| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:53:52 PM | | I had one serious girlfriend in my life. Ever since my heart was ripped out I had been in a downward spin in the quality of the people I date. Seems like they just keep getting worse. Really sucks... | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 12:20:18 AM | Find better people................Look on here, church and local gym. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 12:20:40 AM | I know you feel Pain but, please you are so young. you have alot going for you and a life ahead of you to find the right girl. If you really are a born again Christian then trust in God and pray he will guide you to that special girl. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 12:20:50 AM | | Find better people................Look on here, church and local gym. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 12:52:21 AM | | i know what your going threw i met up with someone dated got realy close she said she loved me didnt want to leave me read my blog women dont give up man dont i miss my girlfriend bad still hurts thinking about her | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:18:31 AM | | My heart is tired too. My ultimate sex fantasy at this point is just to catch up on about a year's worth of sleep...and then wake up to the one I love. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 8:59:23 AM | I think men give up on love more easily than women, and then for the rest of their lives pretend they never wanted love in the first place. Maybe they're just not culturally taught how to deal with bitter disappointment.
The thing is, you cannot ignore the pain. You have to allow yourself to feel it, and then get through it, and eventually you get over it. If you've ever broken an arm or a leg or something, it's the same. The IDEA of the pain will always be there, but the HURT usually goes away. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:19:51 AM | Your 24 and your heart's tired?
I'm 46...my heart's f-ing exhausted!!
Seriously though, don't throw in the towel. You're much too young.
You'll be hurt again, and you'll hurt others.
It's just how it goes. Don't allow yourself to get too callused.
Whatever you do, don't take out your past on future girls you meet.
Being in love is the best, and even if you part ways in the end, you get some awesome memories to keep forever.
Keep on keepin' on! | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 2:52:12 PM | | I am sorry i have no picture not my computer I am using but I am sorry about your girlfriend. I had my heart broken before with my ex to be and I am still dealing with it and it sucks | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 4:02:59 PM | Hey man, Your not alone in this type of situation...
I know that alot of guys can just walk away from a relationship and not care a bit, I've seen many of my buddies do it time and time again...
Unfortunately, I'm in the same boat as you at the moment. I think the term "Tired" explains what my heart is feeling too. I have been talking with an older friend of mine (6o something) that has been divorced three times...he was explaining to me that you have to be strong and just force yourself to move on. Basically he put it like this "Son, play the hand your delt"...It seems odd that a simple statement like that can make a difference, but it has for me. I'm looking at my cards, and getting back in the game. Just because we found a couple of woman that didn't work out, doesn't mean that all woman have the same traits or tendancies.....
I joined this site about four day's ago, and I've already met some great woman who seem very genuine and interested in finding a good guy to build something real with....
I'm jumping back in and I think that you should give it a shot too....I know it's hard, I've been there too....Just dig deep and do what needs to be done for yourself, not for anyone else. that's the only way it's gonna be for real....
Good luck! | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 4:34:17 PM | My problem was doing the same thing to find a date over and over.
My vice was the bar. I found all sorts of girls in the bar But they never turned out to be my kind of person. I am changing my routine. I wont date a girl i meet in a bar anymore. If you think this my be a reason you are finding crappy dates, try this.
Find something comepletly new to do, make new friends in a good environment. A lot of people say church, that is a good place but its not the only place. Try volunteering, or play a sport. Think of something different to do with your time. If you dont have time make time. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 8:50:22 PM | My heart is tired as well. I just can't throw in the towel just yet though... gotta keep moving... but not a single person will give me a chance, here, at the gym, at work, at church, anywhere... No one wants to talk to a short rather geeky guy even though he is super sweet if you give him the chance. I'm tired of all of these women saying they want someone to accept them and when I try to accept them for who they are, they can't accept me. I've waited for a while, I've searched for a while, I've stopped completely thinking maybe it would just "fall into my lap" but nothing ever happened, in fact. all it ever did was just close me off even worse. Now it seems like all I'm good for is being friendzoned and being ignored. I also write good strong messages that would normally make a woman coo in excitement, if it were anyone else. but NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO not me of course. I've tried older, younger, my age, and yet no one will accept me for me... Why is it so hard to do that...? Why am I avoided like I'm the plague or something... am I really that ugly? That geeky? That UNATTRACTIVE???
What's the point of me trying anymore when absolutely nothing makes any sense... I'm generally an extremely confident person and even that didn't get me anywhere. I've finally hit my breaking point and all I can do is ask why nothing has gone right? | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:19:34 PM | I am 44 years old and I have been torn down from every possible way of trying to get a girlfriend.I have been laughed at, humiliated,used and a whole lot more.I do not no how much more I can take of this.All I ever wanted is for some woman to take me for who I am and not what they want me to be.Iam willing to change to a point .I have tried to go to clubs, bars,malls,
I have never had any kind of relationship of any kind because I was never given the chance to experience.I want my heart to breaking .I wish I could find someone very special who is not looking for high expectations I am a just a casual guy looking for someone to share his life with.
I wish there was somebody out there for me | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:27:01 PM | I'm not tired of love... just tired of this area I am in.
Sometimes you may need to move in order to get fresh action. Which is what I plan to do. It's gonna be painful, but I will do it for my social life's sake.
