| | Said he would call, hasn'tPage 1 of 1 | We had a great connection on line, as much as you can, he said he would call on Monday, He didn't but I did get an explanation, and I am very sorry from him. He said he would call when he got back into town, on Thursday, its Friday now and still waiting...What does that mean  | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 5:41:16 PM |
He didn't but I did get an explanation,
Okay how did he explain via phone, email what???
He said he would call when he got back into town, on Thursday, its Friday now and still waiting...
This could mean anything chances are he isn't back in town yet... You are the only one that can decide if he is worth the wait or not.
I think somone that stands me up not once but twice would be history unless there was a damn good reason.
Good luck to you. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 5:49:37 PM | | Could mean a lot of things. Maybe you'll hear from him soon and he will have another explenation | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 5:58:22 PM |
I think somone that stands me up not once but twice would be history unless there was a damn good reason.
Yup......................did you call the hospitals?  | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:09:04 PM | | once... twice...(maybe) three times a stood up (ad libbing a Lionel Richie song). | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:32:05 PM | Wow! Two broken promises in less than one week! OP, with all the means of staying in contact with one another these days: cellphone, land line, pager, email, texting, twitter, **space, ****book, smoke signals, carrier pigeons... you get the picture; there is absolutely, positively NO excuse whatsoever NOT to contact someone if you're interested in them.
Nobody can say what it means for sure. Sounds like you're the girl on the back burner and he's waiting to see if his plan "A" works out first. BUT, since you didn't share with us what his excuse was for not calling in the first place, it's kind of difficult to say for sure.
Good luck,
Cityboy | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:39:34 PM | | Means you are the back up girl. You should be dating more than one guy anyway. Maybe then you won't notice if one of them breaks a promise. You'll probably break a few promises yourself. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:47:48 PM | I think you will be in for disappointment. If you were hurt that he didn't call on Monday like he said he would....and he has failed to follow through on his word again...it doesn't look good. If I were you...I would set up another date this weekend...I have been in your position before. Even though I was with my ex for a long time....I should of not ignored the warning signs in the beginning. It took him three weeks to call me back before our first date. I should of moved on right then...it was a predictor for future behavior. He had a tendency to not call when he said he would and it turns out he was unreliable in other areas. I didn't dump him because I was dumb enough to think things would change but they never did. I should of not put up with his disrespect in the beginning because all it did result was in heartache at the end of our relationship:(
This guy might call you in a few days with ANOTHER explaination...but don't put up with it. He will prove to be unreliable in other areas and will treat you will disrespect down the road. Just my opinion. Good luck. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:19:07 PM | The advice you're getting here is no better than that offered by astrologers. Roll some bones and "read the signs". Yeesh! Also, every piece of advice on here from the girls is dead wrong. What is with our fast-food society??? "If you don't get exactly what you want within 24 hours, give up." Yeah, that's fantastic advice! ...and possibly explains why so many people on here can't find what they're looking for--they've probably unwittingly tossed it away several times.
Patience! Two missed engagements don't in any way, shape, or form, establish a pattern of behavior or someone's level of interest; nor does it give you a good indication of the person's future desires or interests. If you're genuinely interested, then give it a chance to develop. If you don't hear from him by Monday, then take steps to contact him. Or, if you'd prefer not to wait that long, try to contact him tomorrow. If you leave a message, make it clear that he hasn't burned any bridges by failing to contact you in a timely fashion. You might want to do yourself a favor, though, and make your own plans for the weekend. If you stay at home, waiting by the phone, then you'll probably resent him for leaving you on the hook all weekend. If he calls after you've already made plans, then I recommend sticking to your plans rather than dropping everything for him. This will show him that you've got your own life and that if he wants your company, he'll have to take steps to ensure he gets it; i.e., he'll have to be better at keeping his plans. But again, make it clear that you're still interested in getting together. Try not to end the conversation unless you have either a firm date for getting together in the future, or at least a firm day and time to contact each other to make plans.
