| I'm going to say a prayer
Posted: 5/21/2009 10:37:01 PM | I'll give you the short history first. I'm the 'nice guy'...and got used as a doormat. Dated a woman, made every mistake in the book with her regarding red flags. She's the serial dating type, and after we broke off she wanted to do the friend thing. I tried for several months (with my own secret agenda of getting her back, of course) while listening to her every emotional twist and turn in her life. I finally got tired of it, and told her no more.
Been doing good these last four months. No contact. But broke my own rule and visited her profile on another site this evening. Yep...she's in a relationship. Pow...bang...that fast.
There is a part of me that hurts. But there is also a part of me that is healing up and really wishes her well. Tonight...I'm going to say a prayer for her. She's been lucky to have a relationship last more than three months. I'm going to pray tonight that this is the right one for her.
Then I'm going to bang my head against the wall for breaking my own rules about no contact!!!
Just wanted to vent a little. Thanks for listening.
Paul ;) | |
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| I'm going to say a prayer
Posted: 5/21/2009 10:50:39 PM | | Waste of time, you know shes not even thinking about you. People like that get what they deserve eventually..namely some sort of STD. Karma sucks. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2009 11:01:16 PM | I know what u mean. I have been trying to do the no contact thing too. Then for no apparently reason i feel the need to punish myself and text. Knowing full well i'll be ignored.
Why i do i have no idea cause all it does is hurts me and puts me back to square one. | |
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| I'm going to say a prayer
Posted: 5/22/2009 12:03:02 AM | The pitiful thing is...
you were feeling sad and miserable, thinking about her, wanting her back...
and she was living her life and meeting new men and never thought about you at all.
And you're still doing it, wanting to pray for her.
You haven't disengaged.
Let it go. | |
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| I'm going to say a prayer
Posted: 5/22/2009 6:43:47 AM | Hey, pray for HIM too while you're at it. Sounds like the guy is going to need all the help he can get.
Don't forget to forgive yourself for your oversights. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 7:25:54 AM | | First remember that at the end of the day we are all human beings, just because a person is unstable does not mean they deserve to get an STD. We have choices to make about the people we date. They either work for us or don't. If one chooses to stay in an unhealthy relationship it is there CHOICE. We can't blame some one else for the bad treatment we except from them. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 7:49:00 AM | All,
Thanks for your comments to this point...
I wish her no ill will, and take responsibility for my own stupidity here. I've been doing good about this, but had a moment of weakness and slipped up last night. No...I didn't contact her, but I've always held the belief that viewing someone's web page / profile is just as bad. It's contact in one's own head...plain and simple.
We all have that 'one' that seems to turn our world upside down. This girl was my 'one', and is just taking a little longer to recover from than usual.
I've got some great books I'm reading to work on MY issues, and I get by with a little prayer and a little help from my friends ;)
Thanks!
Paul ;) | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 10:32:32 AM | | It's always harder when its with a person who you think to be, "the one". Her acting the way she is definately shows you, in fact, that she is not "the one". Just hope she has a nice life and move on. It helps to realize their faults as well, and what made you ticked off in the first place. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 1:26:41 PM | 'Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about those who don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.'
Live well. The best revenge is to live well, and get everything you ever wanted in life. Live well in spite of the people that crap in your Post Toasties. Live well, and be generous with the people that took from you. Let them understand their mistake, and be reminded of it as you live well while totally moving beyond them. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 5:44:17 PM | | Say a prayer for YOU, that you can let go of this woman. I hope you meet someone who will love you. You deserve better. | |
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| I'm going to say a prayer
Posted: 5/22/2009 7:29:49 PM | May be you should bang your head against the wall so that you will be calm enough to pray.
Hey call me - I'll do it with you!
............................and I am listening.
Tormented Bird. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 7:31:56 PM | | Sorry - I meant :May be you should bang your head against the wall FIRST so that you will be calm enough to pray. | |
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| I'm going to say a prayer
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:57:55 AM | | Don't forget to forgive yourself for your shortcomings while praying for the newest man and her. Seems to me that the no contact rule I have flubbed up on too. I know how you feel. Just move on is all you can do.......Have a good one! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 5:43:56 AM | Move on Move on Move on!
You're obviously a great guy!
Stop wasting your time dwelling on the past!!!
Best of luck!! | |
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