain her, drive her around. Is that being "used" or is it dating? Did you NOT enjoy any of that time you spent together? Be a man while you are dating and be a man when it's over. When you can let go of the pain and anger you will then be able to appreciate the good times you had and move on and be healthier for it. Leave the anger behind it only destroys who you are. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 4:56:17 PM | | this for everybody looking for friendship not love )As the internet grows and becomes a part of our lives it brings with it aunique opportunity to meet peple we likely would never have met in any other way .A nd very often those people we meet online will become friends sometimes very close friends | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 6:42:06 PM | for when a man doesn't appreciate us,it is best to move on. You will feel that empty whole in your stomach, that makes you want to puke. He is not feeling this. He feels fine.
You are feeling ill. Actually~~~~~~~~~~~SICK!!!!!!!! Oh lady, there will be a man to love you and make the compromises that it takes to make a elationship last a lifetime.
It is not about 100%
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It is about compromise and communication.
Love, respect, understanding and forgiveness.
Then both you and I will find a real man! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 7:33:48 PM | | A friend is a treasure a friend is someone we turn to when our spirits need a lift A friend is someone we treasure. for our friendship is a gift A friend is someone our lives, with beauty , joy and grace AND make the world we live in ,a better and happier place | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 7:58:48 PM | | Friendship come and Friendship go like a wave upon the sand like day and night like birds in flight like snow flakes when they land But you and i are something else Our friendship:s here to stay like weeds and rocksand dirty socks it never goes away A friend is a person to laugh and cry with A n inspiration Some one who lends a helping hand , thought friends may not be for ever ,A nd they may not end up together ,the memories of a true friend ship will last forever A friend is not a shadow nor a servant But someone who hold a piece of a person in his heart . someone who shares a smile , S omeone who brightens up your day what makes a person a friend? is by saying your love will stay | |
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