Good luck! | |
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| Do the Opposite
Posted: 5/13/2009 10:04:38 PM | If every instinct you have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjXUgxR4Z10 | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/14/2009 1:26:15 AM | | I see all these people posting and it seems like we all go through the same troubles and the same pain. Yet somehow we are still all alone in a wierd way. No matter how close we get to friends and family we still have something that makes us feel like we are alone at times. Life is tough and full of suffering. I really admire the people who still go on. I'm still young, but I already feel exhausted physically and spiritually. It gets difficult, but let's all stick it out for the long run. Just remember the situations you've been in and learn to help others in time of need. There are too many people always screwing each other over, which is just ridiculous because we all want the same things and feel the same pains. C'mon let's all just get along already! | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/14/2009 5:22:40 AM | Kubo, I know what I have to say may not make you feel better but you are not definitely not alone in your experiences. I hear it all the time from friends, guys in their thirties to fifties, professionals earning very good incomes, fun loving, attractive, caring men in good physical condition and the story is always the same; It is extremely tough to meet quality women for a serious relationship! Oh yes there are good women available but very difficult to find. My friends note that many of the women they encounter come across with significant personal problems while some appear to be seeking unrealistic and perfect partners that only exist in GQ Magazine!
In this difficult dating climate that many have to contend with it is important to maintain a good level of detached objectivity in dealing with the dating scene because being rejected is par for the course but should not deter one from not seeking a compatible partner. So keep plugging and good luck. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/14/2009 10:09:02 AM | Your heart wasn't "ripped" out and that is quite dramatic.
You have experienced the loss of what you perceived as love. You are experiencing longing.
It's when you no longer feel at all that you need to worry.
But still...your heart isn't ripped out...it's very much intact. Your mind though is quite dramatic about it.
Try to make peace with your thinking and your heart will settle down. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/14/2009 7:20:24 PM |
There are too many people always screwing each other over, which is just ridiculous because we all want the same things and feel the same pains. C'mon let's all just get along already!
Agreed!
Unfortunately though, most women at my age, 21, are shallow about who they meet. If you aren't perfect, they pass you off as not worth it already. I just wish they would accept what they can get and not be so shallow for once. I'm a great guy, I know I am; There's just something about my looks that scratches me off most people's lists as a possible companion, because I'm not a buff guy or a guido. I'm short, and a geek, which also loses points on most people's agendas period. Not to many people can respect the geek because they can't understand people like us. Either that or they refuse to understand because they're either scared or shallow minded, or a little bit of both. So this is a call out to anyone at my age, to prove me wrong. If you can do so, you'll have the greatest companion you can possibly have.
I have confidence in myself, now show a little confidence in yourself and in me. I'll be the best thing that can ever happen.
:modhammer:
Dan | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/14/2009 8:30:52 PM | I'm in a similar situation.
Nevertheless, giving up is for the dead. You'll just have to figure out why you are meeting low quality people. I don't know anything about you so I'm not going to guess.
I'll leave that up to you to figure out. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/14/2009 10:20:29 PM | AndthenIwas5gain hey i am 44 yrs old and i have some wisdom for you ...just because your short don't make you a geek and beauty is all in the eye of the beholder In addition I am 5'10" I am tall cup of water and most guys are not into real tall women most guys want 5'2" at 100 lbs wet lol well i would not call myself an amazon I'm just a brick house ...lol    | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/15/2009 2:32:55 AM | I doubt the quality of the people you date gets worse... you're just comparing them to your ex subconsciously.
You can't move on until you... well... until you move on. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/15/2009 5:25:08 AM | I go to the gym and well, I am not very good at talking to other girls. I mean they are to good for me you know. My heart broke after my very first girl friend. Honestley, You Gotta Do What You Gotta Do, I am looking for a new future Girl Friend the old one is married with a kid. So I guess I am not that broken hearted anymore. Actually there was this theory that she was pregnent when dating me and just wanted a husben. :/
I don't know really, It hurts alot I should no every time I meat someone and they just drop of the face of the earth or so it seems I get alittle more hurt. You know what kills me is all the taken ones say they would love to be with me if they were single. If that were true I really wonder sometimes If that's just not bullshit comeing out of her teeth!
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/15/2009 5:40:10 AM | Hey man, wife of 21 years - caught her in an affair with her boss AND one other guy she worked with. She walked out and had minimal contact with her teenage sons. AND I was 58 !. Life is really great at 18, or 28, or 38 - but especially at 61. I see lots of possible companions out there and here ..... and I've had lots of interesting conversations. Your sadness will pass and you'll discover that your heart was never ripped out - it just felt like it. Rock on man.
Paul | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:53:22 AM | We've all been through it at some point if we risk loving.
I recently read a great book on this topic called "Fearless Loving" by RhondaBritten.
Easy read. She recommends making a list of the top five qualities u want in a mate.
When u read profiles that's what u look for. If u don't know what u want, u get what u always got.
Choose from ur head verses ur gut and the rest will follow or not! I also liked the part about detachment until
There's an agreed upon commitment to the relationship. About the weary heart... Remember ur worth loving.
Fear is a powerful emotion... I am working on seeing everyone as innocent again too.
Best Wishes. Michelle :) | |
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