| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:29:41 PM | Well, I am not saying I want a man, since I am STRAIGHT. I want a woman who has the things I have- my status, education, quality of life, similiar type of profession, physical condition, etc. Why is it so HARD to find that woman?
This might sound NOT nice, but let's get realistic. I (or ALL of us) work hard to achieve what we have. I also noticed that lots of people here want a LOT from their dates/boy-girl friends/future spouses. You might all deny but deep down, you do NOT want to settle down for anything.
So, I don't think it is wrong for me to ask my girl to have the similar values and even qualities I have.
Here is what I have:
I am single, never been married.
I have NO kids.
I have a master's degree.
I have a profession.
I am at least average or slightly above average looking.
I am in good shape.
These are only SIX qualities.
I am very frustrated to have found out that it is extremely hard to find someone with those SIX.
At this point, I am sure I made ALL SINGLE DADS and MOMS FURIOUS. Don't be offended. Don't take it personally. I did not say anything negative about YOU. I just want someone who is like me.
I tried hard to reach where I am now. I fought hard the temptations to lead a "decent" life, waiting for someone who has done the same or at least similar.
Now, I am about to give up. brndn | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:39:30 PM | Hmm.....We all have high expectations of what we want in that special someone. But, we also have to compromise...noone is perfect by anyone standards.
You basically, sound as if any woman that doesn't have all 6 of those 'qualities'... isn't worth your time. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:49:26 PM | No, it isn't too much to ask. I believe it is natural to want a partner with similar backgrounds and goals.
You are on a dating website, so it seems you are seeking a partner, yes?
Why not list those qualities as those you are seeking? As of now your profile doesn't list one.
I am looking for a woman who is open minded, sweet, and would like to find a thoughtful friend. I would love to find a special girl to share long-lasting friendship with.
I'm a "chill-&-thrill" fun-loving social butterfly who's adventurous and down to try new things; a food connoisseur & piano prodigy whose interests include music composition, karaoke, theater & arts, and stimulating conversation. I am equally comfortable and engaging at parties and social events. As a classical pianist, I compose wedding music and soundtracks to short films. I would love to play a romantic ballade on the piano to my partner.
I am looking for someone who is open-minded, down-to-earth, has a sense of humor, and always ready for a good laugh. She would also enjoy a night out at the symphony, ballet, or musical, and enjoy visiting museums or art galleries. If you're into exotic foods and new cuisines, I'm the best tour guide in town! | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:50:51 PM | You call yourself a butterfly on your profile.
Get rid of that.
If you're looking for a woman who wants a butterfly, then check out the women seeking women section of this site. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:52:24 PM | hehehe... A 32 year old woman who has never been married, has no children, and is above average in looks..... hehehehe.
Wait, wait... I'm trying to stop laughing, OMG OMG OMG...wait, never mind, it's pointless. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:54:22 PM | Goto South Korea and see if they can create a glowing clone of yourself...
I feel for people that want the same of themself in their significant other. How do you grow as a team, learn, have something to talk about, live...?
But the things you list are not qualities, they are a job application. Take women for who they are, what special characteristics she may have, her desires, her wants, her goals, and her beliefs. I am not saying you aren't, just defining the above to be equal to you online just doesn't happen one for one.
The things you mention are not hard to find in the real world or here. You want a woman with a job, highly educated, no children, never married, a 6-8 out of a 10, and in shape... Possibly maybe the highly intelligent women here just think you aren't up to their standards. The point I am trying to make is you cannot tunnel-vision what is perfection to you but open your door with dialect with a woman and learn who they are.
I looked at your profile and you have different interests than the average bear... Writing ballads, going to musicals, composing music. And then you finish it off with you are a great tour guide. Women aren;t here for a tour guide, they just like you are looking for that significant other. Unless of course you get the occasional email from Uganda asking to marry you immediately...
Good luck in your search and hopefully what I said helps. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:55:35 PM | Cabrandon,
Don't give up. Just because you haven't met her yet doesn't mean she doesn't exist. She could be any where in the world, and that's why finding love is so special. Sure, you can meet just about anyone and fall in love however, finding that one true person is about as common as finding one of Wonka's golden tickets.
