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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:08:49 PM | | ok so about 7 months ago i met this guy we will call him nick. and well me and nick hit it off and started dating. i fell head over heels in love with him. but we hit sum big bumps. my parents (cuz i live with them)wanted to meet him so i asked him and said yes, the day that he was suppose to come over he never showed and text me at midnight and said he got jumped and was in the hospital and he had a concusion. well the next day i went to see him and he seemed fine and wat not at one point he was being a dumbass so i had to test my theory and i smacked him in the back of the head nuthin. so i knew he was lying. he has ditched me many times and everytime we do hang out im not there for 10 mins and we end up having sex. he hasnt introduced me to ne of his family or met mine and i can only go over when his room mate is gone. he says he loves me and he has even stated he wants to start a family with me and get a place of are own. well one day he just disappeared he didnt call,text, im, for a week. i had no idea if he was ok i called local hospitals and police stations thinking sumthin happened. then i had text him and was just call me so i kno ur ok and he did but hung up when i anwered. so my friend suggested i go out on a date wit a guy she knows we will call him mike. well me and mike hit it off and he asked me to be his g/f and i said yes thinking me and nick were over. well mike has been the nicest guy and hes met my family and i have met his and we have a great time together and i love him. well now nick has reappeared and wants me to get a place with him. he tells me he loves and is willing to do ne thing to be with me he doesnt want to lose me and he has left me several voicemails of him crying. i love the new guy mike but i still have feelings for nick. mike has goals in his life hes very successful and so is his whole family, he is such a gentleman opens doors and pays for things (i always offer and sumtimes he lets me) he has bought me flowers and i absolutly adore him. nick has never taken me newhere or bought me ne thing he doesnt have a job or a car but wants to begin a life with me. i love nick alot!!!!! like i would like to start a family with him. so my heart belongs to 2 men and i want to choose mike and have still been seeing him. but late at night all i can think of is nick. should i stay with mike or go back to nick? am i just a booty call to nick or do u think he really loves me? | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:16:03 PM | Lol Typical Females always loves the ***holes. You certainly are a masochist lot. If you like the way nick treats you then go for him... However I personally like being treated nice So I would stick with Mike.... Hmmm that sounds funny. Anyways Mikes my choice hun.
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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:18:46 PM | Yes, go with Nick, get knocked up, get dumped, chase him for child support for the next 18 years.
Did you really have to ask the question. Of course Mike is the guy you should commit to. You say you like him and everything, he has his shit together.
But I can guess which one you will end up with, but do Mike a favor and don't call for him after you screw up your life with Nick.
PS. Most likely Nick reappeared for a reason, guessing he probably knocked up one of his other pin cushions. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:18:58 PM | Honestly, at the age of 20, I think you are too young to "start a life" with anybody.
I know, we all dream about getting married and having little ones...and living in the cute little house with the white picket fence. But you have plenty of time for that.
Focus on now. Focus on you. If Nick isn't treating you the way you feel you deserve to be treated, then move on. We don't always love the people that are good for us. But by not choosing Nick, that doesn't necessarily mean you have to choose Mike. If Mike isn't ringing your bell....then find somebody else. There are millions of men out there. These two men aren't your only options.
You're young. I know you don't want to hear that, but you are. You have MANY years to make life altering decisions. Don't force yourself to make a life altering decision right now.
And one other thing, I truly believe that if either of your men were "the one"....you wouldn't be questioning it. You would just know. There would be no doubts as to who to choose. Your heart would have already made that decision for you. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:22:41 PM | You are Nicks door mat. The next time you see him, just lay down and let him wipe his feet on you.
He probably disappears because he has a few other doormats just like you.
Nick is a door knob...Everybody gets a turn.
If your an idiot... you will slam the door on Mike.
I think Mike is the one that a doors you.  | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:44:41 PM | Honestly, Op, why does it matter if he loves you or not? It's not a fairy tale, where the music swells and the clouds part and the light comes through and good old Nick sees the errors of his ways. When you're 40, you can look back and say, "yeah, I loved this scoundrel once, this pirate of the seven seas," but at 40 you sure ain't gonna care if the guy was exciting or not. And everybody -- yes, everybody -- has at least this same conflict at some point ... everyone has "the one that got away."
The thing is, Nick is the kind of guy you would be happy if he got away. Let him go wreck someone else's life. And, it's not Nick versus Mike ... we all have that conflict (Sally versus Betty, whatever.) It's you versus you. Do what's best for yourself, nobody else. Cause, whatever guys come or go, it's yourself you wake up with yourself every morning. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 11:48:48 PM | | Nick is playing games gentleman are rare breed and mike sounds and hasnt let you down tell nick nope I'm giving mike and i a chance,you had yours................... | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 12:00:25 AM | | Way too much drama! Just call me amy sums it all up for ya. Focus on yourself, stay positive and good things will come your way. U don't need a man to make you happy, U need to make yourself happy 1st. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 12:07:35 AM | freakin' ridiculous.....you aren't making a decision at, you're just playing the field and rubbing up on any guy that pays you 10 minutes of attention, which is all it takes to get your panties off.
you don't love nick OR mike, you just crave attention, which is why you haven't made a decision. you're like a moth flickering between two porch lights, you don't know frick from frack from frankenstein.
i am sure if dork of doofus walked in the door and said he liked your derierre, you'd be forkin' dork like mindy did mork. Ten minutes later you're on POF claiming dork's your BFF...well FYI, STFU and GFY, or call mike and nick and frick and frack and get your crack filled like a duck shot with buckshot, 'cause every dumb buck is taking a shot and winning the prize at your booth.
