| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/21/2009 2:49:14 PM | | Have u ever met someone and he was your complete opposite of what u go for ? I recently met a guy who is completely opposite of what im attracted to but yet i find myself attracted to him in so many ways. He's charming, witty, sensitive, has tattooes which i dont care for and a few piercings. Just wanted to know if anyone else found themelves attracted to their complete opposite and whether they went for it anyways. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/21/2009 4:22:51 PM | | I've always been attracted to A-Type personalities. I've gone on dates (just to give it a shot. Like you said, you never know, right?) with those who aren't usually my "type", but I felt no bit of attraction towards them. Even though they were super hot, they just didn't do it for me. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/21/2009 5:13:21 PM |
Have u ever met someone and he was your complete opposite of what u go for ?
Yes, yes indeed, most definitely.
But what I actually realized is, although I had never been with someone of his type and erroneously thought, "Neh, I would never be attracted to someone of THAT type" I absolutely was/am.
He was someone that would have left friends and family with a question mark type of expression on their faces.  | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/21/2009 5:48:54 PM | Well thanks ladies for your responses i didnt think i'd get any but its just that im so completely opposite of this guy that i just find it weird. He's got a reddish beard and im a redhead and never found myself attracted to other redheads. Only his beard is red and the top hair is dark brown as for the tattoos well he has some on his arm but it doesnt seem to bother me as much as i thought it would. Like i said he's a sweetheart and ive looked pass all that and saw someone who has potential.
Oh incase youre wondering he messaged me on another site im on and i almost didnt respond back but what he said was too cute to let go by. Im glad i did though cause he turned out to be a sweetie and he's 15 yrs younger than me. hehehe   | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/21/2009 10:41:17 PM | Yep....married him then divorced him 11 years later. I can see so much clearer now how truly opposite we are! | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:24:03 PM | I believe, and obviously this is just my opinion.
That what we truly need IS our OPPOSITE.
They complete us.
They are, what we are not.
The problem is most of us end up resenting our partner for not having the same qualities and forget that is what attracted us to them in the first place and if we truly had someone just like us they would drive us crazy.
I know I don't want someone just like me.
I am at a point in my life where I would now cherish those differences rather than look to them as a reason we are not compatible.
Now keep in mind that I believe that our values, ethics, politics and religous views must be in alignment or I think it would probably end disastrously.
Blessings,
James | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:30:53 PM | Well james I agree with you to a point. My ex husband apparently LOVED the fact the I was different from other women (the way I think etc.) but then in the end he kept asking why I couldn't just be like, you guessed it, other women! LOL
I would prefer, at this stage of my life, to find someone who gets me and has similar interests to me. I'm sure it's not that hard - is it?  | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:43:13 PM | Yes I have and did.
Didn't work though.
Not because we were opposites.
But because being so different it was hard to communicate.
We were always on different pages and neither of us could get a handle on the other
or even figure each other out.
But it can work if yall can understand each other and can converse well.
Good Luck. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:59:45 PM | | In terms of what I my physical type is, yes....it was then I realized that compatibility is often more important than hot and heavy physical attraction. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/29/2009 8:50:43 PM | | There are people who are attracted to opposites and there are people who only want people similiar to them. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:27:09 AM | | I had someone that i recently dated that i thought was my opposite. Not so much as in what i go for but as in similar/opposite personalities. He is a very driven, runs on all 8 cyl. type guy. I am a more laid back go with the flow type person. But I loved that about him. It pushed me into being a better me, kicking myself up a few notches. And i think it made him step back a little and chill sometimes. Even though i liked it, I think there is a fine line that can be crossed to where it is just not going to work for either one. But like some else said on there, I don't want to date someone just like me. That's what they mean when they say "other half"... not the same half. I think it would be boring. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 1:21:59 AM | I don't think I could date my opposite in terms of what we find important- beliefs, politics, core values etc. But!! The man I am with now (ty ty PoF!!) who I truly adore- and he reciprocates!!  - is the physical opposite of what I went for. I am tall- I liked 6 ft plus skinny slightly David Bowie types (before he got all establshment... grrr). Turns out I am totally delighted with my stocky muscular athlete who is exactly my height... He suits me physically as well as mentally. I think the old adage 'never say never' has a LOT of truth in it. An open mind is a wonderful thing! | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 2:53:09 AM | They just came out with a study about "opposites".