I hope that helps. Good luck! | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:23:38 PM | Oh, and I forgot... if you try to make contact with him this weekend, try only ONCE. It'll only take one message on the answering machine to say what needs to be said. There's a fine line between desperate and interested  | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:26:23 PM | I believe that someone else said something similar so I'll keep it short... None of us can possibly know this guy any better than you do (Unless you are lucky enough to run into a friend of his online! LOL!) so the question should be less "What does that mean" and more "What does that mean I should do."
The simple answer is that you should call him and ask for an explanation; or don't, but if you like him, call him and set up a new time to talk or meet up... Simple as that. If he starts avoiding YOUR calls, then it is probably safe to assume he is not interested. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:53:02 PM | | If a person likes another person, they make time for contact no matter what they're doing. Don't wait around on this dude, don't play his game. Cut it short and save yourself the anxiety. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:56:00 PM |
We had a great connection on line, as much as you can, he said he would call on Monday, He didn't but I did get an explanation, and I am very sorry from him. He said he would call when he got back into town, on Thursday, its Friday now and still waiting...What does that mean
It means he:
1.Lied
2. Got hit by a cement truck.
3. He's making other calls and he'll get to your number in line at his earliest possiable oppotunity.. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 8:13:51 PM | | It simply means, move on to someone whos not going to waste your time. Cut your losses while its small. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 8:21:58 PM | hes just not into you. Dont make excuses for him. Dont bother. I have learned over and over it seems that when someone wants something bad enough they will at least TRY And put EFFORT into it. If he clames he will call and doesnt what would he do when its something more ..... like meeting your parents.... and not showing..... picking you up and not calling to say hes not gonna show.... is a man like that really worth it?
What would you tell a good friend to do with one of those!???
Best of luck!
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 8:33:46 PM | I agree with Gimpy...
We do live in a fast-food, throw-away, me-me-me-centric society where patience is a virtue (that no one has anymore). There isn't a damn thing in this world worth having that comes easy... especially a meaningful relationship.
If you want to be self-centered, move on and don't look back as others have told you.
If you want to see if your instincts are correct about this guy then be patient and try again.
Either way, hold on loosely but take the time to trust your own instincts and recognize that any number of things could have happened to this guy to cause his absence. And remember, no matter how this ends up, there are no guarantees in love or life.
Hope this helps some. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 8:49:45 PM | Sorry to inform u this however it doesn't take a genius to figure this not.
He is not into you. It doesn't matter how busy any of us can get, if we find someone that we really attracted to.. we will make the time to call period. | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:07:45 PM | it is a dating site where there alot of poeple looking for similar things...maybe he was talking 2 several women online and had a better connection with another women? or he is just blind to the fact that getting 2 know someone online is completely different than knowing someone in person...I know several times where both feelings were reciprocated...online and in person...
Or??? ?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
many reasons or explanations could be on order but if he doesnt put forth the effort he wasnt worth it to begin with.... | |
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| Said he would call, hasn't
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:12:15 PM | "Give a guy 7 days to get back to you. If he doesn't , then move on.
But other than sending you his little girly note, "I'm very sorry", hes doing just fine.
If a guy doesn't contact you at least once a week, and hes near communication devices, then hes not into you. Don't get all upset only because he misses a day or anything less than 7, unless you're into having men be these clingy "mommy-mommy-what are you doing today"- sorts. Not to be confused with raw attraction. Because when we are very much attracted to you, yup, we're probably going to call a few times a day for awhile, until the drama dies down and we relax being around each other. Or we will let a few days pass so you don't mistake us for mommies boys. So just let him be, if you don't hear from him in 7 more days ...then forget it."
This is funny...7 days? where did that come from? the idiot guide to making women sweat to hear from you? come on..b a man and tell her if you want to pursue anything further...It isnt like the movie "Swingers"!!! u must show interst very soon if there is any...the good women will know and see what u r putting in to the start of a possible new relationship with a great woman!!! | |
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