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Posted: 5/21/2009 5:43:45 PM | | would like some input to maybe help me understand why some people are impressed with the amount or lack of favourites on a profile ...and others seem to be offended and will leave a message that states so ...is it bad to have a large list ...should it matter ...thank you in advance for your comments ...David | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 5:56:04 PM | | If people have you added as favourite, how is that your fault? For what ever reason they like your profile/pic/whatever. Don't dwell on it, more favourites just means more people like your profile which is entirely irrelevant when meeting someone new. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 5:58:12 PM | | I have to agree with the above poster. I wouldn't worry about it. I don't know nor have I ever talked to half the people that have me on their favorites. I don't care. And the other half is friends and people I know outside of POF. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:02:13 PM | If a guy is on lots of people's favorites list, it usually means he frequently sends intelligent responses to the forums, and people have added him to read what he's got to say.
If a girl is on lots of favorites, it means she attracts stalkers! | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:28:21 PM | | Aw, gee thanks BandB, and here I thought I had some folks who thought I was kind and compassionate who chose me as a favorite. I have never understood why anyone really thinks about how many favorites chose to add to to their list. Shoot, if he chose me out of those 153 faves, I might feel special or maybe that he is a people person. I have as many or more females on both favorite lists, so the number tells you nothing. I like the Canadians, they seem to tell it like it is. Most of the folks on my favorites list are out of state people I like to talk to now and again. We have similar struggles or outlooks on life. Or I like to read their forum posts. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:31:48 PM | David, how can you have 152 favorites and no shirtless pics?
It does not compute.
Signed,
Befuddled | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:34:26 PM | Of all the topics that a person could talk about with you, they decide to send you an email complaining about your favorites list? I don't think you're missing anythng there. Sounds like an insecure nutbag.
Some people think that the number on your favorites list is the amount of people you're getting action from- so you must be full of coots.
Some also think that those are all the people you favorite- therefore you're a player.
Some people think if you have a lot of favorites, you get a lot of attention and so what's the point of emailing you because they will be ignored anyway.
There are people who will use this feature as a wink as well think you're being winked at too often. Again, they think you get too much attention for them to compete for you.
That's what I read here and there so far. Favorites don't really mean any of those things IMO. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:35:02 PM | | BeachDancer...as i was reading your reply it felt like the 3 of us (b&b you and i ) were sitting around a table having this discussion ...you speak from the heart and your reply answered my concerns ...thank you very much ...best to you ... | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:38:05 PM | | I tend to not pay much attention to the Favorites section. No one ever contacts me since I last checked. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 6:40:52 PM | i swear to god women should run the planet ...this is not to 'suck up' to females ...but the common sense intelligence in the answers you give reminds me so much of my mother ...i have been here about a year and this is about the 3rd time i think i have used the forums ...its a whole other side to pof ...thank you all...as for no shirtless pics ....im not that kind of guy lol | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 8:19:33 PM | It would suggest to me that you are desireable. Your profile doesn't give a lot of information so I would assume it was because of your correspondance.
It's a good thing. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 8:29:45 PM | We're glad you noticed! Takes one to know one, now doesn't it? 
but the common sense intelligence in the answers you give reminds me so much of my mother . | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 8:57:00 PM | I got 111. I had 112, but I just got p1ssed off at a lady and kicked her off. But it killed me to do it. Because the favourites thing is how I derive my self esteem. Because I got almost nothing else going for me.
I would trade them all. Right now. This minute. All 111... for a dry hump. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 9:14:41 PM | | we obviously do not pick our favs. but i do look at them. sometime surprised! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 8:37:28 AM | | When I view a profile, I HARDLY ever pay attention to fav counts. However, if you are receiving emails from people complaining about your fav count, those are just people with serious insecurities. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 10:00:20 AM | I never notice how many peope have added someone as a fav. Why would I care?
It would be far more telling to see how many people the profile Im interested had added to HIS fav list.
When I let my list get too big, all I ever got was nasty emails asking me why a woman with over 300 favs was still online. So I prune it down daily. I just got tired of men assuming I was dating heavily already...meanwhile 99% of the people who added me never wrote, or had such hideaous profiles I wouldnt have chatted with them anyways. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 10:39:05 AM | | Who cares the number of fav? It's just a number. To me, it's just people I talk to on POF. I probably wouldn't care if a girl I'm attracted to has a large number of favorites. It's more about the attraction for each other than a silly number. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2009 7:25:10 PM | Ha ha yeah sometimes Im tired. favorites might just mean how far away someone lives from my place. Even more stupid someplaces that I always miss the right streets I just never pick as a fav. there even more stupid they alternate when I have to do more driving . I must be getting ole because the stompin grounds change so fast.  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2009 9:08:48 PM | | Different people use this function of the POF website differently. Some "collect" favorites, some don't. Some ignore it alltogether. Some try to get your attentionn by favoriting you. I wound't draw any conclusion from it whatsoever. The only conclusion that I can be make about someone who was favorietd by like 500 people is he/she had been here for a couple of months at least. Me - I favorite guys who i would like to receive a message from. I don't initiate conversations, not because I'm shy but becaue I prefer for the guy to initiate. I don't like to be in masculine role when it comes to dating. I get enough of it at work - solving problems, handling minor disasters, coming up with solutions, talking assertively... But I digress... what was the subject? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 10:45:40 PM | I have to be completely honest here. I like to see that a man is on a few peoples favourite's list but I have to tell you that I have not contacted a man when he is on an enormous amount of favourite's list... why? Well... maybe feeling intimidated by the large number, maybe I am presumptuous that he must be a player or womanizer, maybe even my own feelings of insecurity. I am sure it is a mix of all of the above. I am not offended by a large number but it may stop me from contacting him. As I type my response to your original post I think... wow... that is unfortunate as maybe he has several interested parties but he is waiting for me (my interests / personality etc) but I am too intimidated to contact him... or maybe I am just being a hopeless corn on the cob romantic. Story of my life! At the end of the day it shouldn't matter how large of a list one has but it can stop someone who is interested from making the initial contact by presuming that the person has so many interested parties how can he possibly have time for another one. Sad actually! You have made me think about this and I Thank you for that! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 1:12:23 AM | It doesn't mean a thing to me one way or the other, except maybe you've been here long enough to make friends. People I add to my favorites are usually people who post something I liked or found funny, or someone with a great profile, or someone I talk to. Friends! A lot of whom are women.
I go through periodically and remove myself from people who add me to their favorites list and have never contacted me. If it ever got up into the hundreds, I probably wouldn't like it -- but that's just me.
If you enjoy being on a load of favorites lists, then don't worry about it. If you think it might be stopping women from contacting you, then go through and weed out some. | |
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