| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 5:54:30 AM | I'm a normal decent genuine guy trying to find someone for a possible long term relationship, i don't message people looking for sex or any other ulterior motive. To the best of my knowledge i have put up a decent photo and wrote quite a lot about myself as a person and a little about my life. I have not lied about myself but been truthfull in all aspects, and always ask the person i am emailing to read my profile and find out about me. I just don't seem to understand why nobody gets back to me, i'm just a normal honest, decent guy just trying to find a person to go with the flow with and see what happens. When i look at the selction of women who are also looking for a possible long term relationship with no nonsense from a guy, there seems to be a lot of numbers, but still I don't get any promising replies and just get deleted messages.
Can anyone help me out on this issue or matchmake to someone that would probably like me. I'm a reasonably attractive guy with a good heart but alas has london gone mad and every single woman in my age bracket just out for sex. Please advise, i would appreciate your view points on my issue.
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 6:02:20 AM | Online is a visual medium.
You have one pic, and it is very blurry. When I see that, I assume it's a fake profile. (Someone stole my pic once, and when they re-uploaded it, it became really blurry so when I see a blurry pic like that I always remember what mine looked like after it was stolen and uploaded here to a fake profile) Not saying yours is a fake, but some may think it is.
Get a few snap shots of you out and about, showing your body from head to toe. The ladies dont like to have to guess at what you look like...or risk being tricked into meeting a BBW if they are not into that.
Basically...if your Ad leaves women with more questions than answers, they wont bother. I should be able to look at an Ad and see the man fully standing, and a couple of clear face shots. I will not wait until we email back and forth and then ask for those pics. There are enough profiles here with the pics I want to see that I dont have to wait to see someone else's.
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 6:08:52 AM | Ok. Here we go again. If someone doesn't write back to you, it means she is not interested in you. She doesn't think you would be a good match.
Of course it is more fun when the people you write to are interested in you. But just because someone does not want to date you, it certainly does not mean that she is only interested in sex. This is not a world where all women have only 2 options: (1)sex or (2) you.
Think of it this way. How many profiles do you look through when you are looking through the ladies in your area? Let me imagine that you go through, say, 25. Then, when you have finished with your search you send a couple of emails. Ok. Great. So in this example, 2 out of 25 women caught your eye. You should expect women on here to be at least as selective as men, and probably more so because of the slightly skewed male-to-female ratio around here. So imagine that the women you write to are exactly as selective as you are. Then no more than about 2/25 men will catch her interest. Understand now? Relationships of any kind require two interested parties. This whole process is about finding that elusive overlapping mutual interest. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 7:01:48 AM | what do you email them about? I find it best to start out with something like gawd you're hot. I wanna do un-natural things to you. This approach is deadly only use it on those you really wanna see nekid, in fact tell them that also! If all else fails ask someone who has slept.
lotsa luck pal
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 1:11:32 PM |
Cool breeze in your hair? No man says that. 
Not unless he's eating a York Peppermint Patty at the time...
"When I eat a York Peppermint Patty, I get the sensation of a cool breeze blowing in my hair..."  | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 1:40:43 PM | OP Read the forums or change you username to "Redundant"
Even I am tired of this topic by know.
They need to set up a "Why nobody Emails Me" Secion like the "Review Profiles" section. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 1:46:49 PM | You need to learn how online dating works, OP. It is indeed all about the photos. If there is no attraction, then whats the point of giving you the time of day?
That may come off as shallow, but it's the truth. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 2:14:32 PM | Before responding to an e-mail I always look at the profile. I couldn't make myself read through more than 1/2 of the first line on your profile. It is not easy on the eyes. Try to use formating like insert an empty line here and there. Make your sentences short. I'm used to reading boring condenced information due to my profession but even for me your profile was harder than work.
It's not about how precisely you describe yourself. It's about how interesting you can make yourself look without, of course, being dishonest. For example, your opening line is your physical description... Unless you are particularly proud of it, there is no need to repeat it cause it is already listed.
I don't agree that it's all about your photo. Good picture is a plus, but if a man can't put together 2 coherent sentences then I don't think it will be fun to communicate with him on any level. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 3:21:54 PM | I agree if you even just say HI the nice thing would to be at least say hi back!
i reply to everyone even if dont think we would be a match ill say that i just wont ignore em its just rude!
and yes there are ALOT of shallow girls on here! | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 3:38:48 PM | ^^^"" That makes pefect sense. But they should at least say they not interested. It is a least the honorable thing to do""
Some woman opt to be a little less "honorable" to avoid the angry retorts and responses they get AFTER they send a rejection email.
Some men can get outright rude and derogatory, or they just don't take NO for an answer.
So to avoid the debating insults they just ignore.
I don't really care. If a man presses me for the truth I tell him. I usually am very kind in my replies but when someone wants to go toe to toe.. I will, and I shoot straight from the hip as to why I dont want to correspond. I always have a reason. I don't quite understand why they NEED to know.
If a man rejected me by ignoring me it is enough said. I don't need to know why he ignores me, I don't care. It's his loss.
I focus on the ones that pay attention to me and if there is that spark worth pursuing. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/22/2009 6:22:05 PM | has london gone mad and every single woman in my age bracket just out for sex
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I've just booked my flight! So...the problem is what?
I don't understand why they don't email me back either. I'm a decent guy, with a lousy job, and unnaturally short. All I got is my condo all paid for and a chip on my shoulder.
Wait! I know why I get no replies! It's because I never send out any emails. That will do it!
But at least they could be polite enough to write back and thank me for not pursuing them. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/23/2009 9:00:16 AM | quote] But at least they could be polite enough to write back and thank me for not pursuing them..
OP you are short for one thing. Go search "short men" in the handy search bar at the top of the forum and go read up on that subject. Although, if you have big balls to overcompensate for your stature, it might work. You can't be timid if you are petite or you will fail. Look at bodypro, he's got big balls and he knows how to use them to his advantage...or so I've heard. 
Another thing, self-proclaimed nice guys finish last. Are you searching out of your league? You have one blurry picture up. It won't matter how wonderful you are unless you get decent pictures up.
Online dating doesn't guarantee you will get a date. It's not a catalog where you get to pick and choose. Just because you like someone doesn't mean they have to like you back. There's no mail order dates on this site. If you want a guaranteed date, they have professionals for that type of thing called escorts. You pay for their time. They will smile and humor you and won't care what you look like. They might even have sex with you for a higher price. Love is only a money exchange away. | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/23/2009 9:22:20 AM |
That makes pefect sense. But they should at least say they not interested. It is a least the honorable thing to do
Except that having been on here a while, and talked with quite a few women, I know that quite often if they reply "sorry, not interested" - they are quite likely to get back nasty emails "that's ok, you're ugly anyways", "b**ch", or any number of other nasty comments. (oh yeah, from "self-proclaimed 'nice guys'" too). Some even do that and yet *still* try and email her back, or email nasty stuff multiple times to the point she blocks them. If you had that happen to you, multiple times, wouldn't you get tired of trying to "do the honorable thing" and figure its best just not to reply and let them "get the hint" you aren't interested? | |
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| I don't understand why nobody emails me back ?
Posted: 5/23/2009 9:45:10 AM | You say that you are different and unique, but there is nothing different or unique about your profile, except for your origins. Otherwise it is fairly generic. You begin with information we can already see from your pic and summary (height, build, hair color, complexion?)
Also, I agree with more and better pics!! | |
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