In the short term opposites may attract.
In the long term, they don't last.
So find someone like yourself and go for it. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 2:59:33 PM | You can be attracted to your opposite, but most relationship studies that have been out in the past few years, suggest that those types of relationships don't last. Too many differences, can start to create conflict. Having more in common, seems to help relationships last longer.
I know dating a complete opposite hasn't worked for me. Those tend to burn out, even if there was an initial attraction. We don't have to match in every single area, but I'd rather date someone I have more in common with, then less. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 3:47:31 PM | | I don't have a "type" so I can't figure out what would be an opposite to that. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 4:01:16 PM | | Was married to my opposite and will never get into another relationship with someone that is so opposite of me. It takes commonality to sustain a relationship. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:04:46 PM | | well for me it was opposite beliefs, she was a devout prespyterian and i follow more eastern philosophies, like budhism and that sort, it worked well for about a month but ended messily but not becuase of our religous beliefs. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 9:46:07 PM | Yes, we dated for 6 yrs. We had the same values and we never once had an arguement or raised our voices at each other. We were so much of being one...it was like we new each others thoughts.
He was very tall, workaholic, he came from substantial money/inheritance and wore expensive suits. Part of his college was spent on a cruise ship. Drove a red sports car, another equally expensive 4 door for business. Lived 2 blocks from the beach, played tennis, golf and stayed at 5 star hotels. I drove a p/u truck, camped, hiked, backpacked, did extreme personal challenges, worked at the beach on the wk-ends with pro-athletes. I could have cared less about money. His casual wear was expensive, I lived in shorts, tank tops, tennis shoes & pony tail. We never hung out with each others friends...I thought his were phoney, he thought mine were flakey. He drank wine and I did tequila shots. I learned alot about business and negotiating and maybe he learned not to take life too serious from me. I think it's about finding your balance with the other person. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 10:37:24 PM | | My name is george, I'm unemployed and I live with my parents. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/31/2009 4:13:58 AM | | I have dated all types outside my original preference for both looks and personality. Although I am flexible on looks I do not care for uptight personalities. I do like someone though who is moderately different from me as I like to be challenged on occasion to do better or try new things. For the most part I am quiet and enjoy being around out going people. Some things are just a nice mix. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/31/2009 8:03:31 AM | No I cant say I have , the person Im with must have the same interests as me or at least some of them .
And im usually only attracted to certain types /looks of people | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 5/31/2009 4:55:26 PM |
Have u ever met someone and he was your complete opposite of what u go for ? I recently met a guy who is completely opposite of what im attracted to but yet i find myself attracted to him in so many ways. He's charming, witty, sensitive, has tattooes which i dont care for and a few piercings. Just wanted to know if anyone else found themelves attracted to their complete opposite and whether they went for it anyways.
Yep... physically he fell within what I normally go for. Personality, complete opposite of me. Married him.....
.............................. and divorced him.
Not to say that will always happen.. I've seen couples (*my parents) who are as different as day and night. However they're celebrating 40 years this year.... so it obviously worked for them.
I figure if you feel an attraction, then go for it.
15 years younger? Be careful. Enjoy yourself but watch you don't end up just being someone to teach junior a few things. | |
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| Dating your opposite ?
Posted: 6/17/2009 9:06:20 AM |
15 years younger? Be careful. Enjoy yourself but watch you don't end up just being someone to teach junior a few things.
Well to be honest i think he'd be the one who would be teaching me a few things not the other way around hahaha.
Thanks to everyone who has posted here, sorry for not getting back sooner to check them and u all made good points. I do agree u have to have some things in common but what i meant by opposite is because of his tattoos but ive looked past that.
Ive also dated a man who was much heavier than i usually like and when i first met him i saw the weight at first but then the more i talked to him the more i found myself attracted to his charm and sense of humour. So i guess im not as shallow as i thought i was at least i dont think so.
Once again thanks to everyone for their posts.  | |
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