If you are truly serious about finding someone who meets your criteria, you may want to think about investing in a real dating service, not that there is anything wrong with PoF but this is a free service and any Jack or Jill off the street can set up an account and be whomever they want to be. If you want to find someone who meets those qualities, join a service where they will only match you with those women. There are several professional matchmakers out there. People who pay are more apt to be serious and you are more likely to find a better match if you use a matchmaker. Good luck and don't give up hope! | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:02:58 PM | | It honestly doesn't sound like you are looking for love. You are looking for a female version of you. Love is not based on many of the guide lines you posted. You kindly make it sound like a job posting. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:04:28 PM |
If you are truly serious about finding someone who meets your criteria, you may want to think about investing in a real dating service, not that there is anything wrong with PoF but this is a free service and any Jack or Jill off the street can set up an account and be whomever they want to be.
Ridiculous !!!!!!!!! Any jack and Jill can get on paid sites too. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:05:50 PM |
I tried hard to reach where I am now. I fought hard the temptations to lead a "decent" life,
So now you wish you had taken the red pill don't ya Neo!!!!
I know a woman that would be perfect for you and she more then meets your requirements. The problem is, you don't meet hers...
Sorry! | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:05:51 PM | I understand your frustration. You'll find somebody!
If it helps...
I am single. Never been married.
I have no kids.
I will have...a lot of schooling by the time I'm done.
For now I'm a student, but I will be a doctor as of 2012.
I am average looking.
I am in good shape.
See? We exist!! I know a TON of other women out there who can say exactly what I just said about myself and they would be completely honest :) | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:41:04 PM | | It's like marketing. Where does your kind hang around at? Have the problem is solved there. Now are you attractive in there eyes? If not you have some more work to do. I suggest comedy improve class. This is a good start and alot of work. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:45:12 PM | I want someone like me too, only the six qualities I would list would be about who they are not about what they have or have achieved. Let us explore your six:
1) Single, never married. What if she was perfect in every other way but made this one mistake that young people frequently make.
2) Have no kids. What does have to do with who she is?
3) Masters degree. This is a requirement? Will a lesser degree do?
4) A profession. Well if she has the first three, let us hope she has a profession.
5) Looks. Looks can change in an istant. A wreck, a fire or a madman can permantly change looks. So if some happens or has happened she is out? Superficial.
6) In good shape. Again, this is something that can change in an instant. One injury.
I would have written these same six qualities like this:
1) Someone who has made good choices in their life or learned from the bad ones.
2) I don't know what to do about this one, kids are not liabilities.) How about: Someone who takes bringing a new person into the world very seriously and therefore monitors their behavior.
3) Someone who believes in education and personal growth.
4) A responsible person with goals and aspirations.
5) An attractive person, inside and out.
6) One who has self confidence and takes care of themselves. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:50:11 PM |
Here is what I have:
I am single, never been married.
I have NO kids.
I have a master's degree.
I have a profession.
I am at least average or slightly above average looking.
I am in good shape.
First let me say, big deal. I have all of those things, except a ph.d instead of a master's, I'm not so narrow minded as to believe that educated means having gone to school and I'm still searching. You are forgetting that the other person involved has a list of attributes she wants, too. You can be as picky as you're willing to wait. If you're looking for a female engineer with a master's degree, good luck. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:51:40 PM | i agree, finding an unmarried attractive and kidfree woman in her early thirties may not be easy...
however, since you say nothing about character traits you'd prefer, there may be a few single and child free women who've been locked up for the odd murder here or there since adulthood... and after all, what's an occasional axe mishap between friends?
seriously though, good luck
i'm sure there are some out there... and hopefully you'll be compatible with one another too   | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:51:44 PM | Boy aren't YOU just in a posting mood tonight...
I have found dating a male twin of myself causes problems. I know my strong points... but I also know my weak points... and datin someone who has all the same has proven to be a nightmare.
I have also found that dating someone who's strong points are my weak points and vice versa works out much better.... you even each other out. Kinda like a scale..... | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 8:59:25 PM | Be patient. Cloning is already possible, legalization it might happen and future advance in genetic engineering can get you a woman.
Meanwhile, put women's name to your hands. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 9:14:57 PM | | Cabrandon.....your problem is you live in Fresno. I've been up to Fresno a couple times for work, and I see the kind of women up there. I feel sorry for you, man | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/12/2009 9:24:36 PM | | I suspect that your attitude is filtering out all the intelligent women, inclusing all those who have achieved the level of qualification you are looking for. These are not sound criteria to evaluate another person upon and I for one would want nothing to do with a man who evaluated people in this way, whether or not he regarded me as passing his (subjective) criteria. | |
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