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Posted: 5/22/2009 1:17:46 PM | Each time something in our life ends, it creates room for a new experience. Within each new experience is a stepping-stone. Some are little tiny pebbles and others are big boulders. Some are fun and some are exhausting but with each passing day we learn why we are here, what our mission is and why different individuals come in and out of our lives.
Each time a relationship ends or we leave a relationship we must examine ourselves, our hearts, our souls. What brought us to this person to begin with? How did we attract them into our lives? How did they bring us into their reality and why?
Each step is part of the journey to going within and finding out who we really are, why we were brought here, and why we go through misery and pain sometimes.
We must first work on the inside and the outside will follow. Think about it? What is truly your life's mission? Do all that you can to create it. It's a journey… take the adventure.
You have gone through many rough periods in your life and many wonderful times too. You've helped people through their rough periods. You know what to do.
Focus on the solutions always. Stay focused on what you want, not what you don't want. You have hurt others as they did you. You are a spiritual being who has not yet come into her own.
You keep on getting right to the finish line and then you stop. Keep going this time, cross that line. You are deserving, capable and able. Sometimes if we just work on getting rid of anger, everything else will flow.
You are loved,. This is the beginning of a beautiful future filled with abundance. Someone loves you and
and will be there for you...always remember that. We are never alone! | |
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| Relationships
Posted: 5/23/2009 1:46:51 PM | It seems that the word 'relationship' is commonly linked to personal perceptions and memories of interactions and experiences, often between two people. Once anchored by a few interchanges, a relationship begins and in some ways remains in each of those people’s bank of experiences unless it gets burnt out in the brain by the trauma stress, anxiety, betrayal or abuse.
The idea that a relationship ends is misleading, as the energies created between the people reverberate out to others, and often become internalized in either or each person. Relationships are ever changing so problems arise for people who seek to 'control' or 'manipulate' activities, people, or relationships as just as the person starts to feel 'in control' things change....
We certainly are not alone! We must accept Einstein and Bohm's theories of relativity, and change our perception to eliminate the idea of alone-ness. By 'ending' or 'cutting off' or distancing painful experiences or distancing people whose activity triggers pain, we distance our opportunities to learn from our misunderstandings and pain by taking responsibility for our own participation in creating it, and focusing on the positions and activities instead of seeking to judge people's character or intentions.
Relationships based on agreement to maintain long term friendship are most likely to last. Friendship is built from honoring agreements and accepting most of the things one may not agree with, making boundaries to not participate in the unacceptable continuing at all times to seek natural compatibility, harmony and agreement.
Letting go of agendas and desires opens doors for understanding what was previously hidden, ignored or unrecognized. Attachment to outcomes has a way of clouding understanding, creating confusion.
Every misunderstanding and problem that was unresolved in a previous relationship is liable to resurface in the next relationship, so let's get together and develop a set of guidelines for healthy relationships based on taking time to review and reconcile differences, time to ask questions and not act from personal assumptions.
Meaningful experience grows in a responsive relationship, when each participant responds to their experiences and perceptions by using actions words and non-verbal messages. Reciprocal sharing is one of the most effective means of creating understanding from painful disputes and personal judgment
When a person fails to respond, this results in loss of potential to develop understanding needed for a continuing relationship. Trust can not be found with a person who responds erratically and rarely responds to outreach.
So often we fail to separate ‘short term’ interactions and ‘long term’ relationships, with interactions aligned with healthy practices and timeless principles….
Relationships can be risky at first, if one is not careful to understand the other’s actions and use of words, endlessly seeking a natural agreement and compatibility of common language and word meanings. Before I understand that other person, I must find integrity within myself, amongst my myriad of different personal experiences and perceptions From this personal integrity I can respond and assert my experience, interests and/or needs, if necessary. From this integrity I can seek understanding and agreement with another.
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