Here's your course of action: GET ON BIRTH CONTROL and call back in 5 years. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 12:30:52 AM | Where do these incredibly stupid 20 somethings come from?
Are we so gone as a nation that what we have presented here is an honest to God moral dilema in life and not some sick internet joke?
Everytime one of these threads come up I'm less and less shocked that there are countless women on POF who haven't hit 30 yet and have squirted out 3 b*astard children by 2-3 men. Simplechick32 your heart doesn't belong to anyone, you coochie just tingles anytime someone pays attention to you without them being forced to ask "Do you want fries with that?". You obviously can't think as an adult and a rational human being if you love someone that never takes you anywhere, won't get a job, doesn't have a car and are thinking of starting a family with him.
You are yet another example of the endless parade of human debris that shuffles in and out of here asking the dumbest of questions on a daily basis. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 12:45:39 AM | You want to start something with someone that prolly isn't going to be anything?
I agree with Chill Pill on this one.
It sounds like you're interested in the single parent family kind of life.
Nick is just telling you whatever he has to, to get a piece. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 1:04:37 AM | He doesn't want you... he doesn't want anybody to know that he sees you, he lies to you, he stands you up, he disappears on you...
The other guy wants you, the other guy isn't afraid to be seen with you, the other guy wants to commit to a relationship and be there for you.
How about this scenario; have Nick's kid and then have Mike take care of you and your family. Human behavior and sexual fundamentals in action! Oh Yea! Way to be in control of yourself girl! | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 1:17:32 AM | | decisions..desisions............little girl......you need to stop seeing both..get yourself a place all by yourself and figure out who and what you are about.....to me you are playing both and loving it... and very lucky you haven't caught any diseases that could ruin your chance on someone that truly loves you. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 2:36:24 AM | Sweety, I read your profile and have to tell you, follow your dreams career wise. Get an education. Know why? Because then you will make much better choices for yourself and you'll be in a relationship because you want to be, not because you have to be.
There is no knight in shining armor that rides up and sweeps you away other than Sir Liealot. Rescue yourself.
Sure date Whatshisname, the guy who's nice to you, and tell the Jerkoff to do just that.
Don't get pregnant and understand that you deserve everything good in life, not what just appears in front of you.
Oh, and don't wait until things at home get any better, they won't.
All the best. Really.
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Posted: 5/23/2009 2:58:50 AM | Not to get off topic, but I'm new here and I'm curious to know why there are so many women replying to questions posted in the "Ask a GUY" forum?
Anyway, Simplechick32, consider giving yourself another 6 months to 12 years to decide. By then you'll meet Roger, and be glad you didn't choose either Mike or Nick. :) | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 4:55:55 AM | ^^^^^
HayRoller, women can post on the "Ask a Girl" forum and men can post on the "Ask a Guy" forum. The ONLY rule is that the OP in each forum must be the opposite sex. Subsequent posts can be from EITHER sex.
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Where do these incredibly stupid 20 somethings come from? Amen - I feel like I'm reading the teenage angst board out at Nickelodeon.com or something. Jesus.
I think the OP should concentrate on getting an actual education and forget the male loser parade she seems to be fixating on.
I can't imagine lowering myself for some loser by jumping into bed with him 10 minutes after he shows up at my house to 'gift' me with his presence. Pathetic. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 5:02:34 AM | Simplechick,
If you're really simple, and really tired of the games,
Why are you basically letting yourself be used as a f*cktoy and letting yourself get attached to anything with a penis that gives you attention.
Bad form. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 6:49:05 AM | Ok thanks. I now understand the rules, loud and clear. Obviously I spoke too soon. Forgive me everyone for being mislead by the forum title. I should have done my homework before opening my mouth. I will address this topic further in the site suggestions forum, where it clearly belongs.  | |
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Posted: 5/23/2009 2:36:36 PM | OP.. read post 6 and 15. These are your answers.
I think you need someone to talk to. Please try to get some therapy or at least some real WOMAN friends. You need a friend to straighten you out. Would you want to tell this bull shyt to your grandmother. Think about it. You have lost your self respect.
FIND A WOMAN to talk to.. one that has some experience and has learned some lessons along the way. Your green and your failing fast. Your going to pay some big big price eventually if you don't smarten up and get your act together with men..
It might not only be you sweetie, consider this little innocent child your dreaming about.
You need therapy,GO GET IT! | |
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